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  • Low maintenance vis key. I do mow mine to remove any tree saplings because I don't want trees there. I do attempt to bring some native seeds in because the seed bed is mostly non-natives. Got to get those going.

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  • It's a lot of Black Eyes Susans right now. But I got more longer lasting perennials under most of them. It's super low maintenance and beautiful. I seed in the fall and sometimes the spring. I mow yearly (early spring) to kill any tree saplings and do some weeding in the spring but not much.

    I'm planning on harvesting some seeds from my Susans and maybe the coneflowers this year. I usually just let them fall. It would be fun to give the seeds away or spread them around empty lots

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  • I have been trying to live a solarpunk / permaculture lifestyle one step at a time. I am starting with plants

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  • Its nice to be able to see what you should remove. I have defeating the Creeping Bellflower in my new wildflower section of my yard. (The thin strip between my fence and the alley sometimes called the Hell Strip). If you are like me and want to know what is good to have in your yard I would recommend Prairie Moon Nursery if you live in North America. The shop sells native plants and lets you filter by location, bloom season etc. in case you need to buy plants or seeds. It also has a great range map, great pictures and good descriptions in case you are interested. I highly recommend looking at the website to get plants to names

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  • Over the last few years I have been working on getting into botany, herbalism and urban foraging. Basically I am working on trying to identify every plant I see in my neighborhood and finding what their uses are. So in my yard and walk around the neighborhood I look at every plant and try to see if I can identify it. Since its easiest to identify while flowering I guess for weeks and months until then to determine if I am right. As the seasons change I get better and better at identifying things after or before a bloom. It really brings magic and interest as I move around the world

  • What things that are legal today could become illegal in 50 years?

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  • If right-wing nutjobs keep running the government I am going to say "birth control" and "sodomy" are on the chopping block. Hopefully by 50 years this won't still be the issue but its what they want now. Just to note that the old "sodomy" laws made everything that wasn't PIV illegal. So if you like oral sex that will be illegal now. Sorry everyone no more fun

  • St. Paul, MN, was hacked so badly that the National Guard has been deployed

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  • They found him

    It's a joke....

  • St. Paul, MN, was hacked so badly that the National Guard has been deployed

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  • The national guard here is looking around for men in black masks in front of computers throughout the city. Its crazy

  • Lemmy User Feedback and Improvement Thread: Share Your Complaints, Suggestions, and Ideas

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  • Agreed. I want to be to join them together. The only real difficulty will be for comments. How do they get federated between different instances

  • What do you use to make your home smell good?

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  • The main thing I recommend is having house plants. They will filter out things in the air and will add additional oxygen which to our noises make things smell cleaner. I would also recommend cleaning more often especially your floors. We use Florida water whenever we clean our floors which lingers in in the air for days. We also leave bounce sheets under our garbage bag in our closed garbage can it captures the main source of bad odors for a house. We also use incense sticks in our bedroom which smells great. In the winter when the house gets very stinky and stale we like to set up a simmer pot. Its basically just a boiling pot filled with good smelling spices, fruits, and / or spices. It also humidifies the house which is great.

  • If you could have one always ready, perfectly cooked food magically available to you at all times, what would it be?

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  • There are some fresh baked breads that I enjoy a few days after baking (basically sourdoughs) that are reheated to get warm and crispy again. But I agree. If I could have perfectly timed baked breads I would be so happy.

  • Is it common for hetero women to enjoy taking charge during intimacy and switch between who's leading? (I was raised in a traditional family so I'm dumb)

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  • According to The Journal of Sex Research in 2017 :

