go away. you are a weirdo if you are reading this.
it triggers people.
like dog/cat assholes in photos do now too or something
for sure. but according to fedi posters people like us can't possible exist.
the concept of like actively working on yourself and learning new things and changing your ideas is verboten, because that means your identity isn't rigid and fixed.
but i have the same experience, even in the same thread i will get replies putting my comment into opposing boxes.
it does happen. and it's not worth engaging with such people because when you punish them they just get more justified in their behaviours. and their persecution complex grows.
a lot of folks are on fedi because they were banned from reddit for their posting about violence which they felt was justified in posting about. a lot of folks here are 100% for violence in the context of political disagreement.
then move or get new friends.
you don't have the right to tell other people how to live their lives or to make their choices for them.
Right, which is precisely why everyone things they are highly emotionally intelligent and it's everyone else that isn't!
such a genius metric, it is.
it's just a general attitude towards life. some folks don't mind other people doing stuff differently than them, others can't stand it and take it as a personal attack on themselves.
like, i remember when I was car-shopping a decade ago and people got mad at me for not buying the car they wanted me to buy. it was wild.
a fancy monitor that makes like 1/3 of the people who view it throw up.
people desperate for social approval will believe crazy shit.
everyone in the restaurant was thinking about her tits.
each man, woman, and child that dared to gaze upon their glory.
yummy.
you realize you breathe in way more nasty nasty microparticles going outside for like 3 min that you do from your toilet flushing a couple of times a day? lots of fungus, bacteria, viruses, spores, etc.
your immune system exists dude. and it needs light exercise.
the only way aerosolized waste is making you sick is if you like go inside a sewer or waste disposal tank where it's intensely concentrated, and it's really the methane that's doing you in, as the bacteria don't float.
also your basic breathing through your nose and mouth is shooting out way more nasty shit that actually can infect other people. by paranoid logic we should all be using closed breathing systems at all times.
you just have a shitty job or a shitty manager.
i've had many jobs and none of them were like that, outside of a few shitty retail jobs I had.
good companies aren't like that. they are professional and people leave their personal shit at the door. and anyone who brings their personal shit into the workplace is terminated.
What terrifies me, is yeah i see that in person all the time. Not just on the internet.
It's revenge, and bitterness. I meet 30 year olds making like 200K a year who are steeped in bitterness they can't afford a beach front mansion. A large part of it is pure entitlement and arrogance. Many young people think the world just owes them and they know better than everyone else and are completely delusional about how the world works. And often just spout meaningless cliche bullshit they know from social media rather than having any knowledge of history or any perspective with context.
And they encourage it in each other. I've seen so many awful groups at bars just dogging each other on the say the most heinous shit and openly declaring how they actively abuse and want to abuse and hurt other people. Then they basically think they are good people because they make posts on social media about how they support Trans people, and that justifies their thirst for blood or something. It's insane. It's like a collective psychosis.
And of course the irony is if you confronted them with the same violence that spouts out of their mouths, they will cry foul and play the victim. Because it's OK for them to want to murder people, but they also see a cafe that doesn't have oat milk as 'abusing' them.
I just want to get away from self-righteous agenda posters. who are so indoctrinated they think everyone else is exactly like them and if they aren't, they are terrible awful people.
it's not even a political thing, there are many folks in hobby and other groups that approach life this way, trying to shove their opinions down everyone else's throats and demonizing them for not agreeing, and/or playing the victim when someone pushes back against their shitty 'i know better than you' bullshit.
there are a handful of users who just post shitty low quality rage bait from shitty websites constantly across various communities all day long. many of these users were not on fedi a year ago.
like, websites you have never heard of, that are highly editorialized and frame things as dramatic and hyperbolic as possible.
and these posts dominate many of the news and politics communities, because juicy dopamine headlines mean people upvote.
and the comment sections are dumpster fires of similar minded folks, and anyone who is skeptical/critical gets dog piled and/or the OP comes out swinging calling them a fascist for daring to challenge the 'trump does thing world is collapsing' narrative they are all addicted to.
it's all engagement/rage bait quality stuff. it's not like, respectable moderate journalism that reports facts, that shit doesn't get upvotes because the headlines are not juicy enough.
FWIW I have been on fedi for 3 years and this stuff is exploded the past 6-9 months, I used to like the news/politics subs a year ago because they were not dominated by this low quality content and typically had more respectable news-sources. but you can't compete with low-brow rage bait trolls who are just here to collect as many upvotes and flood the zone with dramatic bullshit to drive engagement, and that's what these posters are doing. if you confront them they just say you are a bad person who clearly supports Trump etc.
.ml users think they are being welcoming and kind when they harass and insult other users.
or they just want to avoid people like you. because you know, it's insufferable to be lectured how you such by random strangers who just want to go on about catastrophe when most likely they are living a very cushy life, hence they need to be obsessed with politics in a wholly negative way, because that is the only major drama/tension in their life.
I said it was not a valid measurement system. It never was a measurement system at all. It's bullshit on top of bullshit that believe believe in and it becomes a brief collective delusion.
In corpo land it was nothing more than 'feedback' questionnaires from which they derived a score used to evaluate managers.
Just like the Atkins diet and every health/food trend. This is the same thing, just in terms of psychology.
And like a lot of things in psych it's simple a product of how attractive you are and what tones of voice you use, and all that. Legit psych studies show us that people interpret people's intelligence and empathy based on their physical appearance, more than anything else, which is rooted in cultural expectations and stereotypes.
Nobody is taking EQ/emotional intelligence tests, other than random stupid quizzes on the internet, like MBTI or self-diagnosed authistic/adhd folks. Legit psychologies and therapists are not measuring anyone's 'emotional intelligence' because it's not a real thing that can be measured.
And no, I have no issue with the original researcher. He was pursuing his own theory and doing legit work, but it was bastardized when it was popularized. Which is pretty much the case of all legit science and research. Most popular interpretations of most scientific theories are vastly oversimplified to the point they are incorrect, because they aren't about doing science, they are about making a neat little meme that dumb folks can parrot to feel smart. That's what emotional intelligence is, a meme.
that's also how really successful human beings work. they bullshit and lie and appear confident, and people believe them and ignore the people who don't do that, because they don't appear as confident.
also why people basically fall in love with AI, because it spouts nothing but bullshit at them and they eat it up like candy because being fed back bullshit is a dopamine hit.
interacting with real people doesn't supply endless dopamine and they might not tell you what you want to hear.
Getting old is watching all your former 'rebel' friends become the Empire.
And worse, watching your former empire friends, seem more like the rebels.
and then realizing they're all assholes and none of them really care about anyone other than themselves and this movie was fun, but a horrible horrible way to view the world.
The real struggle is going on at your local town/neighborhood meeting and voting for the city rep you have never heard of is the one making the biggest impact on your life.
The genius of Mandami, that everybody ignores, is he is entire focused on small potatoes local issues that actually effect the voters lives. But in america, filling pot holes and auditing/moving budget items for more pragmatic spending, makes you a communist, or something. Real change is in the boring details, not the grand historical narrative.