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Pronell

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  • What's your favorite movie that is in a language which you do not speak?

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  • City of Lost Children is my pick. It has such amazing worldbuilding. Drops you in cold with no apologies and trusts you to just go on the ride.

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  • The People have stated their priorities. If the rest of the machine refuses to work to fulfill those promises, they are betraying the people.

    Promises are fulfilled through work.

    Wishes come true. Terrible framing.

  • Does anyone actually like... talk to extended family/relatives? Like an active effort to maintain relations and not just because of forced family gatherings?

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  • I have a weekly D&D game with my favorite aunt and uncle, as well as my Dad and my cousin's husband.

    The latter runs one weekend, and I run the next, completely separate games of course.

    I'm 51, my dad is 79, and his sister and her husband are a few years younger than he is. No idea on my fellow DM, I suspect late 40s.

    If you find a common thread to hang on to, you can have a great relationship.

    In this case, my aunt and uncle knew I was a huge weird nerd whose dad introduced him to D&D at 7 years old, so they thought to invite me when their daughter's husband made a game for them.

    Seven years later, we are still at it and I run a game for my friends as well.

    These relationships can be nurtured, as all can. You just have to find and maintain the why's.

    Even people who don't give a crap about birdwatching may still love to see the birds their old friends spot.

    But to further your point, I don't make much of an effort for those relatives that I don't have much in common with.

    This year's Christmas present is a box of homemade fudge, rice krispie treats, and spicy chex mix, all homemade.

    That's the effort I put in for those I don't have in my weekly or monthly life but are extended family.

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    A question for those who have a partner, how did you manage to do it and how long did it take?

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  • My wife and I met through Okcupid about fifteen years ago.

    I had been in an insanely stupid long-distance relationship, called it off, and started looking for someone local.

    The woman I broke things off with was younger than me and baby crazy, so I extended my age range by the same amount and met my wife quickly thereafter.

    Specifically, we chatted for two or three weeks before I suggested we meet at a coffee place.

    Two dates later we were exclusive.

    She is seven years older than me and had never been in a serious relationship.

    Just keep looking. Lonely people are absolutely everywhere, and you're bound to find someone you just link up with eventually.

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And finally, our eldest, Miles Morales, who didn't really wanna cooperate. The rest willingly hopped into the circle on a square, as most cats will.

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And Abed Nadir!

  • Happy Holidays from my kitties!

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  • And this is Troy Barnes.

  • My perfect darling Honey Pie, at 6 weeks old and the beginning of what would be my biggest foster fail

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  • My wife and I took in five kittens for a weekend. I insisted we keep one as my Dad was keeping another.

    My wife insists this is a foster fail, but I maintain it was four foster successes!

    Fluffy kitten tax. This is Mary Jane, supposed to be Peter Parker but my vet tech wife failed to correctly determine gender that weekend:

  • What are your favorite fake video games?

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  • Ooh, good answer!

    Those books were so important to my teenage self. Such a shame Card himself is such a whackjob.

  • What are your favorite fake video games?

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  • I really liked the game from the movie Her, where you're constantly being insulted by a little alien who is your guide.

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    You are the fourth Wise Man that nobody talks about. What did you attempt to bring the baby Jesus that they cut you out of all the stories?

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  • That was the idea, but now I think a copy of Dianetics is funnier.

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    You are the fourth Wise Man that nobody talks about. What did you attempt to bring the baby Jesus that they cut you out of all the stories?

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  • A bible.

  • Meatball sandwiches.

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  • Love it.

    Fresh baked bread/rolls is not that difficult, folks, and the added flavor is immeasurable. Plus, y'know, it's cheaper.

  • Retired WoW players, how does that part of your life shade your current life?

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  • I'm sure this doesn't count, but my WoW life was utterly ideal, aside from me sucking at being a rogue.

    I played in the same dining room as several (4-6) friends and we grouped up constantly.

