Im surprised to see that many people disliking christmas, seems like 50/50 in the comments, i would have expected something like 30/70
I find it stressful, i dont like feeling judged about how i give and receive gifts, having to be nice around my extended family even when they are mean or boring, the elaborate cooking, etc.
Im much more comfortable with new year's night : no fixed traditions, usually with friends rather than family, overall simpler and just focused on being with people i like.
Okay thanks for sharing your experience, it seems indeed a very good example of how bad it can be
Thanks also for the explanation about the instance in the answer
For people saying it's a weakness because it causes or is caused by censorship from the mods, are you directly experiencing it? If yes, on which instance?
I got involved in a few heated discussions with members, but I was never bothered by any moderator/admin. I'm not sure if this is due to my views (anarchism / libertarian communism) but I don't think so since they are not the ones of the main instances I roam (.world which seems quite soc-dem to me and all the tankies one).
To me all of this seems like an overall positive thing : the lack of hardcore far right dudes is a big plus, and I don't think the political views can really influence the quality and quantity of content you can propose otherwise (which is to my eyes why there is not that much people here). Like I don't think rightwing people will flee from Lemmy because of the political thing, but like i think most people do: mostly because there is not that many people and therefore that many content to begin with. But there again, I never directly experienced or witnessed political censorship or exclusion, and it seems a common experience so i might not have the best point of view.
I have 19°C for daytime, 17°C at night and I admit it's quite comfortable overall. But me and my partner's feet still feel cold though, so it might be partly due to the actual temperature, partly due to a psychological bias that makes them feel really cold since they are way colder than the rest of the body.
The usual temperature around me (center of France), at work and as default on devices, is 20-21. I never thought about what it was in other climates, I guess you are in a colder region than me, or that energy is too expensive. Maybe I'll lower a bit more my actual temperature target
My parents do chicken or rabbit "Gaston-gérard" : some meat cooked in a skillet, pouring white wine in it and adding mustard, cream and cheese. There is paprika in the original recipe but we skip this part.
Same as some people said, I can cook something close, but not the same way my parent do.
I do think like others that regarding the law or facts, we should expect evidences before expressing a judgment
But I also think that feelings are a different story : it really depends on how you feel about the way people defends themselves. Like even if all of this is false, but he is evasive about it, it may be enough to shatter your trust and therefore your relation.
This part is up to you to determine, taking in consideration that he may be going through rough times, but you don't need someone to be an actual baddie to dislike them, your feelings do not have to be tied to fact.
I have no drawers but at least one box per room for this purpose