Well, in particular, my Mum was cremated as per her wishes, and that's what my Dad plans too, but I don't begrudge the coffin or the cars - none of us were in a fit state to drive and we weren't about to shove her in the incinerator in a body bag out from someone's boot. I don't know what else you wanted us to do instead. She has a little stone in the kerb lining the path to the crematorium, because we didn't want there to be nothing physical left after we scattered her ashes. The funeral directors were very good at their job, very useful to have around, and a great help on a difficult day. All your contempt for having a ceremony and making an event out of it, by contrast, not so helpful. If you ever meet anyone on real life who's grieving, please don't talk to them like you vent online.