It's difficult to do polling and social science well. The kind of answers you want cost a lot of money to obtain. Aside from that, conservatives don't like to admit that they lost publicly or... anywhere else, often not even to themselves.
We can’t use this emotionally inflammatory rhetoric, because it’s what the right thrives on.
The right will make up its own inflammatory fantasies if there are none, just like it makes up stories about immigrants eating pets. It happens either way. Stop letting them control your strategies, it's EXTREMELY UNWISE.