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Whats_your_reasoning

@ Whats_your_reasoning @lemmy.world

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Just like you, except different.

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    I am new here. Scared and Confused

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  • Three, the maturity level is higher here. Reddit is the big name so it has all the teens. Lemmy leans toward older, more technical, less popularity focused people. There’s still plenty of silliness, but it’s not usually the same kind seen elsewhere. It’s a good thing.

    This deserves a special highlight. The low-effort "insult-jokes" that get repeated on Reddit don't fly here. Attacking people instead of their message goes directly against some community rules (a lot have a sidebar rule of "be civil" and repeated offenses do result in bans.) If somebody leaves a nasty comment, don't engage - just click the button below their comment with three vertical dots, click "Create Report," and comment the number of the rule being broken. We're actively trying to avoid that particular aspect of Reddit toxicity here, so it's better to report and move on rather than get dragged into the mire yourself.

    Since we're a smaller community, your posts and comments are more likely to get responses here. You will eventually start to recognize some names popping up over and again due to this. If you felt trepidation from seeing that you have a response on Reddit, you may find it slowly fading while being here. It's really a breath of fresh air. I used to get anxious knowing I had responses on Reddit, knowing that 9 times out of 10 (pulling numbers out of my ass here) it would be someone coming in with an insult or a "gotcha." But here, it's usually a friendly response or a polite disagreement. The mods can be quick, too - one of the few times somebody replied to something of mine with a nasty comment, I never even saw it because the mods had already blocked the user by the time I checked my messages.

    Speaking of messages, it's important to note that due to the nature of the fediverse, they aren't truly "private." Not that they're being shared publicly, but rather that federation across instances means even your messages go across multiple servers, not just to your intended recipient. (I'm not an expert on this, but this is my understanding. Others might have more information on how this all works.) So it's smart to be careful what information you share, even in direct messages.

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  • Not everyone, but bit by bit the community could be built, just as it happened on Reddit. We already have the members of the Women's Stuff community to start with.

    I'm just not sure if Lemmy has private communities in the first place. I'm tech literate in the way all Millennials somewhat are, but by Lemmy standards I'm ignorant. I really don't know much about the ins and outs of making communities here. If even direct messages aren't truly private (by the nature of federation), I'm not sure if a private community is possible?

  • Then a drone collapses the waveform

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  • After which he went to hell and began a sexual relationship with Satan.

    Long story short, he eventually got sent to heaven to be tortured by Mormons.

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  • Not in my experience, nope. I've seen and made serious comments, I've seen and made joke comments, and haven't had any issue with either. I haven't witnessed any one upmanship either, and overall I feel like people here are less judgemental than on other sites. Users here seem more likely to recognize that we're all people behind screens, trying to contribute to a community, rather than targets for misplaced anger. Owning up to mistakes or being wrong seems to be met with understanding, provided that we do so in a civilized way. Overall, this place seems pretty chill compared to anywhere else online.

    At least, that's been my experience.

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  • The only thing I miss about Reddit was a secret women's only sub that you could only access by invitation. At one point I got invited and, my god, it was an amazing little space. I posted things there that would've been flooded by pervs if I'd posted them on the mainstream site. Like a picture of someone floating in bliss and saying something like, "How my boobs feel when I go swimming."

    The Women Only community here is good, but I really wish it were more private. Although I haven't seen as many guys getting weird about comments from my perspective on Lemmy as I did on Reddit, it would be wonderful to have an actual private space where we didn't have to worry about guys coming in, not reading the rules, and commenting anyway.

  • Extreme heat cancels extreme heat conference in London

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  • “… followed by a ‘fireside chat session where speakers will reflect on key challenges and opportunities for advancing extreme heat governance globally.’”

    A conference on extreme heat includes a “fireside chat.” I know what they mean, but it still seems an odd phrase to use, considering the topic.

  • I really don't get the anti AC fraction

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  • Interesting. I’ve never ridden in a tram, they don’t exist in the parts of the country I’ve lived in.

  • The job search

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  • Finland is the true MAGA-Fanboy of the EU

    I can see it. I mean, replace the knife with a gun and this guy looks angry enough to fit right in:

    [Source: Scandinavia and the World https://satwcomic.com/]

  • I really don't get the anti AC fraction

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  • Huh, I've never been in public transportation where opening a window was an option. All the trains and public buses I've been on (in the U.S.) have windows that are permanently shut.

  • What was your experience with cheating (romantic) like?

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  • I've never been a cheater, and as far as I know I haven't been cheated on. However, I did hook up with a guy who I later found out was married. Not only married, but he'd just had a baby with his wife. As soon as I learned that, I shut that shit down.

