exasperation

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exasperation @lemmy.dbzer0.com 1w ago

This user tends to post this kind of stuff. Not for me, but also not annoying enough for me to block.

2w ago

Women who consider themselves unattractive, what’s something men don’t realize about how they treat you compared to women they find attractive?

exasperation @lemmy.dbzer0.com 2w ago

I've always been in that weird space of apparently hella attractive to some and then the complete polar opposite to others, so I've experienced both.

I'm a man, but in a similar boat. In terms of physical appearance I've been unconventionally attractive/ugly hot most of my adult life. The way some people react to, like, Adam Driver or Benedict Cumberbatch or Cillian Murphy.

It took my entire 20's to learn to steer my dating life towards wanting to be with people who already found me attractive rather than trying to convince someone to find me attractive, and finally learning to deal with higher rejection rates than the typical person, while sorting through the people who found me to be ugly, without necessarily knowing in advance who would be in which category.

I also learned that there were people who were embarrassed at their own preference of finding me attractive, and that was its own minefield. Or those who wanted more external validation of their choice in me and didn't necessarily find it in their friends who thought I was ugly.

I came out of that roller coaster of a decade for the better, and ended up picking up from that experience a certain amount of confidence, the kind that says "I already know I'm attractive whether you think so or not," and having less patience for certain types of relationship insecurities, either from myself or my partner.

And then I met my wife shortly after that revelation. She still teases me that I have the confidence of a much taller man (a riff on a 30 Rock line we both love), but I don't think I could've gotten her attention if I didn't learn lessons from a series of failed relationships.

3w ago

How do you feel?

exasperation @lemmy.dbzer0.com 3w ago

Sometimes in public forums my goal is to show the neutral third parties who might stumble upon that thread to see for themselves which view is more reasonable. Bad faith arguments that are common sometimes need to be knocked down whenever and wherever it persists.

4w ago

Ah, the joys of being a woman in her early thirties!

You can claim all you want that the test results are normal; I'm not arguing that.

The symptoms you describe are not normal. Not for women in their 30's, 40's, 50's, or past that.

4w ago

Ah, the joys of being a woman in her early thirties!

These symptoms aren't normal. Stop trying to project that on the literal billions of women who have also reached the age of 30. The overwhelming majority of them are not experiencing what you're describing.

4w ago

Ah, the joys of being a woman in her early thirties!

It's not creepy to be aware of the sleep patterns of someone who sleeps next to you, especially 10 hours a day.

4w ago

US House to vote on bill to make daylight saving time permanent

People like daylight time in the summers, because that gives them the opportunity to do things after work in sunlight. For places where they're getting 16 hours of sunlight, they'd generally prefer sunrise at 5am and sunset at 9pm, rather than 4am to 8pm.

But daylight time is terrible in the winters. Sunlight from 8am to 4pm is probably better than 9am to 5pm.

That's basically why we had daylight savings switching clocks to begin with. But the fundamental tradeoff in the higher latitudes was always summer versus winter.

1mo ago

Price hikes pushing consumers to abandon their favorite brands

I am loyal to certain cheese producers, from local small scale producers to national artisan producers that ship to me, to national larger scale cheese makers who have specific products I like. I'll buy certain imported cheeses with place protections, like Italian DOP cheeses.

With chicken, I like a particular producer, because the chicken just tastes better to me when it's air chilled and of a specific size (4 lbs/1.8 kg is the ideal size).

For flour, I use a combination of a local mill for whole wheat, and a reputable national producer for bread flour and all purpose white flour. I have a specific brand for 00 pizza flour. I know what to expect from those products, and that allows me to be precise.

For pasta, I have several brands and shapes to choose from, and can obviously do fine with whatever box, but I still have my preferences for specific shapes and brands and bronze-die lines. Some of them are imported and some are domestic.

Condiments and sauces? Yeah, I have a preferred ketchup brand, 3 specific soy sauces for different applications, 3 specific mustard brands for different applications, and a preferred mayonnaise. I keep about 5-10 hot sauces on hand, each for a different style of food.

As you mention, for wine and beer and liquor and liqueurs, I am fairly picky when it comes to brands and quality. Life is too short to drink bad alcohol.

But it also pretty much extends to non alcoholic beverages, too. I choose my coffee and go for specific roasts by specific roasters. I like a particular brand of soda. I even have a preferred brand of orange juice.

For chips and snacks, I very much prefer specific flavors of specific brands, including even the biggest of the industrialized brands for certain products.

With chocolate? Yeah, brand matters to me a lot. Most other candy, too.

I have a preferred butter brand. I can make do with others, but I prefer mine. There are only two bacon brands I like. I have a hot dog brand preference, too.

I'm pretty serious about food, and I love blind tasting things and forming preferences around new foods, revisiting old taste tests, etc. I couldn't imagine not caring about the details on food, and that often means knowing the difference between brands (and knowing when a brand has changed its formula/recipe).

