No no no! I know it's just a silly meme. I just get bristle-y when I see commenters being all "haha yes cat stupid dog good", which I've seen in other posts.
You are not a danger to them. Why would they react with urgency to a non-threat?
You are speaking a human language — not cat language. Attempting to speak on their level will yield results.
Cats are not dogs. Why do people get so snooty that most cats won't jump at their every command?
It's like people try to misunderstand cats. Drives me up the fucking wall.
(yes, I'm aware it's just a silly meme, but I'm so tiiiiiired of people being so smug about cats being "bad"/"dumb" pets compared to dogs. The difference is that people are accustomed to dogs doing everything they want them to do. That's fucking weird)
Ella is a twat. Having a disability/handicap does excuse dehumanizing someone else. She can be hateful with her parents if she really wants, but don't tolerate that shit.
She's on a slippery slope for a larger part of society to start dehumanizing her based on her diagnosis/identity, too. Glass houses, I guess. 💅
On a slightly related note, some kid I went to school with constantly got away with touching girls inappropriately because he blamed it on his ADHD. He gleefully kept getting away with it. It was absolutely disgusting. He graduated and ended up going to prison a couple years later. Turns out, "it was my ADHD!" is not a viable defense in the real world! 🤡
I get what you're saying. However, my meaning is more "this can lead you into worse problems" = unhealthy coping. Alcohol worked fantastic for me to cope! But holy shit that has often led to worse situations and terrible health consequences.
People use painting to cope. Writing. Music Ways to express yourself and explore how you feel without self-destruction. Ways to explore things that suck without potentially harming in worse ways.
Saying "this is how I cope!" while doing self-harm is unhealthy. It's a wobbly-ass crutch that is also full of glass that will hurt you if you once you lean on it too hard.
Do I blame folks for unhealthy coping? No. Not at all. I get it 100%. But a lot of it is used to numb the pain and ignore things instead of addressing it, and can turn into habit that will make your life so much worse, on top on your initial problems.
There are two kinds of copes: healthy & unhealthy. What is your goal? If it's to actually heal, you need to take steps towards healthy coping.
I'm working through my unhealthy copes. Things like targeted bitterness, willfully ignoring the issues, depersonalization, detached relationships, etc.
Long-term, I ain't doin' so great. But I'm trying to be in a healthier mindset in order to get better.
Baby steps.
And in case anyone needs a reminder: forgiveness does not mean "letting it ride"— sometimes it means letting it go of the hurt that's clung onto you so that you can move forward, regardless of the other party. It's a journey.... it.. certainly is a journey.. and it will absolutely take time. And it doesn't always involve closure. That's where I personally am right now.
Anyhow. Yeah.
I don't enjoy healthy coping. It hurts a lot. But I know it's what I need to do in order not to destroy both myself & the others around me who may genuinely care.
Idk. Shit's hard, yo.
EDIT: yeeeah, one time I did nothing else except immerse myself in a video game for like 3 months straight. No joke. Addiction has a lot of forms, but they'll all fuck you up.
I'm so sorry. I hope that the two of you are doing well.
It's an actual tragedy how women's health is dealt with. They get brushed off because "women have been giving birth for hundreds of thousands of years!", ignoring that it's the number one thing that kills women!! So our reproductive health and concerns are ignored while the ability to reproduce is put onto a pedestal.
Pain was deep, ye. Can't answer the question about physical activity because it rendered me unable to do any! But, yes, exerting any kind of physical effort seemed to make it worse.
I would lie on the cold bathroom floor every month with a heating pad / hot water bottle on my stomach, but it gave little relief through the simultaneous hot flashes and cold sweats.
Two things that actually helped somewhat if I could catch it hours before it started were: eating bananas (I suspect potassium helped with cramping), and, weirdly.. drinking pickle juice. Idk what that was about, but it worked.
But have "your friend" get checked for endometriosis and PCOS!!! That shit can actually escape your uterus and scar up / destroy your other organs!!! No joke!!!!
Oh buddy oh oh no buddy noooo 😱