go away. you are a weirdo if you are reading this.
that assumes time with them isn't miserable and they aren't assholes.
not everyone has a positive social relationships.
I don't even mind the hours on tiktok... what bothers me is the fact they become depressed and anxious because of it, because they are constantly comparing themselves to the lifestyles of millionaire influencers and thinking that is how they should be living their life or their life isn't worth living..
almost every major big influencer/streamer comes from wealth, and pretends like they worked to get where they are... no they started there, and just decided to advertise it so they could con poor people into giving them more money, who want to live vicariously through them.
and every stupid streamer plays up that they are 'just a normal person'. They almost never are. The ones that are normal people... basically live in shitty houses in the middle of no where, they aren't traveling the globe.
the number of people who are addicted to gaming is 3.5%, of people who game.
the number of people who are alcoholics in the USA is 10%, among the entire population of the USA.
One of those is vastly more prevalent than the other.
I have played video games my entire life, and never once have they ever caused me to neglect anything in my life.
And yet, most every woman I have dated thinks playing video games is a disgusting gross embarrassing thing, like smoking. Even a few of them who liked to play games themselves.
It's stupid, and it's false. It's just a cultural stigma because 'cool' people don't play video games. Only 'losers' play them. And yet like 2/3 of the adult population plays them.
Even more weird when you think about 'watching tv' as an activity. People think you are weirdo if you don't watch TV, because it's so universally popular and has no negative stigma as being for socially undesirable people.
Some of us have dated dozens of people and never met one what enjoys or is OK with video games.
women who enjoy video games are not exactly abundant.
yeah, i have met women who make this a requirement to date them. it's not common but it exists.
you basically can't interact with any other women than your family. because so much as smiling at a woman cashier at the grocery store is cheating. it's really not about that though, it's about their need to control you to feel secure.
it also is almost always a double standard, because that rule doesn't apply to her talking to men.
Yep. I don't understand why people can't admit this stuff. Some people, many of them women, have an irrational negative view of video games, based on stigmatic beliefs that are objectively untrue.
You should have visited 10-15 years ago when It was a lot cooler.
Before all the bio/tech bros came and kicked out all the small businesses and diversity.
yep, been there. I had one ex crash out at me 6 months later, because they found out I had found someone else... while they were also dating someone else. Like we broke up in Sept than one random day in March I had multiple ranting voicemails that I woke up to one day about how I 'betrayed' her and how I had 'clearly never loved her'.
She was the one that initiated the breakup over an ultimatum, but her 'plan' was that I would come crawling back to her or something. Because it's only True Love if you're completely broken and subordinate to the other person, including abuse.
for some folks it means you can't have any other hobbies/friends/interests that dont include them.
this is called co-dependency.
I had a girlfriend once who basically would not let me leave the house without her, to like even go buy milk. she was so insecure she lacked object permanence. Of course, I didn't know this about her until we lived together. But basically after a few months we broke up because I was basically living with a toddler, and in her mind I was the abusive awful person, for thinking I could go leave the house for 5 minutes without her, and fi I wanted to like come home later and get some time alone, that was ABUSE.
Oh right, and she used to run every morning and if I was feeling sick or otherwise not up to running with her... I was ABUSING HER.
Her own parents tried to talk her down out of absurd was she was being, but she simple took that as me having manipulated her parents to my side... yeah... she was not well.
No, it's not.
I've had women bring this up to me. I was not neglecting them. They simple HATED video games and thought they were awful and terrible. They were a 'waste of time'. Meanwhile her scrolling on her phone hours a day is not.
Often it's because the other person is insecure and controlling and has double standards.
It doesn't matter though, you're still a massive asshole in the other person's mind.
Even if it's objectively something positive, like stopping drinking or other destructive behaviors.
People have to want to change themselves, if they don't, you're just being a dick. It's very different if your partner wants to change habits and lifestyle and asks for your assistance.
What blows my mind, is everytime I was issued one of these... it was from a person who was objectively like way worse or had way bigger issues than I did.
Like, yeah I have to stop playing video games, but you have to pay off your $50,000 in credit card debt.
And the reply was, no, you have to quit video games, so you can work more, and make more money and pay off my debt for me.
And naturally friends/family took her side, because I have the penis and it's my job to pay off her debts, or some bullshit.
anyway, good news is i'm single and financially secure, and happy, instead of together with someone being broke and miserable all the time and doesn't allow me to have any joy on my own.
yeah, it does feel aggressive when someone calls you out on your BS about how you are the sole arbiter of what is worthy and good for everyone else. it's almost like that's an arrogant and egotistical position.
yes, and we will complain to you that we can't do more expensive and frequent trips.
i got banned for posting a picture of my cat sitting on the porch.
it made me a bird mass murderer, or something. ban was for inciting violence.
it was in 2021. then i was unbanned a few months later with a DM begging me to buy IPO stock.
I like the stand ups that make the audience look like ignorant assholes.
yeah, she's a dumb bitch.
They call that Fight Buddism.
It's like Hot Yoga.
thanks bro. I needed a good 'fuck you' today. God bless, and fuck you too.
How is your mother doing?
down votes because armchair diagnosing people is an asshole move. it's shitty and awful and people need to stop doing it.
you cannot diagnose people based on internet comments. you know who diagnoses people? professional therapists and psychologists.
I was on a date last month with a woman who seemed nice, then she started armchair diagnosing me when I was talking about my hobbies. So I basically told her I had to go, because it was so incredibly rude and arrogant and I want nothing to do with someone uses therapy talk when they are not a professional. Not to mention, it's a violation of professional ethics for therapists to diagnoses people who they are in personal relationships with.
It's basically the equivalent of being like "oh I'm tired today", "Oh you must have cancer! let me tell you how you need to go on this diet to fight it!'