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  • About 5 years ago or so, was standing waiting for the bus, minding my own business. Next to me was a man in his 40's, and his ~10 year old kid. Suddenly I saw from the corner of my eye that the man just collapsed, like you see in cartoons, straight down on the ground. Kid froze up and just stared at him, and I quickly realized that "Oh fuck, I am the adult in the situation."

    Went over to the man, who was conscious, but confused and angry. Luckily I recognized the signs of hypoglycemia, and asked the kid if his dad has diabetes. Kid didn't answer, just stared at him. Snapped my fingers in his face, and he came out of it, and answered "Yes, type 1". Told the kid to run to the nearby store and get a juice box or two, don't bother paying or explaining, we'll deal with it later. I stayed with the dad, tried asking some questions while ringing the emergency number, and he let me check his head. Luckily he didn't hit it, there was no blood at least.

    Got the ambulance sorted, and kid ran back with juice boxes, with the store clerk running and screaming in tow. I yelled at the clerk that it's an emergency, man with diabetes collapsed. Clerk didn't care or listen, just screamed at the kid that he stole the juice boxes and tried to grab him. I got up and stepped between them, and raised my voice over hers (fortunately I have a very loud voice if I want to) and she shut up for a few seconds before starting her inane tirade about stealing and how she's gonna phone the cops. I lost my temper and told her to shut the fuck up and either help or fuck off, who the fuck cares about 50 cents worth of juice, man's life was on the line.

    After drinking two boxes of juice, the man perked up and was coherent again, and stated that he has type 1 diabetes and forgot to eat. I told him it's fine, ambulance is on the way, do you need more sugar? He said he's fine, and tried to get up but I gently stopped him. During all of this, the clerk was still going on about stealing, and I got pissed, told her I know stores have a budget for this sort of thing, what the fuck is your problem, this man had an emergency, the kid did what I told him and it was the right thing to do. At this point, I remembered the kid.

    The kid was standing there, tears in his eyes, staring at his feet. I pat him on the back, told him to not listen to the insane lady, you did good lad, saved your dad's life. Ambulance came at that point, and the man started fussing how he doesn't need an ambulance, he's fine. Told him that it's a good idea to get checked even if you feel fine, see if there's any underlying issues, check your head in case you hit it etc.. Got the paramedics up to speed, they started a glucose and hydration drip.

    During the whole ordeal, the clerk never stopped yammering and whining, so one of the paramedics told her to knock it off and jot it up as cost of business, stores have a budget for this exact sort of thing, and it was less than a euro worth of juice that saved a man's life. They thanked me for the quick help, told them it's fine, I have friends with diabetes, not my first rodeo, and I have a first aid certificate, got lucky I was there. Turned to the kid, who was sitting in the ambulance with his dad, still crying silently, in complete shock. I fist bumped him, told it was gonna be okay, you did good. Both the kid and dad thanked me, I told them no need, I just did what anyone else would have. Ambulance left.

    Store clerk was still fuming, and tried to start her shit again with me. I took out my wallet, had 2 euro coin there and I threw it on the ground. Told her "there you go, you stupid piece of shit. You have your money, what the fuck are you still doing here" and put on my headphones, ignoring her. She left shortly after, glaring at me. I gave her the finger. She didn't even pick up the 2 euro coin.

    My bus came, and I was almost an hour late for work at that point. Boss nagged me when I got there, but calmed down when I explained. Was pissed about the clerk all day.

    All of this at 06:30 in the morning. I'm not a morning person. It sucked. At least I could help someone in need.

    Moral of the story (if you really want one):

    Don't be a fucking dickhead.

    Also, if you have the chance, do first aid training. I've had several situations during my life where things could've ended worse if I didn't know how to react. One situation unfortunately where it didn't matter, old boy had a seizure (I think aneurysm or stroke) and was dead before the paramedics got there, me and another dude had been doing CPR for 20 minutes on a dead man, but at least we did our best.

  • Barebow archery, penspinning, homelab / home network, misc. coding projects I rarely finish.

    Penspinning started as a kid as a selfstimming activity since I annoyed people with bouncing leg and table drumming. Looking back, I don't know why it took 30 years to get ADHD diagnosis.

    Barebow archery started by doing a team activity intro archery and I noticed it immediately cured my chronic shoulder pain. It turned out to be inferred pain from Infraspinatus, not shoulder per se.

    Homelab/network just stem from my desire to have a carefully controlled environment due to deep distrust in... well, everything.

    Coding projects usually start by me having a specific need or problem, then I start fixing it, and generally end up over-engineering it.

    Archery, penspinning and coding are relatively cheap hobbies. Homelab/network doesn't need to be expensive either. All of these CAN absolutely be money sinks, especially homelab/networks and archery, but starting out is affordable.

  • I think you might be right from what I can gather without a video to check the body language and a longer term observation.

    Spot on, but I would personally go for slow horizontal approach to cheeks if you don't know the cat, a lot of cats freak out about things above them, so going directly to top of head is a bit risky, and has gotten me bit before. I would offer a scent mark target first, just stick a (tucked in, hard to bite!) knuckle out for them and if they rub their cheek against it, you're golden. After that I would move to chin and then top of head/behind ears.