    He argued, "Just cuz I'm married doesn't mean I shouldn't have a little fun." Bruh, you're digging yourself a deeper hole. I brought up his infant daughter, and he gave no shits.

    Just when I thought he couldn't get slimier, he went and floated a fantasy of having both me and my mom (he knew her from a previous job.) Yeah. Seriously. I went zero contact from there.

    Dude still messages me out of the blue every few months despite me never responding. I wish I knew his wife's name and had a way to contact her, but in the meantime I haven't blocked him on the off chance I'll be able to share all his crap with her someday.

  • Dreamcatcher (2016-09-02)

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  • And artistic expression. There's no rule saying you can't both study law and enjoy music.

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  • I remember middle school computer class, using Mavis Beacon to learn to type. We had a list of game sites on the board that we were encouraged to check out if we finished our work early. Since we had to be quiet, my friends and I would go on Neopets and message each other from across the room.

    I also remember, after having completed the class, the school deciding to update their security and they banned all the sites that were on that board. Such a stupid decision, it's not like kids were on the computers at all unless they had their teachers' permission. There's no way it was interfering with anyone's class time.

    I have no idea what subsequent computer classes were to do in their downtime, but I imagine it became a lot harder to keep a class of 12 year olds sitting quietly.

  • Resistance is futile

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  • That billboard thing is so true. I've often thought, while driving, "Man, if I were so rich that money meant nothing, I'd buy up all these billboards and cover them with forest paintings." No words, nobody trying to sell anything to anyone. Just nature being peaceful.

    Also, digital billboards with their bright-ass screens need to die, like, yesterday. It's hard enough to preserve one's night vision with headlights the way they are, we don't need billboards beaming like the sun.

  • Which is worse: Friends or Seinfeld?

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  • I haven't watched The Beverly Hillbillies lately, but the nursing home I worked at had DVDs of I Love Lucy. It still holds up, in my opinion.

    As to classic, old shows that feel out of place today, I'd have to go with Looney Tunes and similar early cartoons. Even watching them as a kid, the violence and sexism felt really weird to me. A lot of the "humor" came from physical violence or cross-dressing honey pots, which felt tired, repetitive, and not funny to child-me.

    Then a lot of those old shows had stories that involved two male characters fighting over a female character. I remember thinking, "What is this? If two guys started a fist fight over me, I wouldn't swoon over the winner, I'd walk away from both of them for being violent at the drop of a hat."

  • Which is worse: Friends or Seinfeld?

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  • There's also The Contest, where the core group tried to see who could go the longest without masturbating.

    It sounds like a crass reference, but I remember it blowing my mind that they included Elaine in it. It was the first time I recall female masturbation being acknowledged on TV, let alone being acknowledged as equally compelling as male masturbation.

    Seinfeld - paving the way for female gooners everywhere.

  • The Dream (it's a documented phenomenon- look it up)

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  • What is the term we should be looking up?

  • The Dream (it's a documented phenomenon- look it up)

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  • I get the exact same dream sometimes. Often, the room in the house is one that never existed before. One time it was an attic loft accessed by a staircase that was hidden behind my childhood closet. The content is always the same though, just as you described - full of cool old stuff I feel nostalgic love for, whether it was actually mine at some point or not.

  • Half of parents report tracking their adult kids, and 1 in 4 trackers say it can increase their anxiety

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  • Anyone else remember when "helicopter parenting" was a bad thing? It's wild how society went from, "That's too overbearing, we need to give our kids space to grow independently" to "It's okay to track the location of our young adult offspring" in the span of a generation.

  • I'm have to get lost there so I can revive it again eventually!

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  • Kid, excitedly jumping around the room: "The floor is lava!"

    Parent: "You know, Billy, if the floor were really made of lava, jumping from furniture to furniture wouldn't really help you. The volcanic gases alone would be enough to suffocate you. The heat would be no picnic either. You'd be suffering in agony until your final, searing breath."

    Kid stops jumping and stares emptily off into the distance: "I ... I think I'm gonna go play alone in my room now."

  • She loves stealing my seat when I get up. I've nearly sat on her so many times.

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  • You are her personal seat-warmer. It is one of your many purposes as her owner slave. Every time you sit down, it's because you're doing your job of warming a piece of furniture for your cat to enjoy later. Honestly, it's kind of weird how you keep trying to go back to spots you've already warmed. Don't you get it? It's not cold yet, you don't need to come back to it. Now go get a treat for your master, I can hear her meowing.