People out there are doing good work, making delicious food. Sometimes they put their name on it, and that means something.

1mo ago

New names are hard, ok?

I mean haven't you seen the Bass Pro Shops Pyramid? It's obviously a tribute to ancient Egypt.

1mo ago

How do China and India never qualify for the World Cup?

When decisions are based on who pays the organization the most, it can sometimes improve outcomes for the organization.

When decisions are based on who pays the individual decisionmaker the most, it can often lead to the decisionmaker making decisions that help themselves personally but harm the organization as a whole. That's bad for outcomes.

That's why corruption at the individual level often leads to incompetence and inefficiency. Corrupt organizations and industries, though, can coordinate in a way that mitigates these weaknesses.

1mo ago

TIL Botox is considered the deadliest known natural substance ever recorded in chemical literature

Why would anyone opt for this over a vasectomy?

2mo ago

Life in your 30s

Box 4, in particular, is a really depressing rubric for friendship as it assumes a person vanishes the moment they stop providing new content on Social Media.

I just think of it as shorthand for the very real phenomenon that some people fall off the radar in every measurable way: can no longer be found in person, won't respond to calls or texts, no online presence (even DMs/chats, or electronic invites to in-person activities). I have a few friends in that category, and it's often something like trying to build a new life away from their past (sometimes including a new spouse and/or social circle), or even mental health issues.

And some people really do want to live off grid in a cabin in the mountains, or backpacking, or in a faraway, low-connectivity job (at sea, or in remote wilderness, or whatever else). If they end up doing that and fall off the radar, it happens.

2mo ago

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Not every crop/species/cultivar respond well to selective breeding for size.

I don't know the details of cherries in particular, but I know of another example of one stubborn crop not responding to attempts to increase the size: the skirret. Historical records indicate that carrots, parsnips, and skirrets were similar root vegetables that were grown for food, but breeders had much more success making carrots and parsnips bigger, with less success with the skirret. As a result, carrots and parsnips became more popular, and the skirret faded into obscurity in most cultures.

2mo ago

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Fun fact: plums, peaches, and apricots used to be roughly this size as well, but generations of selective breeding increases the size of the fruit, and the ratio of fruit to seed/pit.

Almonds are also a member of this family, although we don't eat the fruit of the almond (which splits open as it grows), and instead pick out the pit for a little morsel inside. That's also why almond extract and cherry pit extract (sometimes known as bitter cherry) have similar flavor notes.

2mo ago

DNA Research Shows Your Muscles ‘Remember’ How Strong and Fit You Once Were

I struggle to run now. My natural stride, what I'm comfortable at, was my old normal pace of 7:30 minute miles (8 mph or 12.9 kph or 4:40 minute kilometers). And that's where the muscle memory wants to put my feet. Except I don't have the lungs or the muscles to do that for more than a minute or two without getting spent.

I know if I want to get faster again I should just train, but my heart just isn't in it at the speeds that I have to go.

2mo ago

Transgender ballot initiative could require genital exams for WA secondary school students

For boys, the standard hernia test involves checking for testicle movement, usually during coughing. It's highly recommended for sports participation, and required in some places, because a hernia is easily preventable and especially painful.

2mo ago

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I saw a pretty fun series of videos explaining why this is.

Viewing Fibonacci spiral structures in plants shows that as the structure grows from the meristem of the plant, each new growth is offset by the golden angle from the previous growth, rotating in a manner that many revolutions will show spiral formations in Fibonacci numbers.

French physicists Douady and Couder performed some experiments by periodically dropping magnetic fluid onto some oil and observing how they moved from that center point. Drop them slowly enough and they'd alternate sides, by repelling each other. But drop them close enough to where the repulsion happened against multiple droplets and they'd tend to stabilize at rotating around, with the golden angle.

So the simple algorithm of growing away from the previous growth is easy to encode genetically, and creates spiral structures with minimal overlap with prior growths. So Fibonacci spirals arise with the simplest of growth instructions coded into the genetics.

2mo ago

TIL the stop motion film industry is propped up by one rich kid

And to explain your comment a bit more, the production budget doesn't include the very real costs of marketing, distribution, and any back-end royalties calculated from the gross. Plus generally speaking, the movie is financed by lenders and production companies that will need to be repaid with interest, too.

If you've got a $50 million movie and you spend $10 million on marketing/distribution and promised 10% of the gross to people, and the theaters are keeping 10% of the gross, getting a $75 million box office breaks even ($7.5 million to royalties, $7.5 million to theaters, $10 million to marketing/distribution). And that's assuming nothing lost to interest/financing/inflation.

Side note: generally, theaters don't get much in the first few weeks. It's only when a movie shows longer than 3 weeks that the theater starts getting a bigger and bigger cut of the gross.

2mo ago

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