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  • How can we Google for Lemmy content instead of Reddit?

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  • That seems rather counterproductive imo. The only way to get useful results on any search engine is to input "reddit" at the end of your search ime. So it seems like it's limiting the discovery and knowledge base of things here by not allowing for the same thing for Lemmy. Idk how to word that correctly.

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  • I didn't realize that was possible

  • Which apps do you allow to give you notifications?

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  • Sms, calls, discord, Google voice, work emails (I rarely get a work email...maybe a couple of times per month)

    I have my personal Gmail to get silent notifications so I know if something happened but I'm not repeatedly spammed.

    Most other things are off unless they are unobtrusive. Ex: my robot vacuum stays enabled for notifications so I know when it is done cleaning, Uber eats is enabled for order tracking but disabled for promotions

  • How would you explain to a date that you have an abusive family and you're the only sane person?

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  • I'm not sure why any of this is somehow a red flag. Your partner is going to be dating you, not your family.

    Maybe my experience isn't the norm, but I find that a significant portion of people I meet have fucked up families.

    Yes, people often ask about families when meeting each other, but it's perfectly fine and common enough ime to say that you aren't close with/don't have a good relationship with one or multiple family members.

    My advice would be to keep it brief and somewhat vague at first...just stating what I said above should be sufficient enough. You're getting to know each other, but you're not there to learn every single intimate detail about every moment of someone's life. Don't go into a long tirade or story about anything at first. Over time, you will get to know each other and can slowly talk about more bits and pieces with time.

  • What is the most horrific thing you've experienced in life?

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  • Thank you for your kind words. One of my siblings did end up going no contact with my father, actually. I don't really agree with the particular way he went about it (long story), but I more than support the outcome tbh.

    Honestly, I feel like there was an opportunity I had during the divorce where it would have made sense for me to go no contact with him. But he was very good at trying to make me feel bad for him at the time (I mean, we are all only human after all), and he even went and unprompted bought me a fucking car. I actually was going to refuse it, but was convinced otherwise. Through the years I've found that the interactions between my father and I can be mutually beneficial in their own ways, though I feel bad at times because I view what he did as unforgivable honestly.

    We moved across the country from him and it has been nice that way for several years...I only see him a couple times per year. The frustrating part is he plans to move to my part of the country when he retires next year. I've repeatedly tried to reiterate to him that I am not going to suddenly see him every week because he moves here, but he doesn't seem to get the message. Honestly I'm at a loss as to what to do when that eventually occurs. Part of me kind of wishes he'll die before then so I won't have to worry about it.

    Anyway, I know you didn't ask for that, but I appreciate the time you've taken and the words you've spent.

  • Is there an evolutionary advantage associated with armpit sweating and stinking?

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  • I mean, here's another thought...

    A lot of animals in the wild stink. Seriously. Check out a farm or a zoo. It's quite possible that people just used to generally smell bad before the modern age.

    But I guess a positive to this is, you know how you get used to a smell if you're around it all the time? Like say you eat McDonald's in your car on a long car journey. Nothing is out of the ordinary smell wise to you. But then you get to your destination and leave your car for a few days. You come back and notice it smells like shitty old McDonald's because you had been away from it for a bit. What I'm getting at is if we were around stinky people all day we maybe weren't bothered by it as much because you can go "nose blind" to that sort of thing after being exposed to it often.

  • Is there an evolutionary advantage associated with armpit sweating and stinking?

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  • It's interesting how many people don't realize this. We were having a casual discussion one day and one of the smartest people I know, who has been educated in a lot of science, didn't realize that neutral or even outright negative traits can occur and persist in evolution. Evolution doesn't create a perfect being. It's just creates those that can survive long enough to reproduce better than those that can't do it as well.

  • Kids

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  • Is that an obvious plant logo lol

  • What is the most horrific thing you've experienced in life?

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  • No one knows. It's a diagnosis of exclusion. It's a lot more common in infants (although still relatively uncommon), and significantly less common in kids. There are some types of conditions that you can't really tell at autopsy though. So if the heart suddenly starts beating out of whack or if someone had a seizure, there is not necessarily going to be evidence of that for you to know what happened, unfortunately.

  • What is the most horrific thing you've experienced in life?

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  • What the fuck. I mean, it's terrible already but to have the fucking balls to just do that out in the open???? The fuck??

  • What is the most horrific thing you've experienced in life?

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  • Possibly was listening to my sweet mom crying and softly begging my dad to stop raping her in the other room. I was in denial about it tbh. He was a verbally abusive man, but I never knew that it extended to anything physical. He was not shy about screaming at her in front of us kids, so I honesty didn't think I was correctly interpreting what I was hearing at the time. Both my patients were very quiet during this event. So I'm not sure how often it happened. I didn't help my mom or anything at the time like an asshole...I just wasn't sure what really happened.

    It was only many years later when I stumbled across some PDF files of divorce paperwork where she stated that he would rape her. She chose much softer language in the paperwork, carefully avoiding the "r-word", but I knew she wasn't lying because of what I remembered. She did say that he often wasn't very physically "successful" at it, which I guess is a bit more comforting? Anyway, this absolutely and totally enraged me. I fantasized about ways I would torture this man. But alas I never did anything of use and continue to allow this man to speak to me and spend time with me. I'm an asshole for it, really.

    Much less significant, but there was also a time where my brother repeatedly tried to record videos of me naked and didn't stop even after he got caught. That was such an intense violation of my privacy and permanently changed the way I feel about him and view him tbh. We have an ok relationship now, but I'll never forget it.

  • What are some portable devices that smart phones haven't replaced?

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  • Life is short and it's also a balance. It's ok to buy yourself something fun from time to time. :) The key to anything is moderation.

  • What thing about you is the most misunderstood?

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  • So I am from the northern US. I was speaking to someone from the southern US and they said the word "cement". I had to do a double take and think hard about what they were saying. To me, it sounded like she was saying "semen". I am basically a child and thought it was hilarious.

  • What thing about you is the most misunderstood?

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  • I really, really feel you on the first paragraph. Humans are social creatures. But there is so much difficulty that goes in line with that. I struggle almost every single fucking day with people, yet I need them and want them.

  • What thing about you is the most misunderstood?

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  • Aww I'm sorry to hear. I hope the best for you, internet stranger. Your feelings matter. I know what it feels like when it seems like they don't. Hope the rest of your weekend goes ok.

  • I want to know.

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  • Giggity

  • What happened on your most unhappy birthday?

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  • Ok yeah fair enough. I'm glad you were at least safe though!

  • What happened on your most unhappy birthday?

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  • Are you talking hurricane Milton or a different one? I have really not been thorough too many hurricanes, but Milton was absolutely wild to me. Couldn't even get gasoline for a solid week and some people I knew didn't even have drinking water. It felt mildly apocalyptic.

  • how old were you the first time you got drunk?

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  • Jesus Christ what a shit cousin