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RBWells

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  • Do you buy real Christmas trees or put up artificial ones?

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  • Maybe some enjoy flammable? My lunatic ex took an old Christmas tree out to the backyard and set fire to it because he wanted to see how fast they burn. He nearly did burn down the house, that was a BIG fire, very tall fire. But if you have a big enough space, or broke it down to burn more slowly and reasonably? Fuel.

  • Do you buy real Christmas trees or put up artificial ones?

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  • We get a real one from our neighbor, he does yardwork & sod most of the year but at Christmas he gets some trees to sell from some guy he knows in N Carolina and they are always amazing all of them. Yes it costs a lot, we have a large family who come for Christmas and it's nice, I categorize the expense as entertaining.

    When I was poor, I would just make a "tree" each year out of something. One year the coat rack, one year on the wall in construction paper, one year I found a inflatable one like a beach ball, one year my ex cut the top off a bush & hedged it into a cone - that went on for almost 20 years, always something different. My kids didn't mind at all, nobody ever said "you need a tree" only "cool". You don't need a tree. Don't feel obligated at all.

    At work I have a wee artificial one.

  • Ok, honestly, is cast-iron really any better than a non-stick, stainless, copper (anything else?) pan?

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  • Same here. I wash my pans with soap if they need it, dry them well and hang them up. Occasionally will rub a little oil in once they are all the way dry. Have been going for about 30 years, most of them. I did have to train my husband, he was soaking them overnight and that does mess with the seasoning. Now he either cleans immediately and dries it or throws it in the oven dirty to do later.

    IME they are nearly indestructible and you don't need to be so careful. The cast iron is my daily driver and I am not a gentle fussy cook. Just don't soak them in hot soapy water for hours.

  • Ok, honestly, is cast-iron really any better than a non-stick, stainless, copper (anything else?) pan?

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  • For me, cast iron are by far my most used pans. You know how flannel starts out sort of awful but gets better and better as it gets older? That's cast iron. Starts out sticky PITA but over time becomes satisfying satiny nonstick surface. I've always used them a lot so that's how my cooking style evolved.

    We also have one steel pan we call the Stick pan, sometimes you want food to stick so you can deglaze. My kids use it for potsticker dumplings, and they like it also because it's lighter, cast iron is heavy. And of course a rice and pasta pot, those are steel.

    I don't buy "nonstick" pans, they don't last and I'm not convinced they are safe.

  • Do people actually call their parents by their name (as in First-name basis)? Have you ever done that? Or witnessed someone doing that?

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  • No, my kids call me mom and yes I'd think it kinda rude if they first named me.

    But

    My step-kids call me by my first name, and my kids call my husband by his first name, and that is fine with both of us somehow.

    When kids are small here, they usually call adults Mr. or Ms. First Name. Older kids to teachers Mr. or Ms. Last Name, but my kids friends who are older still called me Ms. First Name. Not much Sir and Ma'am anymore but I still hear it sometimes.

  • What's your drink of choice?

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  • Water for sure #1

    Cafe con leche favorite caffeine drink. Diet coke distant second, but I like it.

    Cocktails, tie between margarita and paper plane I think.

    Wine? A dry Sauvignon Blanc.

  • Have you ever had premonition, a sixth sense, a third man, or inner voice that saved you?

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  • I dunno, they have the same ones in grocery stores here, still. Toledo No Springs. I haven't been back lately, they may still have it. And yes it was in a sort of lobby where the line for the tellers waited.

  • Have you ever had premonition, a sixth sense, a third man, or inner voice that saved you?

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  • No. I have had dreams that happened later in real life, precognitive (I used to set an alarm early, jot them down, and go back to sleep.) Not big, predictable events. I'd dream of someone I hadn't seen in years, seeing them in a location, and then see them. Sometimes comically. Never in any way that was helpful.

    Most notable example, I dreamed that I went to the local bank, they had a scale to weigh people. I got on the scale but it went backwards! I turned around and saw this girl Joann who I'd not seen since middle school. Wrote that down in my dream journal.

    Couple weeks later - I am at the bank I dreamed about. I get on the scale, but it's broken. Tells me I weigh 30lb. I turned around and who did I see? Joann, who I hadn't seen since middle school.

    I do not say this to convince anyone. It's my own evidence, and I personally know the dreams were precognitive, only because I wrote them down and often wonder if everyone does this, are we all dreaming the future? It really pissed me off when it happened because it made me feel like the future had essentially already happened and we had no free will.

    I guard my sleep more now and don't do the dream journal, but do still have them somewhere. If I hadn't written it down when I dreamed it I would have just thought I had deja vous.

  • What's your boomer trait?

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  • One day as I was leaving for work, my penultimate daughter said "mom, that fit shreds" and I was like, excuse me, WHAT did you call me?

    "Your clothes are great!"

