Recess. I can't nap, and am not hungry, but a break is always welcome.
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Absolutely not. There is one TV and it is in the living room. We actually have two 'living rooms' (spaces that are not bathroom, bedroom, or kitchen) and if it was up to me the TV would be in the secondary one, farthest from kitchen and bedroom. I do sometimes like to watch TV but don't want it in my face all the time, and think living room looks better without one. But everyone else wants it in the bigger living room, which also holds the kitchen.
I am from the US and went to England for school one year. In the lunch line here, if there is a choice, you ask for it and say thank you, like "Carrots and potatoes" then "thank you!". But in England they said no, that is rude. It's "carrots and potatoes, please." Then "thank you" when you get them. Needed both just to be minimally polite.
I AM polite with my kids, I model it but don't demand it really. They catch on fine. I have friends and relatives who made their kids "yes sir" and "yes ma'am" them. I don't think that's cool. I told my kids to ma'am and sir wait staff, cashiers and teachers but not family, it does seem almost cheeky, somehow, to be too polite with family.
Health, I would like health until I die (I suppose that's a limit in a way but I wouldn't want it to keep me alive forever. Just unlimited health for a lifetime)
Money would be the most useful I think. It would be so nice to never worry about it.
Cat yes, dog no. Dogs seem more comfortable with rules, and I don't like them in the bed. So I train them not to and we are both ok with that.
Cats I can't control, but they tuck in easily and don't take up much space, they are kinda relaxing to have in the bed.
Same rules for the couch. So relaxing to have a cat next to me, purring. Dog at feet, or sometimes we get a chair for them, so they can sit up high like us.
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Rainbows.
Radio. Radio is magic.
The only time I saw my kids afraid of me, I was glad of it, it was the younger two, they had been fighting with each other and called me at work to complain about each other and I told them I was coming home, by the time I got there they had decluttered the room and were sitting at the table across from each other, calmly.
I'm not sure what they thought was going to happen. But it made them stop fighting and work together.
In general they are not, certainly they tell me anything (stuff I would never have discussed with my mom) so I know they trust me, and I don't just love them I like them, and they seem to like me. It's sad when parents think respect comes from fear, it most certainly does not.
Anxiety does lie. I'm not saying your mom wouldn't hurt you, but you can't trust an anxious mind, it can distort things. The fear comes first then looks for a cause to pin it on.
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Showers, morning or night?
Night, to get into bed clean. I am a cool sleeper and live in a hot and steamy climate. Only shower in the morning if I need to wash my hair, so twice a week or so.
I am not at all nostalgic for high school, it was a nightmare. Don't know anyone in real life who thinks it was a good part of their life.
It's a common setting for stories from all over, though. Coming - of - age stories are eternally popular. And here, kids are in high school as they transition from child to adult, so that's where many of those stories are set.
I don't think I am, particularly. More like I am finally in a place where I can make principled choices - kids grown, stable living situation, working, feeling mentally settled, not as anxious or struggling as before. Like from this more privileged space I can avoid more of the bad choices that I might have made out of desperation.
Lemmy I just like because it's smaller and not corporate. Reddit was like that once too. I don't find it inconvenient to be on this platform.
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Oh how I hate the whole idea of detox and clean as it relates to nutrition. I worked at a health food store when I was young and while there was good nutritious food there, plenty of good people, the whole idea of 'clean' comes from a very dark place. I remember the raw foods guys and the idea of breathetarians. Like the less physical and embodied you were, the better person you were, enlightened. The idea of the physical world being unclean and something you should try to be free of, I hate it.
It really is more of a religious idea than anything to do with physical health. I think you have to enjoy being embodied, love the physical plane of existence, to have a healthy body. Not perfect.
ETA: OMG another comment reminded me. Also the colonics people trying to get literally clean inside, horrified at the stuff that came out of them, convinced it was toxic. I'm sure they are all dead by now.
I have a garden with vegetables, one with flowers, a few fruit trees and a maple, some elderberry trees. And a mowed space in front and in back. I guess technically it's a lawn but we don't water it or put any fertilizer or chemicals, just keep it mowed. We throw clover seeds out on bare patches but weeds mostly take over. It grows, we mow.
