Skip Navigation

InitialsDiceBearhttps://github.com/dicebear/dicebearhttps://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/„Initials” (https://github.com/dicebear/dicebear) by „DiceBear”, licensed under „CC0 1.0” (https://creativecommons.org/publicdomain/zero/1.0/)N

nicgentile

@ nicgentile @lemmy.world

Posts
11
Comments
96
Joined
2 yr. ago

  • Laravel keeps getting bigger and I'm not sure that's good

    Jump

  • When I was doing this project, and I was doing a presentation for the client, the client looked at me like WTF is this mess. And it was. I scratched it, restarted, kept it tighter, it was more tedious, but finally we are in beta testing. I did not appreciate this experience, and afterwards, I looked at everything and decided I was done with PHP.

  • Laravel keeps getting bigger and I'm not sure that's good

    Jump

  • After years of PHP, I saw myself learning new concepts and decided if I was going to expand my horizons, it was going to be with Python. I am currently testing my very last PHP/Laravel project for a client. After this, I do Python and not much else. If Django decides I am going to swim to the bottom of the Marianas, then that is exactly what we are going to do.

  • Acting Attorney General Todd Blanche issues order rescinding "anti-weaponization fund"

    Jump

  • Because he pinky promised and didn't have his fingers crossed.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • From what I've experienced, I'd say being with the kids has been far more easier. I don't have limited experience with difficult people, I have a crap load of experience dealing with difficult people. I've lived that life, and I am not going back. Yes, I get that kids would not be a "divorce" away, and I am ok with that. I was a kid too, and maybe I've been an asshole, but I have never woken up intending to hurt or trick someone. Neither do these kids so far, outside of trying to get candy and going for movie nights.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I'm not being unreasonable, but here we are, so let me make this easy.

    moving to California... coming to an end...

    The guardianship is ending cause the legal processes around the welfare of the children is coming to an end, around the time my legal issue is expected to end. Two separate legal processes. The children are my niece and two nephews. However, remember that all I wanted to know was how this process of becoming a dad with a donor situation could potentially work. I did not expect this would morph into all of this.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Turning 45. I used to avoid the dishwasher like the plague, now, its the last thing I do before I go to sleep. I can't imagine dirty dishes around me, a far cry from me and roaches not too long ago. I would ask for you to attempt fostering. It heals people. Its the best therapy you can get.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Its weird, because yes, my headspace has been forced to improve. I have grown up in ways I can't explain. Having them forced me to reevaluate myself, cleaned up my diet, stopped drinking, lost about 55 pounds, started working steadily, dealt and is still confronting my legal stuff that I run away from for long, just major improvements, and I became a better version of myself. I'm not doing this because of emotional attachment, but because the better version of me wants to be a dad. Its as simple as that. A lot of people here have judged me in ways I can't even begin to explain, but it is the internet so, no surprises there. Nonetheless, this is the next step in my life I am excited to embrace. If I am going to put effort in any form of a familial relationship, then kids all the way, raise them, educate them, hopefully be a better role model than I got, and be a better man.

    Thanks for the best wishes.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I am a guardian. That arrangement is coming to an end. It was meant to be temporary, and that is now happening. I am moving to a different state across the country once that comes to an end. This is what I am thinking after ending this part of my life. I hope you explore the rest of the post to learn more.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I think you need to read through the rest of the posts. You are missing quite a bit.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I'm raising a 13 yr old girl, a 12 yr old boy and a 9 yr old boy. I've been with them on/off since all of them were in diapers, and I've been full contact with them going 4 years now. We are doing good.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I'm already raising 3 kids.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I get where kids come from. I've been raising 3 for the last couple of years. I also get where grownups come from. Its the intent. Kids say hurtful things and lash out, I've dealt with that. Grownups should know better than shit on a compliment, or suck someone down with their crap, or be unfaithful. Past the age of majority, yeah, you should own and carry your bag. Excuses should be out of the window. Oh, and if you read my previous post, those were 3 exes, not 1.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Thanks. I hope to do this in California if my plans come to fruition. Raising these kids, yeah, I've learnt a lot about them, and myself. I'm terribly far from being perfect with them, but as you mentioned, reading to them, loving them and eating with them happens pretty often and works. Once they feel safe, are well fed and nurtured, and entertained, they are pretty cool kids.

    I have been thinking about this for two years, but I was pretty scared to go beyond thinking because in my own society, there is social stigma around this. But I'm done with all that. I will be judged for being single, I will be judged for being a single father, I will be judged for being a divorced father, I will always be judged. I'm over that. I just want my life, and a family, and if this is how it happens, so be it.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Thanks. If all goes as I hope, I will be moving to California next summer which is when I intend to pursue this.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Example conversation

    Me to my niece: I like the little bow on your hair.

    My niece: Thanks uncle N. I want a pink one for my birthday. Don't forget.

    Me to my ex: I like the little bow on your hair.

    My ex: What are you trying to say? I'm a slut? Fuck you. Who do you think you are talking to?

    No, I am not kidding. She had a complicated relationship with herself, alcohol, her employer and her landlord. The previous one cheated and got pregnant, other one enabled my terrible habits and left me after I went sober and clean. I'm not expecting the exact same response but getting insulted for complimenting someone is a pain. Maybe its my choice of people, maybe its something I do or say, but I know what is working for me, hence how we got here.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I wanted to be a husband and a full time dad. I've tried step 1 and it did not go well. Does that mean I don't qualify for step 2? Also, there are kids who wake up in a two parent home and end up in a single parent home, or in the foster system, or homeless. Doesn't always work out as one intends, best foot forward is the next best alternate in my books.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Yeah, I expect something like that.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • I'm already helping raise 3 kids and have been doing so for years. My dynamic is changing, and since I'm going solo, this is one future I want to explore and try make happen.

    I also did the soccer team thing, we never won a single game this season, dang. Cleats and shinguards for growing kids pile up quick.

  • What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

    Jump

  • Probable. Likely.

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    What is the process of becoming a father minus a partner?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    Can anyone name a solid price equivalent provider to Namecheap?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    If you could become a character and enter any universe and that becomes your permanent life what universe would you pick?

  • Selfhosted @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    Looking for near equivalent alternatives

  • Open Source @lemmy.ml
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    Is it me or are many freemium applications masquerading as opensource applications?

  • Asklemmy @lemmy.ml
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    Do you or don't you believe in comeuppance? If so why or why not?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    You are the badass hero. You are about to detonate a bomb that will kill you, destroy the enemy and save humanity. What is your last badass quote?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    What popular TV show did not do it for you and you quit watching?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    What hyped thing did you fall for that you now regret and have to live with?

  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    What car do you drive and why?

  • Selfhosted @lemmy.world
    nicgentile @lemmy.world

    Can anyone recommend an alternative to Grav?