A 50-something French dude that's old enough to think blogs are still cool, if not cooler than ever. I also like to write and to sketch.
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It may not be the most diplomatic answer to a question but I quite like it, to be honest. Even more so that the question was obviously not meant to be taken as a question, and was brought out by the dad himself which seems to be an a... someone I would rather not waste my time with.
Would I have been in your shoes, I would have been a lot less diplomatic ('you should ask your daughter if she thinks the size is ok', would have been my first idea) or I would have tried to give them a taste of their own medicine by focusing on some stupid Irish stereotypes.
To each their own, quite certainly.
I focus more on being regular than being highly productive, to be honest so what follows may not apply to everyone. I consider writing a good page every single day of the year, all year long without exception, will get me a lot farther than, say, writing a chunk of those pages here and there when I feel like it or when I have a bon... furious desire to write them (I seldom have any 'furious' anything regarding writing or anything creative, but I have the habit of doing it every day). That single daily page, most of the time, will also require a lot less editing afterward (not even mentioning the dreaded complete rewrite when they're complete garbage)—lazy-me talking, here.
What I wanted to say was that this energy trapped in (sexual) frustration one can learn to use it, but this really needs to be learned as it won't happen out of the blue, as a a real fuel tank/battery one can use everyday to do actual (creative) work on the long run. Not to burst out some piece of art in an intense moment of... exaltation ;)
Write, sketch, compose, sculpt, sing,... use that (fucking, obviously) energy toward anything creative you're interested in.
Frustration is incredibly negative, sexual frustration more than anything else, but it's also like owning one's personal nuclear power plant as long as one is willing to learn how to use it to actually do stuff.
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Just about everything is politics mate. I hope you stay on piefed but if no politics at all
online. I'm no stranger to politics, you can be assured of that. I just don't want to be bothered with it when I browse around here.
Piefed is 100% fine to promote/criticize whatever they fancy. It happens they've recently started playing with what used to be just their logo, which is something I've not noticed them doing prior. It happens I don't like that. Like I said, my options are limited but they are still options. I'm also willing to give them time to change course, so I will wait for a while and will then act accordingly to what I think is the best for me. No anger, no bad feelings. Just a change of tool.
With any luck, instead of being uselessly downvoted (that won't convince me of much), comments like mine may serve as a reminder that it may not be the most efficient way to promote any message/agenda/ideology to force feed it into the user's throat. That's also one of the reason why years ago I quit all traditional social media platforms (the other reason being their constant abuse of anxiety and fear, if anyone is wondering).
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They kidnapped my spouse and forced me to join to get her back. Then I realized I kinda liked Lemmy ;)
More seriously, I started with a local (French) Lemmy community, then moved to piefed because it offered a few features Lemmy lacked. And since I'm not a huge fan of constantly switching setups I stayed.
A recent change that I really don't like at Piefed.social is their decision to display a random flag every day in place of the piefed logo. It happens I configured my home page to be 100% politics-free. It worked great until now as I'm now expected to look at a random flag everyday, or regularly use uBlock Origin (best extension ever, and not just to block ads) to block that stupid flag a dev decided I needed to see. I don't care about flags, none of them. So, if Piefed insist with that new behavior, I'll either switch instance once again but it's a pain to do (as I will lose one more time all my content and I will not have assurance I won't need to it again in the future) or, instead, I'll use piefed/Mastodon less and less and let it enjoy its dear political stance(s) all by itself... which is something I already started doing in those last few days (meaning I have more time to read, why would I complain?)
- what are you interested in? Hobbies, sports, whatever.
- Check at you local library (gym/stadium/...) and do it IRL, not online & ask the librarian if there are activities announced that relate to 1. Why irl and why ask an actual person? Because not everything is announced through apps or online and because word of the mouth is still the best way to advertise anything local ;)
My local libraries not only all organize their own set of events, around various topics, but they will also happily relay events happening elsewhere.
Why is it when I hear 'basement full of people' I immediately remember that chapter in McCarthy's novel 'The Road'? That scene was so... horrifyingly plausible—not recommended to anyone easily frightened and/or disgusted. A truly wonderful book, nonetheless. Really amazing.
I would say the movie adaptation is a bit easier to watch but still more than quite tense.
There are people like that, you should not lose hope. Those people just don't advertise themselves like that, and they are not waiting to meet anyone. This just happens when two persons start appreciating discussing with one another. Hence, the necessity to put in some work, and to make oneself available to them too. A few of those persons may even become good friends, with any luck.
back to being alone then, thanks.
Why would that be? It's just a matter of deciding what one is looking for. Is it a (sex) toy for you to play with? Good for you, but that most probably won't be a friend/partner (they don't have battery to power them on will and they have their own needs). Is it a partner/friend? Even better, but don't hope to find them in the (sex) toy department ;)
Thx, much appreciated. Doing my best which is often not that great (English is not my native language)
maybe you should develop a little more?
I mean, one does not 'find a friend or partner on lemmy', or anywhere else. Friendship, like love, is something that may happen and that will often not happen but we all need to work for it to maybe become a thing. Friends and partners are not stored somewhere, patiently waiting for us to need/want them ;)
Edit: clarifications.
Nothing special.
I have a decent quality paper notebook and a pencil attached to it sitting on a shelf nearby the shower (using a softer pencil than your usual HB/2B, say a 4B or 6B) and I can easily reach out for them whenever I need to jot something down. Not worrying at all about messing the paper with water as its sole purpose is to hold the notes for as long as it takes me to finish showering: it being decent/good quality paper, Clairefontaine in my case, it won't instantly break apart when faced with water. I simply don't write under the shower.