  • To me it sounds like it could be what some littermates do to eachother, he's calling you to play. Our cats will do this same thing, but to each other: Jade will first go groom Ciri's face for a bit, perhaps a little stranglehold here, or she flops down in front of her sister, asking her to jump on top and wrestle, a lot like what you've described in the post. YMMV obviously, you know your cat better than a stranger online etc., but my two cents from my experience with a lot of litters in the past, I've seen this before many times.

    It can also be what comment above said, he could be just showing his trust to you, but since it's such a high stakes thing, he could be a little overstimulated and doesn't know what he actually wants, and just reacts like his instincts are telling him.

  • Oh that's interesting, I'll look into it. Cheers!

  • I've been floating the idea of running Matrix on my NAS anyway, so thanks to Discord for finally pissing me off enough to prioritise getting off of the shitty platform.

  • Exactly, I had to work through a bunch of stuff, and took 6 years in uni for BA, goal is 3 years. Then I left and worked on myself again, and went back to school for a different field at 26y, graduated at 29. Wife got her BA at 27, masters at 32 and is now working on doctorate.

    There is no one fits all path, guide or schedule for life. Do your best, fuck anyone who would sneer at your huge achievement just because it took a little more time.

  • So are we just casually dropping slurs now?

  • Thank you, much appreciated!

  • Could someone post the transcript here? I refuse to adhere to "accept cookies or subscribe" model. Much appreciated.

  • Plenty of those around. I hope they find an outlet for that frustration, do some introspection and become the best version of themselves, whatever that looks like. I'm just not interested in being a part of that process.

  • Yes.

  • Making a lot of outrageous assumptions here, enough to make me lean towards you either being a bot, or just incredibly ignorant. Either way, I'll have a more pleasant life without you, hopefully you can find some happiness in your life as well. :)

  • Well, that is certainly a takeaway from this. Maybe not the intended or correct one, but certainly a takeaway.

  • Thanks, it was about 20 years ago, and exactly as you said, good riddance.

    Funnily enough, my grandfather who fought in the winter war supported me. Quote: "War is not a place for anyone. It is horrifying."

  • Finland. My own father came very close to disowning me for not going to the army. He did call me colourful slurs for years, before I cut ties.

  • We have it, it sucks. Especially in it's current form, it's discriminatory and archaic. You basically have 4 choices: go to the army, do civil service (pesudo-slave labour essentially), go to jail (usually house arrest) or try to get out of it by faking a mental illness.

    I did civil service, and nobody told me of the stigma that follows not going to the army; especially conservative people will treat you like a second class citizen, a coward, lazy, hippie or a traitor. It's even worse if you decide to protest and go to jail instead of serving. On top of that, there's not a lot of the service places nowadays, it cannot be a for profit company, and has to be "useful to the community" sort of thing. Most people go to schools, unemployment centers or old folk's homes. The work I did for 364 days was in a school, and had nothing to do with my studies or interests, nor did it teach me any skills. I was mostly bored out of my mind.

    Being stuck in the army/service also delays your studies, and can make it harder for some people to continue studying afterwards due to the forced delay in between.

    If you add in how it's incredibly discriminatory, that only males have to do it, it's voluntary for females, and certain religious groups get a free pass, but I can't get a free pass because of my principals or morals. I believe some promising athletes can get a free pass as well, but don't quote me on that.

    Basically, at least in it's current state, it's bad. With some fundamental changes and prioritizing the wishes/principals of the individual, I wouldn't have a problem with it. I'm not a fan of my individual choice being ignored with a threat of jailtime. An opt-out model I would be fine with, but I guess that kind of doesn't fit with your questions, as it's not exactly mandatory at that point.

    There's a lot more to be said, but that covers most of my main opinions briefly.

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  • Yes, barely. Kind of odd on FF on mobile, have to long press it, and it shows like the first 100 characters or so. But I did read the screenshot by zooming, so we cool.

    Thank you for taking the time to write an alt text! Wife is an accessibility consultant/expert/researcher, who works mainly with vision impaired people, and she has made me realize how crucial it is. :)

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  • Pheromone vaporizators work wonders. Just make sure to pre-emptively set it up like 2 weeks prior. Not magic, but helps massively in my experience. Might help with your resident cat's anxiety long term, too.

    I would not under any circumstances do the introduction of a new cat during a move or shortly after, as you said, it will just add to the stress of the resident cat and prolong the process needlessly.

    On top of that, best way I have found is have the kitten in one room, and every day introduce the kitten's smell to the new cat. Smells are incredibly important for cats.

    Take it slow, do short controlled "shows" for the resident cat, show the kitten far away, don't let it too close too quickly, that's when defense kicks in and it prolongs the process.

    Overall, be patient, go slow, don't force interactions, pay close mind to body language. Majority of cats will get a long as long as the introduction is done properly, and on their terms. How long it takes is highly dependent on the individual cats and their tempers. From your post, it could be on the longer end of the spectrum.

    Have a worst case scenario planned out before making any choices. If it seems like there's no way, you will have to accept that as well, and be ready to rehome the kitten.

    This is a good video about the subject: https://youtu.be/tsYT7yIOdqQ Jackson Galaxy is a weird dude, but he does know cats.

  • memes @lemmy.world

    A random thought while hanging laundry