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Willingness to be the parent you needed growing up, but also be able to really reflect on the job you're doing, and make sure you're not somehow projecting your own bullshit on to your relationship with your child.

Willingness to give yourself some grace when you can't always be the parent you wish you could be, but along with accepting that you're only human, accepting accountability and acknowledging when things go wrong.

Be willing to apologize to your child/acknowledge when you mess up, and remember that they learn how to resolves conflict and handle the mistakes they make by watching how you handle yours. If you were in the wrong, don't just convince yourself that you get a pass for being human/being the "adult" in charge. Talk to your child about what happened.

I also feel like it's very important in general not to try to hide reality from kids. You have to have the difficult conversations, and not just the birds and the bees. (That's actually the easier side of the "difficult to talk about" spectrum).

You need to talk to your kids when people they love get sick, when people lose their jobs and are under stress, when money is tight. There are certainly different ways you have to handle explaining situations to a kid vs an adult, but it's such a terrible idea to just plaster on a smile, sweep things under a rug to buy yourself time, and pretend everything is ok when your kid can clearly tell something is wrong.

When you refuse to communicate anything about what's really going on, you leave people (both adults and kids) with no choice but to come up with their own explanations. Often kids just default to blaming themselves, and your attempt to protect/shield them from reality only ends up doing more harm.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 5mo ago

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Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 5mo ago

I was under them impression that just using the internet in America might subject you to domestic surveillance.

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Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 5mo ago

It's a tricky balance. You have to learn to let yourself trust and rely on others, but also understand it's a gamble.

Be ready for the possibility that you may end up having to pick yourself up if they let you fall. It's not necessarily because people don't want to do the right thing. They're only human.

You've almost certainly let somebody down at some point. As long as you didn't set out with the intention of hurting the other person, it's nothing to be ashamed of. That's just life.

You have to learn to give yourself and others grace when it's deserved, and accept that sometimes it's not deserved. You have to learn to be vulnerable, but also learn to be resilient. Refusing to take the risk just because you're afraid of being let down or letting others down, is a guaranteed way to be lonely.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

America may run on Dunkin, but your boyfriend looks like he's excited to get hopped up...

...I apologize. I'm going through some things. I'll just show myself out back and finish the job.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

Best is either Rear Window or Psycho. Worst is Marnie. But it's so over the top bad it's kinda funny.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

I worked at a TCBY right after I graduated from h.s. I insisted on wearing checkered vans even though they had no support and no traction. People tried to warn me not to but I didn't listen. One night I was working by myself and the store got absolutely slammed after a football game ended.

I was running all over the place and at one point had to refill one of the yogurt machines. Before it freezes it's just a really thick liquid, and as I was speed walking back to the front clutching a giant bag of liquid yogurt in my arms, my vans slipped. I squeezed the yogurt bag in a hug as I went down, and a sea of yogurt spread out across the floor like an oil leak. Then I ended up slipping in the yogurt, screaming in surprise, twisting my knee and finally landing on my ass.

I started crying mainly bc my knee hurt so bad, but also because it was embarrassing as fuck. I slowly got up and limped to the back to get a mop covered in goo, and when I came back out everybody started clapping for me. Not even in a mean sarcastic way, just bc they felt bad for me. It was so sad and pathetic lol. I did get a lot more tips than usual though.

Similar incident ~10 years later. I was working in a lab and somebody asked me to refill this giant 20 gallon carboy full of 95% ethanol. I should have asked for help to move it off of the cart it was on, but it was the last thing I needed to do for the day and I was in a rush to leave.

I started to lift it, but of course I dropped it and the spigot broke off. The ethanol started pouring out and flooding the room while I struggled unsuccessfully to plug the hole. I ended up soaked, and the mess was so bad it flooded the floor, went under the door, and formed a giant puddle of ethanol in the hallway outside.

I could hear people outside the door saying things like "Oh my God, what happened?!" I was trying to clean up the mess inside the room and hoping they would just go away so I could eventually clean up the hall. Instead they just started alerting more people to come and see the mess.

The door was locked, but eventually somebody got one of the custodians to come unlock it. When it opened I was just standing there, soaked in ethanol in the flooded room and surrounded by stacks and stacks of completely saturated paper towels that I had thrown all over the floor, but weren't nearly enough.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth, hosting his first monthly Christian worship service at the Pentagon since the Iran war began, prayed Wednesday to have “every round find its mark.”

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

When people admit to being wrong or can laugh at themselves/give others grace for doing something stupid, instead of getting super defensive or nitpicky about it (which is not an easy thing for humans to do) I'm always left with a sense of admiration.

Like we always grow up hearing about how everybody is smart/talented in their own way. To an extent, I honestly believe that's true.

But I also believe the reverse is true. We're all very dumb in our own unique way. That's not to say there aren't general levels of intelligence and stupidity, or that anything is predetermined. Just that you would have to be pretty stupid to believe you're exceptionally talented or gifted in every possible way.

It's not easy to accept about ourselves, but most people seem to understand that, at least to some extent. There are some very special people that seem determined to dedicate their lives making sure there can be no doubt about their capabilities and skills, whether it's intellect in the traditional sense or anything else.

Behind Kim Jong Il’s Famous Round of Golf

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Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

Don't have a subscription, but just made me realize how much more convenient it would be to just have the option to purchase a single article vs a 6 month subscription.

Obviously no paywall would be preferable but there are times when I would actually pay a small amount for the article. Especially for smaller publications.

Does anybody offer that? Seems kinda crazy that news seems to be getting increasingly paywall crazy without even offering the option.

Maybe I'm just not remembering correctly but I feel like it's always a "view this article and more by subscribing" paywall popup

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Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

https://www.walmart.com/ip/VacLife-Handheld-Vacuum-Car-Vacuum-Cleaner-Cordless-Mini-Portable-Rechargeable-Vacuum-Cleaner-with-2-Filters-Orange-VL189/5449496951

I've had this vacuum for a few years. Can't remember how much we paid for it originally but it's currently $22.

We have a shared hand held vac at work that's a very expensive name brand, and when I have to use it, I always find myself surprised at how much better this one is.

It's got more attachable parts, fits better into tight spaces, and it's got a little flashlight to help you see if you're actually getting everything from dark corners.

Also the filters are washable, so you don't have to buy replacements.

I feel like the battery might not be super great, but I just try to keep it charging when not in use. Other than that, no complaints.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

Physiologically, rats can't vomit. (Not to brag or anything, but I also know somebody who claims they saw it happen once)

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

This feels like one of those fun facts that theatres would have on screen with cheesy background music if you showed up to a movie too early

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

They were roommates

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

True, but honestly I'm not sure if it's moral or if it even really makes any sense to lock people up for nonviolent crime anyway.

In the case of this lady, if she did murder her husband, unless there was some kind of abuse going on, don't really have a lot of sympathy.

Basic Glitch @sh.itjust.works 6mo ago

Glass half full, I've heard rumors that if we get sent to Shartlesville they might let us take day trips to the Blue Bargain Barn for good behavior...