It's not easy with a kid. I refuse to give her a fucking dime though, he can watch or read it pirated if he insists. We've got trans friends and family.
You're right, it was a stretch to generalize between the two. I'm just keen on the point of separating the art from the artist in the context of everything being streamed for money. It's fine to listen to any old shit that used to hold uncomplicated joy for you, as long as it's a local copy.
Thanks! Reading up, sounds like people put a lot of stuff in it, milk even. I feel like the tannin in mate doesn't call for milk, but I could see some lemon or a little sugar. Milk seems out of bounds though, personally!
I'm pretty unsophisticated with it, I admit. I've had it the traditional way with the calabash and all, but I made up a way I like. Yerba is my go-to when coffee would be too jittery and black tea ain't cutting it.
Art is one of those difficult subjects. As long as you're not financially supporting them anymore (including with streaming) there's no harm in having a relationship with a track that came from someone who had a downfall. I still listen to the Thriller album sometimes, and though it is always freighted with the context of what came later, I am able to separate the art from the artist enough to still enjoy the thing in itself.
Everyone's path will differ. For them I'd start by getting set up as a remote tutor so that they can keep earning wherever they are. Then start checking which countries are most in demand of teachers, and whether their immigration systems would look favourably on someone with that skillset. New Zealand, Australia, and Germany might be places to start.
My path was a little more straightforward, as a UK dual citizen; I've only had to pay huge immigration fees for my family, somehow keep my US job working remotely, and work like mad to put my wife through university for a new job. My last step will be to find a more meaningful job based locally so I can get my hands on those lovely bank hols...
Fully aware - we've tried it before, but it didn't stick. Probably implementation issues or limitations here. They do this in his school with great success, and I think part of it is that he's so extroverted that when there are other kids also competing, he finds the process more engaging. At home it's just him so it falls flat. Maybe if me and mom were also on the chart earning smiley faces it would hit harder. Sounds kinda fun too.
Daddy made it to ten, get ready for an episode of Loudermilk!
Not really. It's not so useful unless you can dangle it over the right thing. But at the park? Say you send them on a scavenger hunt. You want two pretty leaves, five bits of litter, and one cool rock or stick for £1.
They clean the park, you get to sit on the bench for a few minutes and relax. Now, isn't that worth a pound?
Okay so, caveat: mine is only six and they're the stereotypical hyperactive ADHD kid. Your mileage will likely vary.
Kids who are like him are constantly in need of something to be doing, some achievable task just within their grasp. Also, they're quite blind when it comes to the perception of time, so any amount of time spent "bored" (which means not rocketing towards the next moment in which they can shout in triumph) feels like an eternity. He can go from the throes of bliss to collapsing on the floor within ten seconds flat.
He damn near broke my brain with this shitshow, but I've finally figured out the foregoing. Knowing this puts the constant struggle at least into a coherent frame of reference.
All this to say, any and all tangible, immediate rewards are what serves him in place of a functional endogenous dopamine system. He can't just internally think "I need to get dressed for school" and begin to do it, it has to be "I'm not allowed to ____* until I get dressed". A coin isn't a coin, it's a physical embodiment of the dopamine spike used by the brain to initiate a task.
Once they're on a task, they just go until something breaks the spell. Small immediate rewards, or the promise of getting them easily can work magic.
That's all highly subjective, biased, likely flawed etc but it's kept me... If not sane, at least faking it enough that people don't comment. If your kiddo has other struggles I probably haven't said anything of use to you.
*In our case, unhappily, it is phone time, which is also highly regulated.
That's kinda the difference - local specialties mostly can't be beaten on their own turf. Also, in America you've got to actually seek out the good stuff and go local, the InBev stuff is meticulously targeted at swine with no taste.
It's not easy with a kid. I refuse to give her a fucking dime though, he can watch or read it pirated if he insists. We've got trans friends and family.