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- Lazy questions. Those whose answer anyone could easily find by themselves.
- Fake questions. Questions that are only there to trigger (emotional) reactions or as a way to get some validation for the OP, and not as a way to spark a sincere (aka, open) discussion.
What's great is that no matter how easy it is to ask those kind of questions, even for the most... intellectually challenged trolls, it's even simpler for all of us readers to ignore them and not get triggered, or even not worrying about them being a thing ;)
I can't talk about younger generations, I'm well into my 50s, but I know they do a lot of things online. Heck, they even date online which to me seems as odd as wanting to eat an... air sandwich (so odd that I'm half expecting some app to popup offering them to have virtual sex too... for a monthly fee, obviously). But even like that there are still a lot of people (of all ages) that prefer IRL/physical/analog to online/digital to a subscription-based lifestyle. They're just... less visible online (and they seldom complain about it online either) ;)
The thing with the Internet is that it creates this self-validation bubble, and I mean not just for political discussions where people expect to never have to listen to anything/anyone not agreeing with them, I mean it as a space itself, the Internet is good at downplaying alternatives to itself as a place to be and do things... Things like meeting people IRL, doing offline activities and hobbies. Who decided we needed to use a phone to watch a movie or to read a book or an app to meet someone we find attractive?
To me, all of that should have been one of the things education needed to talk more about to kids. If it ever tried, it obviously utterly failed. The real question being then: who decided we should stop doing all of those things our species have been doing for... ever. And why? And the answer may be as simple and obvious as: ourselves. It is us that did this to ourselves, it's our own laziness and maybe our own fear, and our own stupidity.
Until then, ill go back to being mostly disconnected on weekends. Its great.
I don't have dedicated offline days, but i do have a lot of offline time so allow me to congratulate you nonetheless on that decision and wish you had an even better WE than usual when you will read my comment. Because, you're 100% right:
Its great.
And not just on WE ;)
Thx for sharing the links. I know about DRM-free ebooks and about Calibre (and about removing DRM if needed) but one still needs a device to read an ebook (a device one doesn't fully own or control) or do it on a computer which is not a comparable experience as reading it on a device.
A stock Kindle will allow adding books via USB
Didn't they recently removed that ability?, as well as the ability to sideload mobi file format?
Moving back (forward?) to paper books is a decision I made after years being almost exclusively an ebook reader. It was not quick and I'm pretty confident it would not be the right choice for everybody. It's just what works best for me, considering my requirements and expectations.
For years, I kept an old Kindle without Internet access so I was sure Amazon could never force update its firmware. But I want more control (legally) on the books I own and I want reading to remain a simple activity (not something one needs to tweak and fight against). A paper book I can read it without having to root it, jailbreak it or even install anything. I need no device beside the glasses I already own. And I'm not tracked while I'm reading it, which is a huge win for me. Sure, it's heavier and less portable, there is no syncing, and it wastes more space in my home but I'm fine with that: I learned to not hoard too many books at home and I only need to carry one at a time, and I don't need sync (I take all my notes on index cards).
I sincerely have no idea how other people may feel about (not) speaking foreign languages, it's up to them. Also, it's not a competition with a single winner and many losers. It's like being able to draw (I love doing that, I'm shit at it) or to dance (I can't, but I love watching dance and ballet).
Personally, I don't feel better because of the languages I speak. It's just a decision I made, and then a question of putting in the required work (aka, time and efforts). But I am happy to be able to read/speak those languages.
As an avid reader, it's something I always considered a necessity as I wanted to be able read books in their native language in order to fully appreciate them. It's also so much better when interacting with other people, even for someone as shy as I am, to be able to speak in their native language even poorly and in a limited way (I'm not fluent in all of the few languages I understand, far from it).
I think it's important to mention that as I too often met people that are afraid to learn and even more so that are unable to speak in a foreign language because they worry so much about being judged. It's true we all are bad when we're starting out but that's still a real sad mistake to let that stop us as a vast majority of people will be more than welcoming to anyone trying to speak their language. For the record, I say that as someone who is monstrously shy (like, really) and speaks with a terrible French accent. So, I know perfectly well what it's like to feel intimidated ;)
The one language I would love the most to learn but never managed to is Chinese.
There are writers, thinkers, and poets I would love to read not in a translation (and many more that are not even available in translation, sadly). But it's also so complex to the point of being intimidating... This year, I almost managed to convince myself to apply to one of the schools teaching Chinese, here in Paris, but money and, like I said, me being utterly shy made it so that I not-that-accidentally missed the deadline.
Also, I'm starting to get old (well into my 50s) and my health not being that great I worry more and more it would be a waste of a seat that a much younger person could make better use of.
100% agree with you, but the question was what helps each one of us feel better, I just shared what works for me ;)
- Long walks, daily. This literally changed my life.
- Spending time with people I love. Quality time I mean, and really being together and appreciate it aka not sitting one next to the other while wasting our time in front of the TV or doom scrolling.
- Reading great books, writing. That helps too.
- Most important: be ok with things not being perfect or exactly as one wants them to be. And being ok with shit happening, be it around us or with us.
Like mentioned already: Without any sample, it's hard to tell anything. Maybe those people were the problem or maybe the question wasn't clear? Maybe the commenter was the problem or maybe they did not understand shit about the OP question?
What I can say is that I seldom see anything looking like what you describe in my timeline, but I also carefully curate it to avoid most noise.