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    What’s the psychology behind enjoying immersing yourself in negativity online?

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  • People tend to only know their own lived experience and think that they're "normal". Hurt people hurt people, privileged people have massive blind spots. Everybody judges, it's how we learn. And some people are grumpy.

  • What's that thing the internet insists you be outraged about but you just can't bring yourself to care?

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  • Cope

  • Google goes cash flow negative for the first time as AI data center buildout increases capex to a staggering $44.9 billion in a single quarter — CFO warns that capex will increase in 2027 as company…

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  • Keep going! AI is the future!

    We all love AI. I wish it were smarter and made it so I could have it do anything.

    I don't want to spend anything on it though, that's your investment. Keep going, though! Don't let your dreams be dreams!

  • Several US schools to install pepper-spraying drones to respond to school shootings

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  • Lmao, even

  • Threadiverse Major Defederations Graph

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  • Since defederating is essentially an explicit block list and is directional, my assumption is that the groups that are circled have defederated from the things they're pointing at. I could be wrong.

    Map needs a key/legend.

    The red circled stuff seems to be only one possible option, but isn't visually very distinct, and the red circle shouldn't be broken like that, just make sure the lines are all visible.

  • Threadiverse Major Defederations Graph

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  • Block the "default". That's actually pretty clever. Not because you dislike those people, but because it's the default and requires extra effort to not be a part of.

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    Alberta man who claimed 'sexsomnia' cleared of sexually assaulting ex in his sleep | The Province

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  • A fascinating story, for sure.

    But, even before your examination of the topic of guilt, it doesn't really fit into this community, does it? To me, it just reads like some mildly clickbait news.

  • Kentucky Gov Orders McConnell to Give a Real Update or Resign Already

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  • Michigan residents sue AI data center emitting noise 24/7 — company fined for industrial noise ordinance violations, offers to buy homes from residents

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  • Being "reasonable" with unreasonable people is unreasonable. Be reasonable.

  • Michigan residents sue AI data center emitting noise 24/7 — company fined for industrial noise ordinance violations, offers to buy homes from residents

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  • Yeah an outrageous amount, plus ethical costs to undo all the fuckery, the lost peace, the labor and lost investments, and all of that doubled, is the correct fee.

    If the house would have sold for 1m, ask for 50m, then the environmental damage costs in equipment and labor and plants and animals, so now we're up to 1b, doubled to 2b, and a fat 50% fuckyou fee on top and round up to 3b usd.

    People need to aim higher. If the company won't pay and will ruin your life instead, then guess their intent is actual war, and they shall have it.

    Don't let the bullies win. Fight back.

  • What was your worst dating app experience?

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  • Oh yeah you did, sorry, just an interesting tidbit on terminology

  • What was your worst dating app experience?

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  • Strokes happen, and a lot more often than we know. Like it's funny, but brain damage is well within the realm of possibility. It doesn't change anything - or, I guess, I suppose it does change things, often permanently, so that might be one very real, very possible reason.

    Probably not good to chalk it up to "my partner left me because they had a stroke". I, personally, would say it's healthiest to land on "there were differences between both of us that somehow disabled healthy communication" because that's most often reality. That being said, until there's a pattern and you still can't tell what you may be doing, I wouldn't worry too much about you doing something worth changing. If there is a pattern, however, that's probably worth looking into.

    I've dated people who have this pattern. It's not really their fault. One person was neurodivergent (i am too) and I'm avoidant af. I basically lied and ghosted them for a few months, claiming needing space, which was true, but it helped me see the issues I had with their person, the incompatibilities that I couldn't get over. They bothered me deeply, but I decided they were not something about them I could emotionally handle or would be in any way constructive to confront them over. To this day, I still feel horrible that I had to do that, but saw no other way out. I'd like to think I've matured since then and maybe could handle it better, but it hasn't been that long since.

    And eventually reconnected with them and apologized and we officially broke up. They weren't happy, but thankful that I didn't entirely ghost them. We're still sort of friends but don't talk much, and they seem to have found their people, which I'm really glad for.

    This story is just one, very specific possibility. From what I've seen in my limited lifespan, it's probably not the only kind of situation. I'm definitely at fault too.

    Breaking up is hard. There isn't a set way and a lot of people just don't know how to do it. I don't have great advice for you, but I still think empathy is the way forward for us all, including for yourself.

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    If a married man says he’s only married on paper, what are the chances he’s just cheating?

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  • No judgement, but unless you contact the wife, you're both cheaters.

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  • I mean, you aren't wrong. I generally try to unless it's really obvious. Like if I think the person and i are on the same page. I'm not out here to hurt anybody. But that's also why I think it's important to learn that lesson so you don't get hurt. Like, teach your kids to have a reasonable self confidence so they aren't fucking so self centered that they're overly sensitive. Dont expect the world to bend to you, specifically, and have a modicum of some self emotional reliance.

    Both can be right at the same time.

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  • Self iduced moment of clarity in order to gtfo

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  • Yeah religion is basically a hard no for me. I like thinking.

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  • People are weird and complex. For all you know, she had a mini stroke and that's that.

    It's weird how these sorts of unknowns can haunt us for years. It's like a math equation that we can't solve but we must solve. An itch that we can't itch. You'll get it eventually. I had a really fucked up breakup when I was a teenager that bothered me all through my 20s. It wasn't until I matured a ton that I figured out how messed up it was. It took my own growth of perspective to be able to look back and understand why I felt the way I did for so long and why it was so confusing. We're just weird like that.

    I hope you can find happiness 🫂

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  • Nah. Definitely not. Standard hard lesson you gotta learn when dating is that if the person doesn't want to talk to you after the first date, that's it. Move on.

    I had a date many years ago with a friend of a friend who I didn't like at all after about 30 mins into the date. I paid for the meal, we chatted by our cars, and both left. I thought it was mutually a "nah". Boyyyyyyy was I wrong.

    I guess to some people, you are the only date they're going on this decade, and it matters a lot.

    But those people are too out of touch. It was one date. No sex, no kiss, no spark. An hour or two at most. Move on. I shouldn't have to put somebody down after THAT much body language and lack of anything else. The message is communicated. I shouldn't have to look them in the eyes and literally tell them I'm not interested.

    Like, if it's vague or middle of the road, fine. If it's a second date or later, fine. If we decide to hook up anyway, then yeah that needs to be clarified. But not after one short date with nothing but awkward silence and no chemistry.

    Like, remember what you're there for: to meet somebody you want to spend the rest of your life with. If there isn't a spark, there isn't a spark. And if you're there to hook up, then obviously this doesn't need to be said.