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Séimhe (sé / é)

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  • Google has started encrypting its search results' URLs with "goto?=" links for logged out sessions and/or scrapers ( 28 August, 2026 )

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  • Good on you for trying

  • Google has started encrypting its search results' URLs with "goto?=" links for logged out sessions and/or scrapers ( 28 August, 2026 )

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  • Gods forbid we be inconvenienced in the slightest.

  • Google has started encrypting its search results' URLs with "goto?=" links for logged out sessions and/or scrapers ( 28 August, 2026 )

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  • Stop Killing The Internet: No Digital ID & No Age Verification | European Citizens' Initiative

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  • Déanta ✍️

  • With the backlash to data centers, Flock and AI glasses, a mass opposition to big tech is underway. Silicon Valley is in denial.

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  • Yes. I think they just need to get their data centres built. Once they’re in position there will be less to report on, unless the people find a way to make the already existing centres newsworthy. That’s harder.

  • With the backlash to data centers, Flock and AI glasses, a mass opposition to big tech is underway. Silicon Valley is in denial.

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  • The “backlash” is half hearted and also sensationalised a little in the media.

    People have not come together to meaningfully boycott these platforms. Boycott is the language these capitalists understand.

    I do not understand why people still use meta platforms, for example. We could level these companies quickly. The excuse that “everyone else I know is there” is wilful paralysis: waiting for someone else to go first. And that’s why these tech oligarchs are confident. They’re probably right to be.

  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • There is research that vouches that the quality of the relationship (or rapport) is more important than modality with respect to outcomes. Your instincts sound good.

    And yes, trying to do this ourself is like trying to put up a tent by oneself in my experience. We usually need a “spotter” at the very least.

    Best of luck.

  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • It’s good to have that awareness. Fear of abandonment doesn’t just moderate how we connect with people, it moderates how we feel about connection, during connection, etc.

    I’m not the biggest fan of CBT - I think it can be used in a way that’s too clinical rather than felt - but wading into the beliefs you have about abandonment and self-worth can be very valuable. We can’t confront something until we shine a light on it.

    Once the beliefs and feelings are labeled to some extent, the next step with CBT could be to identify the cognitive ( C ) distortions in those beliefs and then explore what a more balanced substitute could look like. Then by examining the behavioural (B) influence those beliefs had on you, you can try out new behaviours too. That kind of therapy (T) can help flush emotional states that have been stuck for some time.

    But the mechanics of CBT aren’t enough. A well attuned therapist is what makes it more than the sum of its parts.

  • BBC: “It shouldn’t have taken a lawsuit for Meta to implement safety measures, whistleblower says”

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  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • I would say every relationship I had was painful at the end. Breaking up is so hard whether it’s the person making the decision or the person who finds out. I look back on them fondly now, though, and I’m still friends with some of those. My last breakup was very amicable and we’re still besties.

    The reason I say all that (and feel free to check out if this is getting too much) is I wonder do you tend to weigh the final moments more in your memories? I’ve been able to separate those breakups, depersonalise them and it’s left me with a solid footing where I look back and feel enriched by the relationship that preceded them.

    Learning about cognitive distortions can maybe help a little here, especially maximisation (of the negatives) and minimisation (of the positives).

  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • It sounds like you’re feeling. understandably, lonely. Sometimes that’s because our relationships with our friends have changed, although it can akso be because we become a bit numb even to what is good for us.

    I remember what it’s like not being in the headspace to find good memories. It really helped me to keep a mental journal of those. Although I did have to crawl out of a hole slightly first to be able for that.

    One thing is for sure, your emotions are telling you that you need something and in my experience doing other things (like playing games etc) only amplifies them. It’s as if they’re demanding our attention and contact.

  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • A partner is a wonderful thing. Sometimes they just happen organically when we’re enjoying ourselves in other ways.

    A baseline support of people you care about and who care about you can be very nourishing.

    My own best memories are of shared laughter with friends, even if those friendships were fleeting. Those times did more for me than consumption (eg of media).

    The diagnosis sound challenging. Are there other neurodivergent people in your life that you enjoy meeting? What are your happiest memories?

  • How do you escape paralyzing sadness?

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  • Sorry to hear you’re going through this. It sounds complicated in your case: a history of a depressive or lethargic baseline, medication in the mix and an unavoidable reminder of the rejection.

    TV, computer games, etc, cannot meet human needs. We are an interdependent species that generally need meaningful human relationships.

    I think that instead of figuring out how to not be sad, you might need to look at what has made you genuinely happy over the course of you life.

    Also, do you have a diagnosis that justified the medication?

  • BBC: “It shouldn’t have taken a lawsuit for Meta to implement safety measures, whistleblower says”

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  • As much as i despise Meta and our governments who collude with them, my biggest disappointment is our fellow citizens who enable them the most.

  • Ghosted by a guy I thought I had a strong connection with but was very physically affectionate on our first dates and suddenly changed his tone - should I follow up?

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  • When a narcissistic (or other personality disorder) person has disposed of us, it’s normal to feel totally disorientated. I’m assuming too much here, but I’ve seen this pattern often so since you sound surprised I’ll just elaborate a little.

    Unfortunately there are many men out there who only really experience feelings around their base desires: eating, drinking, sex, etc. They want to be satiated, but because they lack empathy they can’t engage normally with people. So they calculate in advance how to maximise charm and speed up results. They’ve gotten good at this from spending a lot of time observing people and wondering why they’re not like them. Usually from an early age.

    Once they’ve gotten what they want, it’s like having just had a large meal. They cannot face us anymore, and faking interest even becomes harder. When the appetite builds up again they either return or find their next source of supply.

    It’s usually best to find someone new who sees them as new and interesting. That feels really good, and nobody who has known them a bit longer can really provide them with that bedazzled reaction that the narcissist craves.

    They look like normal people, work, make small talk etc, to blend in well when they have to but they’re not like us.

    I’m so sorry this happened to you. I know the feeling.

  • Do not use ai

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  • You cannot run it locally and have the same thing that oligarchs and big-tech have at their disposal.

  • What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.

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  • I think the part of their humanity that feels empathy, bonds, compassion and so on are completely absent in some people. But more than that, not only are they incapable of feeling or reciprocating love and empathy, they also have a sadistic appetite for other people’s suffering and little else can satiate them.

  • What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.

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  • Those anchor points (stable people) are essential. It’s why I try to be less of an introvert these days. You never know who you’re helping just by being explicitly decent.

  • What it something a parent did that damaged your relationship with them forever with no recovery.

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  • Jesus. That doesn’t sound like a momentary lapse in judgment the way you describe it, but a trait. Must have been horrendous. Well done for not turning out like that.

  • Fediverse @lemmy.world
    Séimhe (sé / é) @lemmy.world

    Would this feature be useful? (Duplicate URL alerted across communities and servers).

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    Séimhe (sé / é) @lemmy.world

    Loops Studio turns your activity into clear, interactive graphs so you can see exactly how your content is performing on web and mobile.

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  • Ask Lemmy @lemmy.world
    Séimhe (sé / é) @lemmy.world

    Which accounts on the Fediverse have the most followers?