yes the boredom will be the biggest problem and likely no electronics will be allowed. get a few good paperback books, a good puzzle book with some more variety than just word searches / sudokus, and bring a non-spiral bound sketchbook and some crayons (all psych wards will pretty much universally allow crayons vs if they're acute enough they may worry about hard plastics, but admittedly that level of acuity is somewhat rare) and practice your figure or still life drawing or just have fun scribbling if you like. also a great time to pick up origami as a hobby. If you ask nicely they will almost definitely play music for you but it might be in a group setting where you have to rotate choosing with the other patients.
hi I've been working inpatient psych for almost a decade, ama! lol.
there's already a !bestofredditorupdates@lemmit.online but a lot of instances block lemmit for being bot content since their whole purpose is to repost reddit content which like. bots are actually super useful for that kind of thing. A LOT of users don't seem to understand that they personally have the power to set instance blocks for their own account. so instead they push for defeds when like. just block the instance from your settings. it's a checkbox. it's not complicated! Sometimes I worry that all the defeds will create little insular echo chambers when the whole point of fedi is diversity.
one of the many reasons I've heard is that men are unhappy with the financial benefits it entitles the woman to.
IMO receiving money in the event of divorce is one of the few ways a woman is protected while living a "traditional" lifestyle; when she leaves the workforce to care for a home and children, she's both giving up a the opportunity to save and invest capital, AND she's giving up becoming experienced in her field. Giving up the experience means she that if she loses financial support and attempts to return to the workforce, she would have to do so in a junior role in her field, if she can find work at all. Things like alimony and division of assets are, at least imo, a completely fair compensation for the unrespected but very real work of homemaking.
And while that's ultimately not a lifestyle that suits me personally, there are a lot of men who want a tradwife, but don't respect that that's going to require them to be a trad husband. One of the reasons I got married as a working / career oriented woman was that I thought my domestic house husband deserved financial security in payment for supporting my career. I think a lot of it really does just come down to the underlying misogyny of not considering homemaking to be a legitimate profession when it's been fundamental to society longer than written record.
I'm using owncloud for that but (don't hate me) I'm having to use chatgpt a LOT for the initial configuration. There's a lot of stuff I'm having to learn to get back into it and it's really good at searching docs by fuzzy match, pointing out what part of a function block isn't working, and drafting individual function blocks to experiment with (I'll comment out the original, paste in the chatgpt one, test it, etc). It's a much better experience than a decade ago and I haven't gotten emotionally abused by a more experienced person on stack overflow or reddit once yet.
I've got owncloud running as a lan only service so it just auto syncs my calendar, contacts, and a few folders of documents / pictures I like to keep with me but only whenever I'm home. Right now I'm just also configuring the same old computer to do some basic media / retro gaming on the TV and the hard part right now is configuring magic mirror as it's idle display to keep hubs and I straight on our calendars and tasks (and show some family photos). Nothing major just as I get back onto Linux after ten years it's nice to not get called lazy and stupid while I'm learning.
you say you're worried about harassing her. we need more context on why you're worried about this to be able to give the best answer. If this is a professional context for either or both of you, the focus should be maximizing your professional rapport by reassuring her without mentioning romance. if it's a very laid back workplace where strict boundaries aren't 100% mission critical you miiight get away with something like "in a different life I'd like to know you a little better actually, but I think the most important thing for both of us right now is to keep this professional." vs if this is an entirely personal relationship you could try something more like,"I'd actually like to know you better if you're interested but I didn't want to overstep.“
a few weeks ago the cat jumped up on the couch behind me to start gagging right over my head. it was a whole new level of Audacity that I never even knew existed.
depends. there's people who to not ghost I'd have to have to have a several hour conversion of them spam texting or attempting to interrogate me and we were never close enough for it to be my responsibility to explain their interpersonal failings to them in detail. I can't fix the world and if I spend my personal time giving every person I run into whose parents failed to teach them basic social skills an hour+ of psychosocial educational therapy, I would never get anything else done.
we were actually taught in nursing school that sense of taste fades with age and that sugar / sweetness receptors are pretty much all that holds up after a while.
and it's for exactly this reason that arguing with a delusion strengthens it. If you show a person with Cotard delusions how to find their pulse they'll come to the conclusion that dead bodies can still have a heartbeat and if you show a person with capgras delusions a DNA test now the doppelgangers can mimic DNA too. the new information just gets integrated in a way that supports the delusion. all you can do is try to distract them while the antipsychotics hit and try to keep them socially connected through unrelated stuff like hobbies, music, etc.
as @agertudici@sh.itjust.works somebody told me they recognized my rant about applying hospital socks to someone with chf but I think I deleted it in my last round of privacy deletions
but don't spend the money. I forget how long they have to request it back. it's called like unjust enrichment or something. basically accidentally paying someone too much is only a problem for poor people.
I think context is also important. At home I eat all kinds of things that have been all kinds of places for various amounts of time. I grew up eating fruit straight off the vine after a quick shine with my shirt (and nectar in the case of honeysuckle).
When I'm handling food for my patients I take no chances. Even the ones without specific immune disorders are under high bodily stress while being exposed to shit that's basically been bred for resistance to antimicrobials. My husband has only had one hospital job but has been working in bulk production kitchens longer than my entire career in healthcare. If one item does go bad it can spread to the others pretty quickly. Another issue is that while I wash my hands plenty at home and also so compulsively at work that I have to use dimethicone lotion to keep my skin together, I can't actually guarantee that my coworkers do. Wish I could, but I'm not pressing my ears to the bathroom door in the breakroom to do it. I know I washed my hands before touching the patients' breakfasts but I'm too busy focusing on my own job to tell you for certain that anybody else did so yeah there really might be something growing on those trays an hour or two later.
So at home, no I don't really care. But in high volume kitchens and institutional environments it's important enough that my husband actually knows all the specific times and temperatures off the top of his head.
Imma come out and say it: they're old timey versions of copper coils or orgonite pyramids. Gnosticism got kinda big for a while and people were buying curses and prayers and stuff from people to write on little bits of broken pottery like little curses you'd write on scraps of paper in middle school. Somebody out there figured out how to weld little metal sacred geometry figurines and people were buying them because they look cool and some of them probably thought they'd resonate with the vibrations of the universe to cure dysentery or whatever.
I got (lovingly) hollered at in the last mock code for pausing to let the respiratory therapist ventilate. things have evolved so much these days. After my round I went back to my true calling and walked the demented guy back to his room.
Honestly even in the event of a code on my unit with my own patient 90% of my job after the first round of compressions is just providing history to the intensivist anyway. My last stroke code I mostly just stood in the corner repeating that the patient didn't typically exaggerate or present somatically so this had to be real.
Honestly most of my job in a code not on my patient is probably going to turn out being environmental and crowd control as well, making sure the real code team has what they need where they need it and everybody else is out of the way and all the background safety stuff is still happening.
That said even with modern evidence demoting respirations this picture still goes hard asf:
I wish I could clone you – <3, an inpatient psych nurse.