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  • Trump Breaks His Campaign Promise to Fund IVF

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  • I have one idiot coworker who cited this as a reason she liked trump.

    I'm unclear if she actually bothered to vote for him. She was proud of never having voted (we work for the county, that's basically saying "no" to the question "do you want to choose your own boss?" Like I said, idiot)

    She's as far as I know, doesn't particularly want kids.

    She's also a polyamorous wiccan divorcee. You'd think all of the "traditional christian family values" stuff would be more than enough to scare her away from anything having to do with the republican party.

  • How do you deal with the left over fat/oil in your pan?

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  • My first exposure to cast iron was through boy scouts with cast iron griddles and Dutch ovens cooking on an open fire.

    They got left out in the rain, blasted with heat hot enough to melt lesser metals, had all manner of acidic foods cooked in them, got scrubbed clean with steel wool and dish soap, spent most of their lives when they weren't in use in a garage with no climate control where the humidity often got pretty gross, and generally got used, abused, and neglected. Never had any issues with the seasoning, rust, etc. I think one time after a camping trip by the beach where they sat out getting lightly twisted with salt spray all weekend, they picked up a bit of rust, so someone's dad got them sandblasted at his job, and after a trip or to through the oven for reseasoning they went right back in service, and that was the only special treatment they ever got.

    So it was really weird to me when I got older and got some pans of my own to see people talking about babying their cast iron like they do. I'm a little more careful with my pans than I was with the ones we had in scouts, but not by much. And when I take them camping I'm not above throwing them into the fire to burn off any really stubborn, burnt-on crud.

    And at the end of the day, there's not much that you can realistically do to a cast iron pan that you can't fix with some sandpaper and elbow grease and a quick reseasoning.

    At one point, we somehow ended up with an aluminum griddle in one of our cook kits. It was a pretty much indistinguishable from our iron ones except that it weighed less, it was a pretty solid griddle. On one camping trip it was left on the fire after breakfast, and I don't know exactly how it came to pass because it was another patrol, but they somehow got the fire up hot enough to melt it. I still have a blob of aluminum somewhere that we fished out of the ashes.

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  • I don't think death note ever quite fully explored the possibilities of what it can and can't make happen.

    My mars colony example is probably more than a 20 day project no matter what, so that's probably out.

    But I don't think it's totally clear whether it would be able to make someone have an out-of-the-blue eureka moment about cold fusion, hole up in their bedroom writing out the scientific proofs for a week not eating or drinking, then keel over dead of dehydration (I figure that's maybe a bit more realistic than my heart attack from shock example)

    It can certainly make people do things they otherwise wouldn't, but I don't know if it's clear that it could plant that kind of knowledge in someone's head.

  • Has anyone else noticed how dead most bars/clubs are now?

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  • In addition to the economy thing that everyone else has already pointed out (and is totally valid)

    I think it's worth pointing out that in the northern hemisphere it's summer right now, so if that's where you're located there's a lot of people going on vacations and having parties right now.

    My social circles aren't exactly rolling in it, but at any given time over the summer, there's still at least a couple people I know are the beach, camping, having a BBQ or bonfire, or hanging out at a pool somewhere on their downtime when they might have been at a bar or something otherwise.

    If you live in a touristy area, yeah, that's the economy, bars should be booming there.

    I remember a couple years ago on a whim a couple of friends and I decided to go to a bar that's usually packed with a line well out the door of people waiting to get it. But it just happened to be a holiday weekend so lots of people had other plans, and we got in no problem.

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  • Does our choosing a cause of death preclude them from dying of other causes? Because you could potentially do some wild stuff to postpone death of loved ones by, for example, deciding they'll die 60 years in the future of old age.

    And how much control do you have around the circumstances surrounding their death? Could I specify "dies of heart attack brought on by shock of working out the key to practical cold fusion on paper" or "head trauma due to fall while adjusting to lower gravity in main living area of self-sustaining mars colony" to force us forward in technology and science?

    Because that's basically what I'd do.

  • TIL there is a law called Marchetti's Constant. Humans only tolerate commutes of less than ~1 hour. Housing outside that limit will fail.

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  • There was a pretty large, family-run business near me, it was a pretty popular local landmark, and it sat on a pretty big property, probably a handful of acres.

    The owner died, his kids didn't really want to run the place, so they did everything they could to run it into the ground so that they say that it wasn't profitable to avoid some of the backlash from closing it down.

    They had some sort of scheme to turn it into housing for homeless veterans. Noble enough idea I suppose, though I don't know how they thought that was going to work, let alone be profitable.

    Of course there was a bit of the usual NIMBY backlash, veterans or not, a lot of people don't particularly want some low income housing project springing up in their neighborhood.

    But more importantly, it just didn't seem like anyone was particularly interested in living there.

    This is sort of the rural end of the suburbs. We're not out in the country, I'd hesitate to even call it exurban, but things are less dense, not much is walkable, no public transportation, there's not all that much around. A couple of the basics are nearby like a grocery store, but not much beyond that.

    If you have a car and money for gas, it's not a terrible place to be, pretty much anything you could want is within about a 30-45 minute drive, if traffic cooperates, you might even be able to get downtown in the city in about an hour.

    But thinking about it in the context of a bunch of homeless people, what the hell are they supposed to do? Not many opportunities for them to find work around there, certainly not anything well-paying enough to help them improve their situation by much. If they need any sort of mental health or drug/alcohol treatment, their options would be severely limited there. It's not at all convenient to the VA hospital nearest to us. And unless they manage to get their hands on a car, they'd basically be stuck there to sit at home, or maybe wander around town and do nothing in particular.

    So that project never got off the ground.

