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  • No shaming, fair question.

    From a societal ethics standpoint I don't see a reason why any decision in this would be reprehensible. Both seem like valid lines of thinking to me.

    If your social support is stable enough even without your partner, I think that's doable and might be fine.

    Now I'm also considering whether you are able to take care of an aging partner as well as a younger child or teenager which might be another thing worth considering.

    I think I personally would lean towards keeping the child but mind you I'm a 30 yo guy with no partner, so I have a very different perspective on this.

    Anyway I hope whatever decision you make, you will make it work.

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    How do you think Americans will react if USA drops a Nuke on Iran?

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  • American's reactions will range from despair to triumph. Most of them feel sad about it at the minimum. But I think they will be mainly responding to the state of affairs, after all a nuke just reflects the extreme voices currently in power in the US.

    I personally will grieve the world before the new nuke dropped. I would be scared of escalation and I would probably also get more radical in my beliefs. I would probably find fairly radical activist groups and join them and try to supply them with my time and knowledge as much as possible.

    Basically a nuke will change my methods. I will basically look at the current geopolitics as beyond repair and I will try my best to make my voice heard forcefully, so we can role the dice and hope for better leaders. Maybe I will have to donate my freedom.

    But until that part of me dies that still hopes we can get there with our current system, I will be a holdout and just make my vote count.

  • What are some small, everyday ways to become a kinder person?

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  • I have underlying issues that force me to sacrifice my mental health just to survive, and thus I lack the safety margin to be gentle to myself.

    I wanna get to a point where I can practice kindness on myself but I am not in a position where I can do so at this point.

  • What are some small, everyday ways to become a kinder person?

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  • Yeah if you say the exact same phrase to the same people. But if you're genuinely kind you adapt to the moment and then you stop sounding like a robot.

    And also this doesn't apply to service workers who I will probably come across a handful of times only. And to them it's probably more of an offset to the shitty experiences they had that day.

    TL;DR theoretically yes, practically no.

  • What are some small, everyday ways to become a kinder person?

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  • I wouldn't call it mindfulness because that has a weird spiritual undertone but I fully agree.

    I specifically wanna highlight that the most important actions of kindness are small things and whenever you remember to be kind you will automatically respond that way, because it will be your modus operandi in social interactions. It sounds cliche but the truth is if you prioritize it, it sticks in your mind and often those tiny interactions reflect what is important to you.

    That said of course this is not a substitute for taking the effort too. Sometimes it's annoying to say an extra phrase of kindness but it's important.

  • What are some small, everyday ways to become a kinder person?

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  • This is so hard. I am doing all the other stuff regularly but this one will always be my nemesis.

  • What are some small, everyday ways to become a kinder person?

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  • Ok I think people are not a bad person for not saying it but how does one even conceive that these words could be negative? Do the people who say this have some kind of superiority complex or are they trying to live out their dom fetish or something?

    I have never heard any worker from the service industry ever say they wanna hear less kind words. The fuck.

  • What is a psychological "cheat code" you use in everyday life that actually works?

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  • If someone is using rhetorical questions in a discussion, answer them earnestly. If you're not a prick about it it's a great way to defuse a heated debate sometimes.

  • To all the men here, are y'all satisfied with the male friendships y'all have in life?

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  • No

    But I'm doing fine work and giving it my best.

    Let me pat myself on the back instead of getting depressed about it for a change.

  • Amber Heard

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  • No, trusting the legal system would be reading "guilty" and stopping there.

    I have seen more than 200h of motions and trial live. I have also seen independent opinions. I have seen evidence. I have seen articles corroborating my conclusions. And ultimately I also have trust in the judge as well as the jurors who delivered this verdict (I think they were individually polled but I'm not sure).

    Rich would be to have such a minority opinion that you hold and asserting everyone should think like you.

    I don't, I think it's good that there's other opinions than mine. Doesn't mean I have to agree. But such is nuance.

  • Amber Heard

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  • Except he is not. Otherwise you disagree with a weeks long trial, an incredibly patient judge, a number of jurors, the alternates, most of the legal commentators, and basically most of the evidence.

  • Github confirms random 401 responses on unauthenticated git clones are no mistake

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  • Their SaaS is pretty good but of course you are running the same chain trust. You're betting that gitlab doesn't enshittify within the next 5 years which is hardly a guarantee.

    Self-hosting gitlab is very resource-intense and complex from what I tried, though I did only try it two or three times.

    I did set up forgejo which was way easier and less heavy but I haven't tested it much so who knows.

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    Anyone else skeptical of this news story? Before people say "you can drown in an inch of water!" yeah, if you're unconscious, but this story's really pushing believability.

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  • Is this a genuine question or a rhetorical one?

  • Shitpost like an Egyptian

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  • Not to be that guy but that's basically what most of the carvings in Pompeii are. Shitposts, making fun of people or dumb jokes. Pretty entertaining that people are historically whimsical.

  • Recommendations for Note taking app with simple needs

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  • Interesting, I might check that out.

  • Laravel keeps getting bigger and I'm not sure that's good

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  • yeah that's exactly where I am at.

    I wrote smaller webservers in nodejs, flask, Django, Laravel, PHP/Xampp, and even C.

    Xampp was hard, and modifying PHP files for other frameworks was difficult because it remains a very counter intuitive language for me, but in comparison Laravel was awful. It made absolutely no sense to me and that was about 5 years ago.

    I'd literally prefer writing a webserver in rust before I wanna take another shot at Laravel.

  • Being an open source maintainer in 2026

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  • Leslie Nielsen is an absolute legend as well.

  • Means to privately connect to my home server other than Tailscale?

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  • Does netbird run on wg on on ovpn as well? Maybe that's an option...

  • Olympian Jenny Simpson Reveals She’ll Never Run Again After Suffering Cardiac Arrest in Race

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  • Sounds sensible.