and all of that is highly subjective and often argued from a complete ignorance of context and knowledge of the subject matter.
You know who tells me my hobbies and horrible and awful and evil and stupid? People who don't do them and who feel threatened by them, and think therefore they should not exist. And sometimes they go so far as to set traps with the intent to maim and harm others, because they think it's justified because their feelings and views that nobody should ever do this thing they don't like that is so disruptive and uncivilized.
It's super fun being lectured by some angry ignorant nitwit how awful and bad and harmful you are, when what you are doing is objectively good for you, your community, and the people around you. Even better when the write a editorial in the news paper how you are DESTROYING SOCIETY by riding your bicycle. And if you were DECENT HUMAN BEING you'd just get in a car and drive like EVERYONE ELSE.
It's not. I know female mountain bikers who can't use strava, because they got so sick of creepy weirdo dudes stalking them on strava and begging them for dates. That or they just set their account to private.
It's not a good way to meet people, by stalking them in online apps. But desperate idiots can't imagine there is any other way.
People like being offended and feeling victimized.
It's a rush and they get addicted to it.
I have a cat and a dog... and a lot of folks will just argue with me on principle or try to make me pick a side. even in real life. or like get in a big stink about if they are purebred or rescue. i have no clue why any of it matters, i guess other than their insecure need to feel validated by getting you to agree with them.
I hate it. It's so stupid and annoying. You can't just like things anymore... anything you enjoy has to 'hurt' someone else and they have to let you know how wrong and bad you are for enjoying it.
I like Cilantro, and I've had internet weirdos tell me that it's able-ist to enjoy it, because my enjoyment of it is some sort of racism against the people for whom it tastes like soap. Or like commentary made at me in the taco line when I order it how it's so gross. It's so ridiculous. I think Pinto beans are disgusting, but I don't feel offended and hurt that other people enjoy them.
people choose to be miserable by staying in those relationships.
they also choose to make those relationships miserable.
I'm single and what I notice is how many folks I meet... who are just like actively choosing to be miserable and convinced a marriage will make them more miserable but still actively want to get married. especially as I don't share that mentality.
and often these people text me after a date and tell me what a wonderful time they had... and I don't text them back.
don't worry, they will find a way to blame you and feel traumatized, specially now that trauma is a badge of honor.
I have met many 30 somethings who think thier parents 'traumatized' them by being good parents to them, or not 'good enough'. or who are convinced their parents ruined them because their parents gave them too much privilege... who fantasize about like having bad parents as if it would make them a better person... it's insane and wild.
also had people lecture me on how my parents, who were poor and uneducated, must have been amazing because their wealthy educated parents were awful and made their life too easy, and mine made my life difficult so they were really good parents...
mostly posted by the same handful of accounts. who are farming for engagement and clicks.
it is best to avoid it, or block the people who post it.
you can't convince someone who posts ragebait it isn't ragebait, because they believe it's legitimate, because in their mental world... well everything is ragebait. and their post history almost always... shows a nothing but ragebait posts and angry hostile comments pushing simplistic narratives where they are the sole force for good in the world.
making up years of bullshit and conning your entire company into wasting money on it justifies your role as a Very Smart Person
It's all about incentives. There is no social reward for learning an existing tool that works well. There is a large incentive toward bullshitting a minor inconvenience into a major problem and throwing money at it. especially when it can be 'measured' as a metric where the number goes up/down and that's Good.
And it's not just corporate. I ran a small volunteer business for years. and this mentality infested it and I quit because I could not tolerate the whiny bullshit from people who wanted to spend $2,000 to 'solve' issues rather than just learn shit and not be whiny and entitled. Also the same folks who needed to bring their politics into everything and let you know how 'good' and 'amazing' they are and if you disagree with them and their whiny stupid ways, you're a Bad Person. Also, THE NUMBER MUST ALWAYS GO UP OR WE ARE FAILING. In our case it was 'persons helped', we have to help more people or we a FAILURES. Can't have a sustained reliable operation... nope. In our case nitwits were arguing that we were 'oppressing' people if we weren't helping more of them... because THROUGHPUT is all that matters. Regardless of quality...
Group dynamics benefit stupid and manipulative people the most, hence why they so adamantly reinforce and push the stupid and manipulative stuff. And drive away independent and productive people who just want to get shit done, because those people are a threat to the whiny, lazy, entitled people. You will make them look bad.
Because why do work when you can bitch and whine about doing work shouldn't be necessary?
also we need team building exercises!!! and if you Just Do Your Job, you are also a bad person!!!
They call that Fight Buddism.
It's like Hot Yoga.