It is really silly that it's not taught.
Physical Education? Check.
Academics? Check.
Emotional Intelligence? Whoa whoa whoa there, slow down now, that's not for public education. That's done in the home, with Jesus!
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I know Serbia and rakija! It reminds me of grappa. Sorry you're also stuck in a toxic society and have the curse of knowing it could be better.
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I'm guessing you're also an American. I feel you, friend. The US has a cultural toxic positivity problem, amongst other issues. Got a problem? STFU and turn that frown upside down! They're not problems but opportunities! It could be worse! It is... what it is. 🫠
So people bottle up their negative emotions and don't learn how to deal with them. They don't know how to seek OR give support. Some feel threatened when presented with someone else's negative emotions, and it doesn't help that the other usually doesn't know how to present them, so they try to make it go away.
I have no idea how to fix it on a societal level beyond learning to do better ourselves and setting a good example for others.
Tell me about it, and there's always something better than what you have. How to be smart about buying tools deserves its own entire comment chain.
I didn't know about these until recently, but I now recommend folks check out local tool libraries to get started and see what they want or need for low to no cost.
We have a one car garage full of maintenance and fabrication tools I've acquired over my life. They've paid for themselves multiple times over in even just the last decade, but the cost and space requirements are prohibitive for a lot of folks. It's one of those "having money saves money" situations, but tool libraries can help a lot.
Don't get into woodworking if you have a compulsion to achieve accurate, precise results because wood is fiddly as fuck.
OR
DO get into woodworking if you have a compulsion to achieve accurate, precise results because it will burn that shit right out of you If you don't die from an aneurysm first. It'll teach you to build all sorts of wiggle room into everything in life, not just furniture.
People will think what you made was amazing, that it took so much skill.
Nope.
Only you know how you put everything together loosely, then tightened screws incrementally while adjusting clamps and smacking it with a rubber mallet until it looked right. There are pilot holes they can't see that don't go anywhere. You definitely missed gluing something important. You might have weighted a piece with epoxy and cat litter because you forgot to buy weights, it was 3 am, and you were unintentionally high as balls on stain fumes, but you really wanted to finish in time to surprise your partner for their birthday.
They don't know, they'll never know, and they don't need to know.
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Same, he's such a great guy too..
YES. I'm piggy backing on your post to drive home why you keep your receipts.
I was fired for performance issues after a little over a year of employment. They claimed I was working at a level lower than an entry level new hire. This was a big surprise to me as my most recent review was glowing, my expertise was carrying the department, and no one ever mentioned any concerns. The company was having issues, though, and I was the highest paid person in my department.
Unbeknownst to them, I keep a work journal. I spend five minutes at the beginning of each day reviewing what I did the day prior and what needs to be done that day, then recording it all in a little notebook made exactly for the purpose (I can link anyone if they're interested). So I spent about 20-25 hours over my time there doing this and had meticulous records of the entire time.
What's fun about my termination is I was out for 2 months recovering for surgery from a work injury. They fired me the day I returned for unsubstantiated performance issues that I can refute by the day.
Guess who is getting a $150k settlement.
That little notebook, on top of keeping me on track and making work easier, earned me about $6000/hour.
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Do you mean the pistil? The stamen is the part of a flower that creates pollen.
Assuming yes, it grows a tube down the pistil into the ovary, then sends sperm to fertilize the flower's ovules.
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Yep! Pollen are haploid, but technically they're actually monoploid (or equivalent, depending on polyploidy) given they're a fully functioning organism.
This is surprisingly common. All the pollen, male bees and ants (and actually a bunch of males in the order Hymenoptera grow from unfertilized eggs), and algae, for example. Certain fungi go through most of their lifecycles haploid and have a brief diploid phase, which undergoes meiosis to get right back to haploid, albeit for gametes this time. Tons of stuff! Nature is fucking wild.
Edit: haha, I just saw my Dad pun.
I always thought that was funny. Same with cheap, stick-built apartments with only the wood studs and two layers of drywall between them, the hallway, and other units, but tenants massively fortifying only the door.
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I was about to respond Jarvis to continue the chain, then realized the name sounded familiar. Yep, right in the comic.
It's me. The comic is about me.
Ask me about microbes!
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Totally. Each pollen grain is a more or less self-sufficient organism, at least for its task, which is being transported to another receptive plant, then producing sperm for fertilization.
The closest analogy would be if humans had loads of tiny testicles that they sprayed everywhere, hoping one would hook up with a female so it could produce sperm in them for fertilization.
Linux is so much better now! My only gripe is inconsistent/buggy dock support, but resetting Cinnamon every 15-20 minutes is a small price to pay for freedom.
I'm glad he has work, but that poor man...
There has been a lot of talk about their intent to change, but I fear I still see them leaning hard on the same maladaptive coping mechanisms that helped get us here. It's still early yet, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't concerned. I drew up a plan that I'm following, so I'm just waiting until I have enough info to know to continue or divorce.
I'm sorry you're feeling frustrated and hopeless about your relationship. It's really demoralizing when the other person doesn't want to hear there's an issue, or understands but there are issues with them working on it. I've experienced both from both sides and understand it's often more complex than it seems, but it still comes down to if they have the commitment and follow through necessary to make positive, sustained change, because that's hard to do. Really hard.
If I may provide some unsolicited advice, couples counseling can be great. If you go that route or have already and want to try again, I'd recommend seeing a therapist that specializes in couples and is experienced in providing therapy for any conditions present, like ADHD, borderline personality disorder, or PTSD. The Gottman Method is great. Couples counseling is also most effective in conjunction with individual counseling, so partners can really dig into their own experience and what they bring to the relationship.
It's so much better than Reddit, especially since that shit hole promotes the controversial posts and comments that lure people in to argue. I was on there a few days back and almost got sucked in.
Better! We're working it out, so that's good, but we have over a decade of things to go through, plus working on ourselves as individuals. It's exhausting.
My partner was the one to pull the divorce card, actually with no warning whatsoever. It's so appropriate for a relationship that turned out to be significantly defined by poor communication.
In retrospect, the critical signs were pretty obvious, but we both mistook them for other things. We had become very emotionally disconnected, but we were preparing for a huge move out of the country with a small pack of house pets so each of us thought that's why the other was stressed. This actually was true for me while my partner was stressed because they wanted to run screaming but didn't feel comfortable saying anything.
We had both been withholding some major concerns about the other throughout our relationship, so each had a second, secret narrative that wasn't being discussed or challenged in couples counseling. Plus we both have CPTSD from shitty childhoods and have cross-reactive behavior. Lots of angst here.
This stuff can sneak up on you if you don't have healthy habits that help identify and prevent it, but it's clear as day once you learn. We're getting there and we'll be better people for it, but it's brutal sometimes and we're just at the beginning.
I could actively make things worse for a fraction of the price!