but i'm an asshole and pretty direct about my wants and needs. I don't veil much of anything. which does upset a lot of people who can't communicate effectively or directly. they tend to think i'm pretty evil with my 'hey can you do this thing' type of communication
Yeah a lot of online interaction is also just like... projection of the reader/viewer.
Can't agree with you that it's mundane here. I find a lot of spaces here to completely detached from any humanity or reality and a lot of the users here to believing in fictional worlds in their heads where they are the only good person who exists and it's everyone else that is evil.
But there are some pretty cool stuff that reminds me of early reddit where I had a lot of cool and educational interactions. Which sadly, stopped existing on reddit in the late 2010s as the site became systematically removed it's 'melting pot' aspects that I found so fruitful and positive.
good and evil are moral classifications of actions, mostly based on your frame of social reference. hence why murder is sometimes good and sometimes bad, and legally it has different degrees that make it more or less heinous, which comes with greater or lesser sentences.
it's that before the internet we largely weren't exposed to all sorts of people who were radically different than us on a regular basis. most of us were mostly exposed to people who were mostly similar to us.
and in real life, most folks are still mostly exposed to folks who are similar to them
just because it's their responsibility to manage it doesn't mean they can manager it. or their loved ones can.
do you think we should lock everyone up who is dealing with physical and mental problems that may overwhelm them? throw my dad in jail because what, he's in so much pain and depression that he can't think straight?
what about my mom who had dementia? oh right, well yeah we did put her in 'jail' in a full time care facility, but it also cost us $12,000/mo.
Oh that's easy dude. Everyone my entire life has told me lobster is amazing. I litereally had it last night again, but it tastes like nothing to me. It's just kinda rubbery and unpleasant, even soaked in butter. Still I never think about lobster or desire it or wonder about it. I just don't care. Other people are obsessed with it, and when we go otu to eat, I just order the fish, since I really like fish. And yeah, many people are assholes who tell me off that I'm 'messed up' for not liking lobster because it's the greatest most tasty thing ever.
I guess I don't get it. Media also basically tells us we all have to be rich, but I don't feel any compulsion about being rich.
Sex is nice but you're not missing anything. Most people who talk about sex like that are addicts and their entire life is about sex. Most folks only have a few sexual partners their entire life and sex is not a big deal for them.
True, a lot of people agonize about sex and money, but those people are miserable, you don't want to be like them.
In America we watch HR videos that basically say 'you can tell sally she has a nice skirt on today, but if you comment on her hair or tell her she is pretty you are sexually harassing her'
I did my HR re-training a few months ago. This is what it said. They have these strict guidelines on what speech is permissible between co-workers. My HR trailing is an hour long or so, and most of the time is spend on what qualifies as sexual harassment or hostile workplace conversation.
Because the companies don't want to be sued for sexual harassment. Which is precisely what Sally could do, if I told her she was pretty and HR didn't fire me. She could sue my company for a nice six figure settlement for creating a hostile work environment by allowing me to comment on her physical attractiveness.
There are also strict rules about what topics are appropriate for discussion.
This is how every USA workplace is. These rules also apply outside of work hours. If I go out with Sally after work, she also an sue the company if I make a pass at her at a bar, and they don't fire me for it. Even if Sally is into me, we date, and we disclose it to HR there are strict rules about what we can and can't say to each other at work. We can't talk about our relationship to together co-workers, for starters.
This is why nobody dates at work anymore. And the company actively disapproves of fraternization, because it introduces the risk of them getting sued when the relationship between two co-workers goes south.
Just because I try to be respectful and talk like an adult,
this literally implies that other folks talk like children and aren't respectful and then pushes back that I must be uncomfortable.
imply imply imply, never be honest or straightforward. argue in bad faith and then accuse the other person of doing so, etc. falsely report the other persons comments even though they are right there in front of you, and then backtrack your own claims when confronted.
It's fine, your in good company with most on people on this site. A total lack of self awareness and a strong sense of delusion in your own superiority based on 'knowledge' you don't really possess, but rather belief that you idealize. Because you feel a certain way, and you are the best, and it MUST be true. And if anyone questions you, they are questioning everything you believe in, so you take it personally.
No, it's because where I live owning things is considered bad and weird. You are supposed have a minimalist lifestyle and spend all your money traveling and going to restaurants, and what you do own has to be very expensive and exclusive. DVDs are cheap and gross.
It's not just the dvds, people think I'm weird for having pets, furniture, and other physical objects. There is a weird fetishization here for who like refuse to own anything that doesn't fit in a few suitcases. Probably because they constantly move. Like almost none of my nieghbors are the same, people live here for like 2-3 years and move mostly. So someone who has lived in the same place for 5+ years and is invested in the community and in their home, freaks them out.
because they are desirable.