    My outfit, it shreds. Apparently.

    I don't hate it but don't remember being very slangy as a teenager.

  • ‘There is no Mamdani effect’: Manhattan luxury home sales surge after mayoral election, undercutting predictions of doom and escape to Florida

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  • I'm from here. The cities are still ok. The culture war bullshit is at least partly smoke and mirrors, there was still a teacher doing a drag routine at my kid's middle school talent show at the performing arts school (and if you've never seen the talent show at a performing arts school, I recommend it.). Teachers still addressed my trans kid as they preferred. They broke New College for sure, though , that is terrible. The beaches are still ok.

    If I EVER run for office here, my slogan will be MFFA, Make Florida Freaky Again. The conservative assholes trying to squeeze us into a mainstream tight laced conservative hellhole have mistaken our mix of freaks and diversity for something homogeneous, like they think you can just average us out and squeeze it farther to the right, but that average was made up of a population that is so diverse no matter what axis you spin it on, I don't think you can bleach & iron it out like they seem to.

    So yeah it's getting worse, but is not yet as bad as when I was growing up (it was extremely violent down here). So my hope remains. All my kids are progressive.

  • Where do you go to find your recipes?

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  • Generally I just wing it, have been cooking so long I can develop my own recipes for most things. But sometimes I do have to look for tips, and will read recipes for inspiration.

    Food:

    Bon Appetit

    Recipe Tin Eats

    Boy who Bakes

    Perfect Loaf

    Food and Wine

    NYT Cooking

    Cocktails:

    Punch

    Imbibe

  • Wake up

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  • Exhaustion is so disorienting. I remember when my kids were very young and I couldn't sleep well, sometimes would get up because I had to pee, go to the bathroom but not be entirely convinced I was actually awake and not dreaming so I wasn't going to risk peeing in case I was dreaming.

    Now I go to sleep when I am sleepy, not before, and if it's late I text my husband "let me sleep until I wake up please". He has an alarm but I sleep through it, he wakes me up gently. Very luxurious.

  • Veronica Explains why she doesn't stream (from Netflix etc) #algorithmic_helplessness_sucks

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  • Oh, and speaking of Charley we were lucky enough to have the Charley Crockett/Leon Bridges show come through, holy crap, I'd seen both of them live before but getting TWO great performers in one night, wow. And that intersection between county and R&B is such pleasant music.

  • Veronica Explains why she doesn't stream (from Netflix etc) #algorithmic_helplessness_sucks

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  • I saw Joshua Ray Walker open for Marcus King and didn't even like his show but looked him up and found his recorded work to be incredible, THEN he found out he had cancer and that was part of why the live show was weak, nothing to do with his music, and says he is recovering now, but I felt so uncharitable thinking the show sucked when he was dealing with something so awful.

    But anyway - I do use streaming but like you find bands other ways, opening acts, radio, sometimes Brooklyn Vegan, that site posts about bands I've never heard of, I listen and find stuff I like (and a lot I don't).

  • Guess it was true

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  • That's a very odd looking 2 nearly 3 year old.

  • Tell me about the last sandwich you ate.

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  • Leftover turkey, blue cheese, pickled onions and fresh sliced thin sweet onions, with mayonnaise on homemade sourdough.

    I had been joking with my husband, said we needed cheese for sandwiches because all we had left was blue cheese and Parmesan, but then decided blue cheese and turkey didn't sound bad at all, and it wasn't.

  • How much do you care about music?

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  • I am an enthusiast but not a musician. So somewhere in the middle I guess? I try to go to several live shows every year, I'm aware of when someone I like puts out new music, I seek out unknown artists because I do love live performances more than recordings.

    I care enough about sound to buy Klipsch Bluetooth speakers on sale for the portable ones, all wired earbuds sound fine to me, as do the Google speakers we have paired to do stereo in the living room. I don't have the sort of ears that can tell great from good speakers, but can't listen to music on my phone speaker like my kids & husband can, those are so bad it bothers me.

    Music to me is art and entertainment, I don't think I'd call it content.

  • At your age, what surprises you the most about yourself?

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  • I am similar, everyone said Oh just wait till your 30s, oh just wait till you have kids, oh just wait till your 40s but it was my 50s that the weight really did stick, and like you I am not fat by any real standard, smack dab in the middle of healthy by BMI, and probably more conventionally attractive body type with a little bit of T & A but was so attached to being skinny it is disorienting. Logically I know this size is probably healthier for my bones and I feel good and am active, but I feel like I lost part of my identity, and don't like it.

  • Why do people hate on cosmetic surgeries so much?

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  • Cosmetic or elective procedures aren't covered by insurance though. If you mean resources like doctors, I agree somewhat, but insurance denying/underpaying/jamming access to essential procedures to force profit is a separate issue, and a much bigger one.