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  • My parents are difficult. Not the worst people and not monsters, but at many times unpleasant.

    Plus it was a house in the suburbs. Not ideal for socializing or culture.

    And lastly, living with parents in the suburbs would be huge negatives for dating.

  • Turns Out There Was Voter Fraud in Georgia—by Elon Musk

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  • All it takes is one cop to be like "he was resisting arrest and I feared for my life so I had to shoot him 17 times in the back".

  • Jack Dorsey's New Company Falling Apart as It Forces Employees to Use AI

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  • “Top-down mandates to use large language models are crazy,” one employee told Wired. “If the tool were good, we’d all just use it.”

    Yep.

    Management is often out of touch and full of shit

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  • I don't like to think of people as immutably good or bad, but I get what you meant.

    There's a bunch of factors.

    • are they honest?
    • are they kind?
    • do they care about things other than themselves?
    • do they try to make the world better?

    So, someone who lies, is cruel, doesn't care about anyone else, and leaves the world a mess is being a pretty bad person.

    Someone who just keeps their head down, goes to work, and is polite to people they meet is kind of middling.

  • What’s your favorite sad song?

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  • This was a favorite for a long time, by the high water marks: https://thehighwatermarks.bandcamp.com/track/suicide

    It feels like suicide or something worse

    I've got this curse on me

    It seems I only dream about the things

    that shouldn't come to be

    always I try to find a way it feels

    it seems to real to me

    I just can't let it go

    I'll let you know

    Just what it means to me

    As days go past and it all moves too fast

    And I won't think about it

    And when I do it all comes back to you

    And I don't want to change that

    Markdown fornatting is really tedious to do on the phone so I'm not going to fix that more.

    But the song sounds upbeat, but it's lyrics are a sad loop they want to break and also don't want to.

  • That... works too?

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  • Yeah, I was going to say I saw almost this exact joke recently. That was the other one I saw.

  • Meta could make social media posting immortal — and we should all cancel our Facebook accounts right now

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  • It's really hard to get people to suffer mild inconvenience when they don't emotionally connect with the benefits.

    Most of facebook's evils are remote and impersonal. Seeing your cousin's baby photos is real and at hand.

  • OOP is a construct of oppression installed by the burgoise

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  • Sometimes I still see job postings that are like "MUST KNOW OBJECT ORIENTED PROGRAMMING" and I'm wondering who in 2026 isn't at least passably familiar with it.

    But then again I also see job posts that are like "must know Java or JavaScript"

  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • I’m just going to move on

    That's my point. They're doing a self-sabotage. Some of them will then complain that they're not getting good matches and messages, but a big factor is they're not giving potential good matches anything to work with.

  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • So many people see the prompt "what I'm looking for" and write "my keys".

    A. That's not a terribly funny joke. It's fine, but not great.

    B. It's not original.

    C. You are wasting valuable space. Now the other person has a little less information to make a good opening message. Do you really want that many people messaging you about your keys? Really? Why are you setting yourself up for unhappy outcomes?

    Most people don't think very hard about this, and hope it'll just work out.

  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • One problem is users are selfish idiots. They won't go somewhere that doesn't already have a lot of users. They don't care that going there now moves it closer to having a lot of users, so in a few months it'll be good and vibrant. Most people can't even think an hour ahead.

    Another problem is that there are many scammers and bad actors. You need to deal with them, and convince your real users that the scammers are dealt with.

    Lastly, in this capitalist hellscape everything is expensive. How are you going to run a big service that's got low latency and high quality?

  • I tried AI, was impressed by it, and it's embarrassing; Need advice

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  • Sure, could be. They didn't have any automated checks, and I saw errors like "that's too many parenthesis" and "you're trying to use a library you didn't add to the dependencies list" sail through.

  • I tried AI, was impressed by it, and it's embarrassing; Need advice

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  • I feel sorry for you and hope you cna find more fulfilling work that will let you grow, but I dont’t know what the job market is like right now

    Where I work, there's really no emphasis on code quality or testing. There's also like no mentorship or senior developers leading the way.

    They hired a guy with 1-2 years of experience and I feel really bad for him. Not only is he learning very little, he's learning actively bad patterns. No one is teaching him about automated testing. Code reviews are just "you skim it. Don't spend more than 30 minutes".

    Management of course loves LLMs and wants more usage.

  • What dating apps are really optimizing. Hint: it isn’t love

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  • Yeah, it can be hard, but many things worth doing are hard. If you start with the bare minimum, the other person's first impression of you is that you half-assed it. Would you be extra interested in someone who's too half assed to even read your profile?

    Put in the hard work. If you don't have the energy, don't use the apps. Half-assing it is just going to make you unhappy.

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  • Except when actually trying to make a match, it’s more advantageous to literally swipe right on everyone to maximize matches and then unmatch if you match with someone you aren’t interested in.

    This isn't true if their system punishes people for swiping "yes" on everyone. While I can't be certain that's the case, it seems very plausible it is. Swipe yes on everyone, your profile is down ranked, you don't get as many good matches.

    Additionally, tinder and hinge only allow you a limited number of yes swipes per day. If you blow them on the first ten profiles, you're going to have worse results than if you spend a little longer looking at profiles.

    Furthermore, on hinge, you can send a message with your like. Your chances of having a conversation and date go way down without a good message.

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  • Thinking about my friend group, about half the people met their long term partners on dating apps. The other half is a mix of work and large social groups (eg: people who all go to certain kinds of music festivals)

    I guess it varies by age and region.

    https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2020/08/20/key-takeaways-on-americans-views-of-and-experiences-with-dating-and-relationships/

    While meeting partners through personal networks is still the most common kind of introduction, about one-in-ten partnered adults (12%) say they met their partner online. About a third (32%) of adults who are married, living with a partner or are in a committed relationship say friends and family helped them find their match. Smaller shares say they met through work (18%), through school (17%), online (12%), at a bar or restaurant (8%), at a place of worship (5%) or somewhere else (8%).

    Some other sources I'm seeing say it's as high as 60% of couples met online.

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  • I think dating apps are mostly used for hookups

    This isn't especially true. Maybe Feeld and Tinder are less "serious", but the idea of dating apps is mainstream enough that you find all sorts of people and goals.

    The capitalism and for-profit nature does make them all kind of suck, though

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  • The top of the funnel I could see an argument for not putting a lot of thought in. You're just trying to get a pool of potential matches. (The apps are cruel for making you pay for this and not just giving you the list up front)

    But once you do have a match, you have to put in some effort to stand out. A lot of people get a match and all they write is "hey", and then they go right into the trash. Why would I engage with someone who just wrote "hey" when I could instead talk to someone who read my profile and said something personalized?

    Also swiping yes on everyone might do strange things to their recommendation algorithm. Unfortunately that's a black box, but I wouldn't be surprised if that puts you in some sort of chum bucket shadow ban situation.

    And also, yeah, making you pay for basic filters is a trashy design. Match group should be broken up.