    Paraphilic sexual interests are defined as unusual or anomalous, but their actual occurrence in nonclinical samples is still unknown. This study looked at desire for and experience of paraphilic behaviors in a sample of adult men and women in the general population. A secondary goal was to compare the results of two survey modes—traditional landline telephone versus online. A total of 1,040 persons classified according to age, gender, education, ethnic background, religious beliefs, area of residency, and corresponding to the norm for the province of Quebec were interviewed. Nearly half of this sample expressed interest in at least one paraphilic category, and approximately one-third had had experience with such a practice at least once. Voyeurism, fetishism, frotteurism, and masochism interested both male and female respondents at levels above what is usually considered to be statistically unusual (15.9%). Interestingly, levels of interest in fetishism and masochism were not significantly different for men and women. Masochism was significantly linked with higher satisfaction with one's own sexual life. As expected, the online mode generated more acknowledgment of paraphilic interest than the telephone mode. These results call into question the current definition of normal (normophilic) versus anomalous (paraphilic) sexual behaviors. (Emphasis mine)

    I would say that nearly half would be common enough. Ignore a common desires just leads repression, shame and for people to seek out these desires in more dangerous locations and situations usually without consent. Those who are honest about what they want get to do this with willing partners in specifically time constrained way. This is not controlling anyone outside those situations or pretending that God says all women are submissive to men.

    I would also like mention that most kink and BDSM books by professions and those in the scene will discourage the use of choking by anyone in all situations. They will go into exquisite details about to safely flog a man safe and then say how choking is dangerous and shouldn't be done. So don't say that BDSM is choking because that is generally frowned upon (although this is still debated).

    Thinking about BDSM (Sadism and Machosism specifically) as violence is missing the point and thinking about it the wrong context. There a many different ritualized and formalized pain rituals that we practice as a society. Something like a marathon, cross fit, sitting for tattoos are other modern example where people voluntarily go through pain for a set period of time for fun and to see if they can do it. These are all acceptable hobbies where pain is a large portion of why people do it. Not to mention that multitude of religious rituals where someone goes through something difficult or painful in a specific context. Its the sex negativity in the cultural that says if someone may get an erection or wet thinking about this pain where we draw the line.

  • We Need to Talk About Pedocon Theory

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  • I think what this is pointing out is that those who want to abuse will find a system that gives them systematic power to abuse. So these people will be naturally drawn to systems where they have power and a support system to protect them. So its a self selecting group who are looking to abuse are drawn to system with strong hierarchical structures.

  • Is it common for hetero women to enjoy taking charge during intimacy and switch between who's leading? (I was raised in a traditional family so I'm dumb)

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  • If you are interested in unlearning paternalistic relationship structures I would recommend you read / listen to Dan Savage. He does a weekly sex and relationship columns since the 1990 and a podcast since the early 2000s so he has been doing this a long time so has a great backlog of material most of which is free. Especially since you are young and want some outsider perspective.

    He talks often about alternative sexualities (queer, kink, etc.) and relationships structures (polyamory, open relationships, female led relationships, etc.) which might not be applicable to you. I know you mentioned that you are NOT into BDSM but understanding how common and acceptable doing something like that it makes what you are asking into context. Its the same tools around consent and communication about needs regardless of what you are doing. Listening and understanding the extreme level sexual acts will put your asks into perspective. Also hearing about the variety of ways organize their relationships and sex lives will really deprogram you from the single view of gender and sexuality you were brought up in.

  • Prepare to Plunder the Past! An Epic Mechanical Puzzle Box

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  • I know his older material is available for designs

  • Prepare to Plunder the Past! An Epic Mechanical Puzzle Box

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  • That is correct. I think he typically releases the 3-D models after a few months. I know he has other 3-D Models on his website. This one I think will be later

  • xkcd #3115: Unsolved Physics Problems

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  • Or you haven't poured enough milk and porridge into your computer. Depends on the tomte

  • TIL there's a ferris wheel sauna in Finland

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  • There are sauna rafts that have engines, so you can cruise around the waters.

    I went on one of those in Norway. We didn't have enough people to book the private bay tour so we were just at the dock. We jumped off the roof into the ocean. It was amazing. Highly recommend if you ever get a chance

  • Growth narratives on the new social networks

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  • I think with that is an unexpected inflection point that looks inevitable in hindsight where one network dies and another thrives. It happened with Digg and Myspace. You if you focus on long term organic growth it can happen but unknown when