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RBWells

@ RBWells @lemmy.world

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  • Is it impolite to ask someone about their roots?

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  • When I was younger I got a lot of "what are you?" Well asked that way yeah, I think it's rude. Also, I really don't know, usually say mostly southern European because that I know about, and England if you go back far enough but everyone has so many ancestors at that point, it doesn't make sense really, I think you have to go pretty far back to get to any other country, I am from here.

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    What makes a vagina better than the penis?

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  • My youngest is a trans guy and one of the warnings on the paper from the endocrinologist said you may lose the ability to get off like a woman. I know that in both men & women T drives the sex drive, but there must be some interplay between all of the hormones. I have never been with a guy who seemed to FEEL as much as I do, though most seem to enjoy it as much. Menopause muted it a little but even now it's pretty intense.

  • What are your hot takes on food culture?

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  • It really depends on the cut. Some are buttery soft when rare and tough as nails well done, others are so very good cooked down for hours. I find that reverse sear or sous vide/sear are the only way I can please everyone in our household. Husband and youngest like medium well on all of them (husband can be convinced if it's the right cut) but youngest will cut it up & throw it on a pan lol ke fajita meat. Penultimate child & I like the ones that are best "cooked on the outside not the inside" but both of the kids do prefer the pot roast or stew meat above any sort of steak.

    We don't have beef often, so if I have time I do reverse sear.

  • What are you cooking #001

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  • Cheese biscuits if you have enough butter. Yum.

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    What makes a vagina better than the penis?

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  • I enjoy being in a female body so much! Don't think penis any more ridiculous looking than lady parts, so no advantage there. But we are the original design for a human, and I can always know my kids are mine. Can't imagine guys feel as much getting off as we do, think advantage goes to the vagina on that. Though it's more a package deal than strictly vagina related. Suppose it might be easier to smuggle drugs with more places to hide them.

    Should probably create an alt for this answer but fuck it. Threesomes are also much better as a vagina owner. Unless it's with 2 guys who are bi, every other sort of arrangement the advantage goes to the woman or women.

  • What's your favourite song lyrics?

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  • That question is too hard, so I will just answer with the latest lyrics I brought up to anyone - was listening to Iris by the Goo Goo Dolls, not a lyrical powerhouse. But the very beginning is one of the best beginnings -

    "And I'd give up forever to touch you" is such a strong opening.

    Usually for me it's more a combination of the lyrics and delivery, not just the words.

  • What's something that is more difficult than it seems?

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  • I have only ever seen one musician who could play the harmonica like a musical instrument. The guy from Sister Sparrow, Jackson Kincheloe. It was such a remarkable difference from the way I'd seen it played.

    ETA, if you don't mind a YouTube link, here he is.

    https://youtu.be/AKzGhLTMkd4

  • What's something that is more difficult than it seems?

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  • Most things. People underestimate the labor, time, complexity, obstacles that most jobs involve. We are wildly optimistic.

  • What are your hot takes on food culture?

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  • I like a small proportion of what I eat to be very very spicy. Not everything, and not every day. But sometimes it's exactly what I want and some foods are so good that way. Lots of other flavors are sort of learned too - wine, bitter greens, there are foods I tried every year until I could like them (mango and raw tomatoes, and wines, also Swiss cheese) and I am glad I did develop a palate for them. Spicy I've always liked, only one of my kids was like that but all of them like it now.

    I guess my hot take is that just because I like milk and/or sugar in coffee, doesn't mean I don't like coffee. Most people who like chocolate don't like unsweetened baking chocolate and nobody is gatekeeping that like they do with coffee.

  • Do people get progressively less happy as they age?

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  • No, for most people there is a low point in their midlife somewhere, then progressively happier once past that.

    I've never been as unhappy as an adult, as I was when a child. My least happy adult time was my 30s, and from there it's been all upward. I'm sure once I am old old there will be health shit to worry about, but for now it's easier to be happy than it was before, and I have seen research showing that is typical.

  • What is the fantasy book/series everyone should read?

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  • Such good recommendations so far. If you like comics, I will add:

    Saga

    Lucifer

    And since I don't see him mentioned here: anything by Ian McDonald is wonderful, and I like everything by Mike Carey too. Not swords & dragons but fantasy books.

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  • Yes, we have community radio here, and I listen & also contribute a little $ each month.

    ETA: there used to be one good commercial station too, alternative rock, but they got bought out by a bigger conglomerate and now are a Spanish station, and unfortunately not a Spanish alternative station, that would be awesome but no, just a pop station, a clone of the others we already had!

  • Recently started jogging 30 minutes twice a week. When does it stop feeling like I'm dying?

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  • I never got to the point that jogging felt good. But eventually what happened was that I'd feel better for the rest of the day on a day I ran, than on a day I did not run.

    Aerobic dance classes are enjoyable once my aerobic base develops but running is boring and a drag always.

  • What is a band or musician that you found out too late that they were actually really awesome?

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  • Hers

  • Straight people, would you date a non-binary person?

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  • I think I'm too old but my bi kids don't care and the trans (boy now) one has a girlfriend and the mom wouldn't let her stay over UNTIL she found out that the boyfriend was trans. Now she is allowed to stay over. I found that interesting.

    Brave new world.

    For me, non-binary partner would have to be both a male bodied person and one who enjoyed using their OEM equipment. As I am not bi. But beyond that - if they didn't feel male or female, not sure I would care. It hasn't come up so not sure.

  • Lesbians Like Me Joined Forces with Conservatives. Now They’re Turning on Us.

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  • State marriage, if available at all, needs to be available to any couple. Religious marriage doesn't. If I am a priest who wants to marry only straight people, only gay people, only groups of 3 or more, that should be fine and protected.

    But if the government wants to be in the business of establishing legal protection for family groups, it cannot be allowed to discriminate. Absolutely agree. It is not discrimination to disallow discrimination, no matter how they try to spin it.

    I would be fine with your idea, no more "legal marriage" just religious and no option to register it with the state.

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  • I just mean I know logically they aren't harmful but my mind cannot. I'm not scared of spiders or lizards or snakes but those overgrown roaches strike absolute terror into my heart since I was little. I am so sorry you experienced that. I've had them fly at me.

    So few of them around now, and my logical & rational fear is that is a bad sign for the world. But it has been amazing to be able to work in the yard without the constant fear of picking up a brick or stone, they used to come out from under every single upturned stone.

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  • Palmetto bugs.

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    I feel the same about jazz

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  • I hate the noodly introspective jazz. But cannonball Adderley Mercy Mercy, and Kamasi Washington Cherokee, so good.