    But I also didn't care one tiny fuck about the endgame grind. I hit level 60 (the max at the time), shouted "I win," and sold my account to a friend for forty bucks.

    My current life, I'm not really a gamer other than mobile crap and D&D these days. Too old, tired, busy.

  • 'Yikes': Shock as new poll shows Dems with 'largest lead for either party' since 2018

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  • Maybe, just maybe, they're so incompetent that they get the phrase wrong and accidentally win?

  • Which food gives you the best bowel movement?

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  • I've always loved broccoli, and a lot of folks hate it, so...

    Roast your broccoli, people.

    Toss it with a little olive oil, salt it, and bake at 400 or so until it's browning.

    It adds a depth of flavor you wouldn't expect if you've never had it.

  • If you're average looking and have an anxiety/depression disorder, how did you find your significant other?

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  • Heh, I corrected that.

  • If you're average looking and have an anxiety/depression disorder, how did you find your significant other?

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  • I met my wife online about fifteen years ago.

    We were in the same town and met after maybe two weeks of messaging each other... and we just clicked. (Views on politics, religion, drugs/alcohol, pets, and lifestyle were all compatible, easy to just be around each other, etc.)

    I'm 51 now and this is my fourth relationship. It's never been easy to find someone I match up with. (For context, I'm tall, balding, and quite fat, but I think I'm pretty attractive/do well with what I have. I didn't always have that confidence in myself. Don't beat yourself up, it really doesn't help.)

    It's also worth saying that I was in a terribly dark place when I met my wife, but I put myself out there anyway. Working on yourself is a great priority, without question, but I found someone who accepted me at my lowest, helped me to be better, and I was then able to reward her by being a good husband. Having been through that (and other dark times) has made us stronger together.

    So my advice is:

    1. That old canard, 'Be attractive. Don't be unattractive' is completely true. Play up on what makes you attractive, and don't mess that up by being rude or smelling bad.
    2. Show interest in public. By that I mean be jovial and open. Notice those who respond in kind. If you can, strike up a tiny conversation. Build those skills in little moments. Maybe this will go somewhere, maybe not, but you're learning to be more open.
    3. Be social, and some of that can include online dating. If you're doing online dating, try to meet early, as that's where you'll be able to find if you click with someone. You just can't know until you meet, in my opinion. Plus long online-only relationships involve you envisioning the ideal of a partner rather than seeing if you can live with them.
    4. Put yourself out there! You can't get better about approaching women if you don't keep trying. Don't hit on everyone you meet, of course, but I've known really ugly guys who always had a cute girlfriend (Also a couple schlubby guys who married absolutely gorgeous women, somehow) and several solid couples where neither are conventionally attractive, but they have love and a great life together.

    And that last line should be your goal, a great partner and a great life.

  • What was your craziest psychedelic experience?

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  • This was back in 2000, had just gone through a divorce. Had gotten a new pad with a friend and started hanging out with his stoner buddies. (Most of them are still close friends to this day.)

    I took something like five hits of acid. I'd tried it only once before and it didn't too much for me, so I upper the dosage.

    I still didn't get visuals, but it was an interesting trip.

    A friend of mine was on the couch flipping through cable and settled on a claymation Don Quixote, which was just perfect for a melting reality. Thumbprints in the clay, rough work.

    And I did something really goddamned stupid. I took out my new fancy chisels to practice on a block of wood.

    Thankfully I didnt cut myself. I was being careful and just trying to gouge out a volcano on the end of a block of pine, twisting my arm to turn the block.

    I went through some deep internal stuff about how I treated myself and women, why I'd been alone for so long.

    In the weeks to follow I asked out four women I had crushes on and was shot down each time, but the point was I held onto this shit rather than ever expressed any interest. It was really useful.

    So I'm coming off the trip and I'm sitting at my computer, and my hand just slides off the keyboard.

    Repeatedly.

    I'd held my arm in that extreme twisted position so long whilst contemplating my love life, set to claymation Don Quixote, that I almost gave myself fucking nerve damage.