I can’t really help except by giving you sympathy.
What I would do is check the https://piefed.social/ toolbox.
It is not an add for piefed in any case, but if you go there with a computer browser (for screen size ratio), on the lower right corner there is an "anti-something toolbox" with useful links about various subjects and ways to handle those conversations. If you refresh the page the toolbox will refresh as well.
EDIT: It seems to have disappeared, I don't know why, sorry.

"Do I have to talk about the false pope?"
Holly fucking shit those people 🤦🏻