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  • Why do people hate on cosmetic surgeries so much?

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  • Cosmetic or elective procedures aren't covered by insurance though. If you mean resources like doctors, I agree somewhat, but insurance denying/underpaying/jamming access to essential procedures to force profit is a separate issue, and a much bigger one.

  • Why do people hate on cosmetic surgeries so much?

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  • I will counter with Martha Stewart, Helena Bonham Carter, Courtney Cox, and I'm sure so many more who really look like they have had face/neck lifts but just look good.

  • Why do people hate on cosmetic surgeries so much?

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  • My daughter says she hates it because it means money can make you look better.

    I kind of like that though - it is more democratic than "natural beauty" being the standard. If beauty is something you do or buy, maybe people think it's cheating, but how is that worse than it being luck?

    Don't imagine I'll ever have enough $ to want to spend it on cosmetic surgery, but I knew a lady with bad skin tone - she had a baby and was overweight, lost the weight but her torso skin stayed stretched out, all saggy. She got a tummy tuck and boob lift and holy cow it looked amazing, she felt so good about her body and said "it cost as much as a car but I will drive my body much longer than my car.". Nobody is going to convince me that's a bad thing that she ought not have done. She wasn't disfigured before, she did it to look good and she sure did.

    Every person owns their own body and should modify it however they want. I am not against even creative cosmetic surgery, you want elf ears, go for it. And I do not think ugly people are under any obligation to get modified so that they look "better" either. Whatever the individual wants, it is their call. This is one situation where I really feel it is not my business at all.

  • At your age, what surprises you the most about yourself?

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  • I am in my mid-50s and surprised by a few things. I'm not jaded, small things still delight me. I'm not nostalgic, find so much good new music every year, new authors and books, still figure out different ways to approach problems at my work - I thought I'd be more stuck or settled by now, and for sure thought I'd be bored and jaded.

    And I am constantly surprised nothing really hurts yet, thought I'd be less together physically than I am. Sometimes surprised I can still cartwheel.

    I am unhappily surprised to see society going backwards and hope I live long enough to see it turn back around and progress.

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  • The ability to see what is funny in a situation, quick wit, I think that's a good sense of humor. Understanding what will be funny to your audience. Not mean-ness. Though I do find snarky sarcasm funny, not the hurtful kind.

    And yes, sometimes I am funny, or so I am told.

  • I need a savoury, summery drink as an alternative to beer

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  • Oh, a note - in the US I have to use organic ginger for ginger beer, all the rest of it must have been irradiated or had some hotshot anti-everything spray because only organic ferments.

    Not for any other ferment I make is this true, only ginger. Tepache, fruit kvass, sourdough, I use conventionally grown stuff. I'm not sure this holds true everywhere but if it doesn't work, get organic ginger.

  • I need a savoury, summery drink as an alternative to beer

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  • The best starter for ginger beer is "ginger bug"

    Start with 2 big spoonfuls each of (grated) ginger and sugar in 2 cups of water. Stir it twice daily and feed it once a day, alternating

    Day 1, spoonful of sugar

    Day 2, spoonful of sugar and spoonful of grated ginger.

    Here it gets active in a couple of days but better to keep feeding and stirring for a week. Use a cup of the liquid to ferment a gallon of ginger beer and save another cup tightly covered in a refrigerator to start your next batch, so it will go faster.

    You can make it with yeast but it doesn't taste as good and is fussier.

  • How close have you ever been to a lightning strike, or related situation caused by a lightning strike?

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  • I don't know if this link will work or doxx me or something, can't figure out any other way to share it but this phenomenon happens sometimes here and it's crazy looking. I was so worried the first time I saw it, it looks like reality is breaking but it's lightning farther away.

    https://photos.app.goo.gl/hC3UdbMEBCwbPVG1A

  • How close have you ever been to a lightning strike, or related situation caused by a lightning strike?

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  • This sounds like one of those Volvo ads about the car keeping your family safe.

  • How close have you ever been to a lightning strike, or related situation caused by a lightning strike?