It doesn't last forever though - it breaks down, and gets mold. I cannot understand it at all. What a mess. Like landscape fabric. Something to enjoy for a year and regret for ten years afterwards as it breaks down and you keep finding bits of it.
Even in places that aren't as humid and alive as our subtropical steam room here, under ideal conditions maybe 10 year life on that plastic carpet of grass. All the time it's shedding plastic into the world.
My mom always just mowed whatever grew in the yard and called it "grass" and that's all I have ever done. Mow the weeds, who cares? They get nice flowers, the bees like them. Except bull thistle. We dug that up with prejudice before it could flower. But as far as lawn, that is just a mowed space where I grew up, and I did grow up in a suburb, though not a house farm sort of development, not an HOA situation. And it's just a mowed space where I live now too. Maybe 1 house in every 10 has the literal Grass Lawn, with the chemicals and monoculture. 9/10 have a mix of whatever.
I don't believe the UFO phenonena are demons but I do think modern people saying they are aliens is exactly as crazy as people of the past saying they are demons. The people of the future will have some other explanation and consider us idiots too.
Like, the past had a whole system and pantheon of angels and demons but have you ever looked at what the alien conspiracy theorists write about aliens? There's a whole system and pantheon they believe in too.
Not on Lemmy but I have found Bratabase to be a good resource. Really good measuring guides and pictures of different people in different sizes and bra models.
It depends on who is coming over, I more usually impress with cocktails & make food to satisfy people not impress them. Gumbo, I have had people say best they ever tasted. Lamb for my mother-in-law, slow cooked 4 hours in the oven with fennel and apricots and harissa. Sourdough baguette one year at Thanksgiving, those were chowed down on. Vegan kid is impressed when I nail a dessert for her. I do grow some of what we eat, feel like that is sort of impressive I guess.
But cocktails is where I get the most compliments - I made the
https://imbibemagazine.com/recipe/friend-zone-a-zero-proof-strawberry-drink/
With some really nice spiced strawberry fermented soda I made, with the goop from the strawberry syrup like she uses in the recipe, but also the tops and leaves. It doesn't even have alcohol, my heavy drinking ex brother outlaw could not understand how it could be so good. "What's in this?" "Tepache de fresa" "No, I mean what is the booze?" "None." "See, THAT is why you are the best. How is this so good?"
You have to know your audience to have it be well received. There's no one dish that is going to universally be magic.
If you are cooking for me, gumbo or a soup with an amazing broth. Or a really good sandwich. I love a good sandwich.
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I have kids & step kids and kids my husband previously adopted and they are intelligent in different ways. Only one had some developmental delays and is not, she struggles, the rest - 3 academic hyper achievers, quick thinking and quick at learning new things, all ended up scientists of some sort. Two who are hardworking and think they are not as smart but whenever they have to take a test they score in top 10% or so, those two ended up in military intelligence. Youngest kid still in school can see things in different ways - can find solutions or ideas none of us even think of, and though they ALSO don't think they are as smart as the others, I personally consider that to be very intelligent. One who was smart & frustrated, depressed, and no longer with us - saw too much I think but could not find hope. So different people are smart in different ways, and sometimes in ways that are not helpful to them.
If I had to choose one quality - it's humor. That ability to say just the right thing in the moment that is so funny. That quick wit is a good sign of intelligence.
Same age, same thoughts. The past was violent & sucky but it really felt like we were making progress, things were getting better. Some things have, there's a lot less violence where I live, and more to do, the city has progressed.
Honestly I think the slide started after Bush vs Gore, and very often wish I had been in the other timeline, where the votes got counted before he conceded, Gore seemed conceited but smart, geeky and took good ideas seriously.
I am kinda like this - I don't usually ask for things unless I NEED them. If it's just a request that a no is fine for, feel like I need to make that clear. Like if my hands are full, "could you open the door" but if I have a hand free but am wrangling the dog, "do you think you could open the door, I can if you can't, I just want Dog to sit while you go in and then while I go in" I do feel like I have to explain it's not a demand.