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Perspectivist

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Freedom is the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.

  • George Orwell

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  • Interesting approach. I hadn't considered this one before. Thanks!

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  • Please read my other replies. This has absolutely nothing to do with jealousity or anti-porn attitudes.

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  • I think I’ve heard addiction described somewhere as a behavior you keep doing even when you stop getting the good feeling from it, so yes - I’d say it’s definitely an addiction/compulsion.

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  • What I believe excessive porn use has done to me is that sex has become uninteresting even when it’s available, and I also have physical problems performing when I “force” myself to it. These bad experiences then further reinforce my negative associations with sex, which in turn makes me even less interested in trying the next time. I don’t feel that “mundane arousal” throughout the day - I don’t even know what it means to be horny without physical stimulation. I’ve always felt this way, but it has gotten worse over time (I’m in my mid-thirties now). I can’t know for sure whether it’s all due to porn or if porn just makes it worse, since my porn use preceded my first sexual experiences with another person. If it’s something I was born with, then there’s simply no fixing it even if I cut out porn entirely, but since I can’t know that, I don’t see any other way forward than to try and change the things I can change and see if there’s any improvement.

    And I just want to highlight that when I say excessive porn use, I really mean it. I can literally waste 8 to 12 hours on it and then do the same again the next day. Even if I watched porn for an hour every single day it would still be a massive improvement (but I’m intending to do better than that).

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  • Probably so. As with anything, the dose makes the poison.

    It’s not that I don’t have other interests or things to do. I think porn (and weed) are ways to escape uncomfortable feelings in my life rather than dealing with them. It also kind of numbs me or makes me lethargic/passive, since I go for the quick and easy reward for low effort rather than the other way around. I don’t even get the same enjoyment from it as I used to, so I just keep upping the dose hoping for the same reward, but I don’t get it - yet I keep doing it.

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  • I don't disagree but that simply doesn't feel like a realistic option for me. It's either way too expensive or too hard to get into.

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  • Being conscious of your reasons and motivations can make it a postive step

    That's kind of the point why I made this thread. At this point the upsides are mostly hypothetical. I have good reason to believe there are positive changes down the road but I lack the evidence and that competes with a fatalistic view that I was "born this way" or that I've permanently damaged myself through decades of increasingly excessive porn use. I get that too much is too much, and there's obviously no downside to cutting back other than how difficult it is, but when the tough times hit it would be reassuring to know there's light at the end of the tunnel.

  • Does anyone actually take into account "IP Rating"/"Water Resistance" when they buy phones?

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  • Well, that depends on the culture where you live, but at least here in Finland - the sauna capital of the world - it’s perfectly fine. In fact, Finns in general are quite introverted and don’t talk much, but in the sauna you don’t only undress your clothes, you undress titles as well. Everyone is equal there, which makes people more open to starting conversations with strangers. In the past, it was even a place where many political decisions were made.

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  • Sauna is a place where you either chat with other people or sit with your thoughts. It's blasphemy to bring your phone in there.

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  • Has removable battery and a headphone jack.

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  • Allegedly so. Looking at that rubber seal behind the flimsy back cover doesn't inspire much confidence however so I'll keep treating it as if that rating doesn't exist.

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  • XCover 6 Pro

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  • No. If I add any more requirements for what I need from a phone I'll go from 1 option to zero.

  • What is your most "Fuck you, this is actually awesome?" take?

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  • Well, I've atleast got the two seater with a long bed so it's barely adequate for what I need it for at work. It's undeniable that a similar size Vivaro or Transporter would be more practical but I'm willing to trade some of that for a fun truck.

  • What do you think about partying with rich people and calling the cops on them when you see illicit drug use?

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  • Sounds quite petty.

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  • My apologies for not consulting your opinion when building out my truck.

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  • The number one reason I went with a pickup over a van is that it just looks way better. Vans are boring. But also that my pickup has a 4WD, low-range gear box and a diff lock which vans don't. It also has a camper shell on it so stuff on the bed stays dry too.

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  • I think those huge American trucks are cool too, but the size is more of an inconvenience than it’s worth, and they stand out and draw too much attention - which is a big reason I didn’t get one. I’m honestly surprised by how much attention even my ’07 mid-size Nissan gets, but luckily it’s all been positive.

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  • Why does that matter though? A van is just as big and heavy with even worse visibility around you.