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  • I live where there is a lot of lightning (west central FL) so have had near misses where the flash and sound came at the same time but the incident I remember:

    I worked at a payroll company. One of our new clients was a landscaping company and in the first week they had an employee hit by lightning, and that one incident was more expensive to the workers' comp plan than the rest of the year combined, all companies. Poor guy died and not fast, it was heartbreaking. I also learned in that job that seawall building and underwater welding were our most risky clients (highest workers' comp cost) followed closely by racecar drivers.

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  • I don't use the sidewalk if pedestrians are using it. But do take it if nobody is walking on that stretch of sidewalk (and walk the bike across intersections) which is allowed - I am not sure if the electric bikes are, that's what I have, so may be breaking the law, technically. There is no bike lane on my way to work, not even the painted line. So it's either throw down with the cars or take the sidewalk.

  • I need a savoury, summery drink as an alternative to beer

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  • If you are willing to make it yourself, kvass or ginger beer, those can be dry and sparkling. Water kefir or kombucha. All very, very low in alcohol, not intoxicating. Chinotto soda is something I buy for dry months too.

    As someone else said, tonic water has a bitter edge that really hits the spot, I make a sweet non alcoholic cocktail called the Friend Zone, made with strawberry tepache (strawberry fruit kvass), lime, and tonic water, and I swear everyone thinks it's a boozy cocktail. Too sweet for what you are looking for here but it's certainly the tonic pulling most of the weight.

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  • I ride my bike on the sidewalk and don't mind taking the car road if there are pedestrians on it, but one week every day there were trucks blocking the sidewalk, to get out of the road. I do NOT like getting in the car road because a car is using the sidewalk. That feels so wrong.

  • People who listen to music regularly, how sad would you be if you were permanently deprived of the ability to listen to any music ever again for the rest of your life?

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  • I would be very sad but at least now have heard so much I think it would stick with me, and already get auditory hallucination sometimes, so might be able to imagine it. If you mean deafness.

    If you mean some sort of music blindness, like it's only music I can't hear, it never sounds like music and I can't remember any of it? That seems inhuman, and I am not sure at all whether I would miss it, maybe not - the only analogue I have is sex drive, I run hot most of my life, sex is something I enjoy so much and value that ability to enjoy it but when I was nursing kids, it was gone, entirely gone, I had less than no sex drive and while it caused problems in my relationship, I can't say I missed it exactly? I didn't care that I didn't care about sex and couldn't feel it. So if I became amusical in that way, maybe I would not care. It's just hard to imagine, just like right now it's hard to believe I didn't care about missing out on the sexual pleasure.

  • What are some things you put a ton of effort & work into, but it pays you $0, and you wish there could be some reward for all your hard work?

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  • That is so cool. I went to barber school when the curriculum was changing - we were not allowed to use reusable razors (height of the AIDS epidemic) but did have to learn how to sharpen them, and it's helped me in general. Haircutting shears I have only ever allowed an enthusiast sharpener to touch, like y'all, an artisan.

    My answer to the original question is probably food. I grow food, bake bread that would sell for $10 a loaf at today's prices, design fantastic cocktails and cook for big enough parties that I could do it as a side job. I enjoy hospitality, it's so satisfying, but as a job it is like a baby, relentless, no rest. The only way I would even dare is if we were so wealthy I didn't need to make money and could hire great staff, pay them so well.

  • My previous cat, 11 years ago

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  • OMG I had an enormous cat with very similar look who did exactly that to drink. His sister, though, knew that you had to get the water out of the glass to drink it, she would just tip it over with her paw, and drink from the resulting puddle.

  • Whats a band/artist who's music all sounds the same?

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  • I saw them live twice and they were great shows.

  • Whats a band/artist who's music all sounds the same?

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  • Whole lotta Rosie is on my husband's workout playlist and it is a jam. So good.

  • DAE in their 30s/40s/50s not really feel like an adult?

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  • Well in some ways yes, and in some ways no. I never seem to get jaded, silly things still make me laugh. I still can read and shut out the world like when I was a kid.

    But I am so competent in some ways? Can cook and hold a job, raised kids, gardens finally grow for me. All those seem adult qualities. And I have made so many mistakes and have been hurt so much, do feel the weight of experience. And while nothing hurts, and I can still cartwheel and do yoga, I have no bounce - can't run well, can't jump.