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gerryflap

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  • I used to dislike singing in music. I mostly listen to electronic music and honestly I found the sound design much more interesting. Nowadays that has shifted though. I'm more connected to and aware of my emotions. Sometimes I need music with the same energy as I used to love, but with some nice vocals to match my emotions. Nowadays it's more of a mix, buy my taste is still faster and harder than most people.

  • What were your parent's rules on video games?

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  • Only one hour a day initially. And my mom hated any games with guns, so no games with guns. Creating an absolute bloodbath in Age of Empires was completely okidoki tho. At some point I wanted to buy GTA 3. My mom obviously said no (and fairly so, I was like 12 or something). But my dad, in an absolute chad move, said "oh I know that game, it's fine". I tended to play at the houses of friends who had less strict rules. I remember playing GTA Vice City on the original Xbox some time before I was allowed to buy GTA myself.

  • Have you ever had a close friend die and it changed your view of life?

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  • A bit over 5 years ago I was not in a good place myself. Struggling to be motivated for anything, only seeing trouble in the future, and often I just randomly started crying and was just out of it for a few hours. Things got pretty dark, and thus I sought and found help with a psychologist. I also discussed all of these things with my friends. Slowly my outlook started to change, and a few months later I started seeing some light again. I was barely on my feet again, feeling rebuilt and filled with a new spirit of hope.

    At this moment a couple of other friends were also dealing with their demons, but most of them discussed these and we generally managed to help each other. One of them did not. Instead he chose to end it all. The situation hit us like a truck. While I cannot possibly compare our situations, nor do I know what exactly went through his mind, it always felt like a mirror. A parallel path that I could've chosen. The scars of this never went away, the damage it did to all of us will remain forever. I don't blame him for anything, nor do I think it was the "weak" option. But I'm just sad, because I feel like it shouldn't have happened. A culture where men (or people in general I guess) feel ashamed to share their struggles, where they feel like they have to lie to maintain their "pride", creates an environment where people corner themselves in lies and darkness until there is no way out.

    What I personally learned from this whole ordeal is how much damage something like this does. Not only did we lose someone bright, it also permanently damaged many people who loved him. It might not feel like people around you care, but for pretty much everyone there are people in your life who do care. I've also seen how I personally can pull out of a very dark place and suddenly feel happiness with the most mundane things again. And seeing these 2 paths, I will always remember that no matter how shit the current situation is, as long as there's any hope that in the future things may be better, then that's a hope worth fighting for. In almost every situation there's a light at the end of the tunnel, you may not see it and it may be far away, but once you reach it you can have many years of happy life ahead of you.

  • TIL I'm a cat

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  • Meow meow :3

  • What kind of climate do you prefer?

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  • I quite like the climate here in the Netherlands. Could do with some colder winters though because ice skating on natural ice is becoming more and more rare. The Dutch weather gives us something to bitch an moan about, but relatively speaking it's very mild. No deadly heat or cold, no tornadoes or hurricanes. Though I think I prefer the "old" climate a bit more than what it's changing into. The hotter summer days and milder winters are not ideal

  • Peak UI Design

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  • We can clearly see that this design is silly, because it allows for so many invalid states. Yet when we represent some type, let's say in Java, were so often forced to do this exact same thing. Have variables in a container of which only a certain combination is valid. And then have at most a comment saying "this number is only valid if X is also set" or "if the validity boolean is true". Luckily Java finally has some ability for the so-called sum types now, just like Haskell's data types or Rust's enum types. Imo any language should have this.

  • Oops! All woke!

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  • The "anti-woke" men at my office once crowned me the "woke police" because I commented on one of their sexist/racist/homophobic/ whatever "jokes". It's my badge of honour. The weird part is that we kinda entered into some sort of cold war. I could comment on their "jokes", pretending it was in jest as part of my job as "woke police", while still getting the message across. I guess it kinda kept some semblance of friendliness and ability to cooperate while we still got our opinions out.

  • What's something you wish you did/didn't do when you were a child, but wouldn't change you much even if that was the case?

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  • Retain my knowledge of the (west) Frysian language. At one point I spoke it fairly well, but I can only understand it now and not speak or write it. It wouldn't really have helped me in any way, but I guess it would've given me a bit more of a regional identity and it would be nice to preserve the language.

  • The Art of Prompting

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  • Damn I should do this. I've gotten "Dear ${name}" before tho

  • Starting Projects

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  • Tbh at the moment I just have an idea, tell everyone about it, and I have no energy for it for 2 weeks and forget about it. It's more frustrating because you don't even get the satisfaction of starting anything and seeing the early rapid progress before ditching it

  • Anyone else that likes to put their phone in airplane mode to decompress/sleep?

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  • Yeah same. Only phone calls get through, the rest is silent. I don't get spam called enough to have a whitelist. If I expect important messages I might check a bit more often. But I rarely miss something important

  • Europeans, how far do you walk for groceries?

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  • 500 meters. If the store were at 3km I'd bike there, not walk. I feel like 500m is still an okay walking distance, but at some point I regularly went to a store 800m away and I already preferred to bike there. Walking 3km is definitely a bit of a time investment

  • Who is your favourite Anti Hero?

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  • He's absolutely a hero and without him the death star would've probably obliterated the rebellion (if it even existed without him). His methods aren't exactly "good" though from the perspective of good vs evil. As we see with Mon Mothma who is maybe a bit naïve and definitely doesn't approve of his methods. But I think a rebellion needs a Luthen. He knows he'll be hated by pretty much everyone, but in the end he managed to get so much done. He's the fall guy so the formal rebellion doesn't have to get their hands dirty.

  • Do you succumb to the urge to stop the microwave a few seconds before it actually stops ?

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  • Yeah because the thing beeps as if the house is on fire. I'd rather have it stay silent. And 1-3 seconds is not really enough to have any measurable effect.

  • Who is your favourite Anti Hero?

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  • After watching Andor, I guess Luthem Rael fits that title. Dude's absolutely savage. Forced to use the tools of his enemy to fight for freedom that he'll likely never experience. He sacrifices good people on order to protect the whole

  • What's a really popular game franchise you just can't get into?

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  • Same, didn't enjoy playing someone I didn't like in a world I wasn't interested in. Good game, not my preferred setting

  • Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans

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  • Personally I also ran some distilled versions of DeepSeek locally, though I'd imagine that isn't really possible for most people.

  • Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans

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  • Better than nothing I guess. Obviously it's a privacy nightmare. But therapy is hard to reach nowadays and I've noticed that many men are reluctant to make that step. It'd be preferable if they did, but if ChatGPT can at least give an outlet for the emotions then it might just save a few people. Seeing men demolish themselves because they're too ashamed to seek help is something I've unfortunately seen quite often. Even though I'm aware of this I've still waited till it was way too late because I subconsciously didn't want to give in to the "weakness". I hate that men are conditioned this way, it costs lives.

  • Coding chess

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  • Are you me lol? I did exactly the same, and at some point I started computing how many slides I had to make to make anything larger and I pivoted. My dad didn't know this stuff but I also ended up at gamemaker

  • What is the worst candy you've ever tasted?

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  • This stuff is like cocaine to me. Liquorice with salmiak is my favorite candy. It's so interesting seeing people who didn't grow up with it dispise it so much. Nowadays I don't but it anymore because I can't stop myself from speed running all the candy once it's in the house.