  • Tea App A Second Tea Breach Reveals Users’ DMs About Abortions and Cheating

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  • The only thing that surprises me about this is that it didn’t happen earlier.

    I'm way out of the dating game at this point, and also a man, so it's very likely that I'm just out of the loop

    But I hadn't heard anything about this app until a couple weeks ago when I saw an article or two about it

    Then about a week later this happened

    So I kind of feel like maybe most of the assholes who did this were similarly unaware of it until it got some exposure and then it was on their radar.

    I would certainly imagine that most women using this app probably weren't telling the angry misogynists in their lives about this app.

  • uh oh, what was that sound

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  • Also depends on what type of heat you use

    I have a heat pump, so my air conditioner is my heater, heat pumps are basically just an AC running in reverse.

    In general, my wife and I don't mind it being cold, we're willing to let the temperature in our house get down to about the mid-low 50s (F, obviously) in the winter, so we do end up using a lot less electricity in the winter. But if we tried to keep our house at a warmer temperature that most people would find comfortable, it would probably be about the same.

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  • There's a small part of me that has kind of wished that this kind of pseudo age verification was a thing for a while (even though there's a much bigger part that doesn't want any corporation to know a damn thing about me.)

    I remember swinging through Walmart once to pick up a couple things.

    My cart had, IIRC, some deodorant (old spice classic,) masking tape, a can of spray paint, some plumbing parts, a few fishing lures, socks, and a couple of snacks.

    I had one of those "I've become my dad" moments looking at my cart. I feel like that shopping list is practically a distillation of every suburban dad who's ever existed.

    But of course, I rang up the spray paint, and an employee had to come over to confirm that I was in fact some boring suburban white dude and not a teenager who was going to use it for mischief or huff it to get high.

    Maybe I'm giving the juvenile delinquents of today too little credit, or maybe my fellow grown-ups too much, but I feel like the venn diagram of people buying fishing lures, a new toilet flapper, and socks, has basically no overlap with vandals and paint-sniffers.

    So I kind of felt like maybe the almighty algorithm could have picked up on that and let me skip having the underpaid giving me a quick looking-at before punching his code into the self-checkout.

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    Can i simply bake frozen chicken or does it actually need to thaw over several hours or immersed in cold water or something?

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  • Got a hunch that their idea of air frying chicken is pre-cooked and frozen chicken tenders

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  • I've known muskies to do something similar- swim around at the surface with their head out of the water.

    I remember looking into it, and it's definitely a thing, but no one seems to know why exactly they do it. There's a few theories that have to do with the oxygen concentration at the surface, regulating temperature, buoyancy, etc. but the one I personally like to subscribe to is the same as this, that they're just looking around.

    It makes me feel a little less bad about not being able to catch one if they're at least more intelligent and curious than the average bass or bluegill or whatever else I'm pulling out of their lake.

  • Lemmy, what conservative fearmongering do you find laughably incorrect?

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  • I grew up in a small suburb just outside of a major city, overall a pretty liberal and urbanized place.

    The town had it's own garbage trucks, all the years I lived there I never remember them missing a trash pickup. The neighboring towns didn't have their own trucks but still provided municipal pickup just contracted through some company and they were similarly pretty good.

    I now live towards the more rural end of that same county. I'd still consider it to be in the suburbs, but it's a much less densely populated area, with some woods and a handful of small farms around, and while still fairly liberal, it definitely skews more conservative than the town I grew up in.

    So this town does not provide trash service for its residents. It's pretty much up to everyone to make their own arrangements with any of a half dozen or so trash companies in the area.

    And it's an absolute shit-show. They're all constantly missing trash pickups, constantly raising their prices, one time the company I was with got bought out by another company and they decided they were going to stop providing residential pickup service in my area so I had to find another company to take my money, and because we have all of these different companies with different pickup schedules it seems like anywhere you go there's constantly a trash truck slowing down traffic.

    Because the libertarian dipshits in my area would rather pay more for worse service than abide by a smaller bump in their taxes to get reliable municipal services.

    Similarly a lot of roads in my area are bullshit tar & chips instead of proper paving, it doesn't last long, loose stones are always getting kicked up, the motorcycle riders in my area complain that they're dangerous, etc.

    A lot of my town is on wells and septic tanks instead of city water and sewer. There are allegedly plans to expand the parts of the town that can get hooked up to the municipal water and sewer lines, but they've been saying that at least since I moved here about 5 years ago and I haven't seen any real progress on that. I am hooked up to the municipal lines, but I have some friends who aren't and are hoping to get hooked up to it, and every time they ask they get told that their street is on the list to get hooked up but no one seems to know when, so they're constantly juggling whether they want to do some overdue maintenance on their aging septic system or if it's worth toughing it out until they eventually can get hooked up.

    And probably the worst is the police department (InB4 ACAB) it's a part time department so they're not actually on duty overnight or most weekends and our area gets covered by state police when they're not on duty (which I believe the town actually pays for)

    Now if there's any town that could probably get away with just not having its own police department, it's probably mine. I work in the county dispatch center, I know what their workload is like, if they handle a dozen incidents a week, including traffic stops for speeding tickets and such, they've had a busy week.

    But of course most of what does happen in town is overnight and over the weekend, because that's when people are home. We don't exactly have a lot of businesses in town, so most people are just straight-up not around during the day.

    The state police coverage is terrible. They cover a pretty large area of other semi rural departments without their own police or part time departments like mine, so often when they're needed the only available troopers are a couple towns away.

    They also will only enforce state laws, and won't bother themselves with any local ordinances, so if you have, for example, a noise complaint, you're SOL, because odds are your neighbors are having loud parties and shooting off fireworks after the local police are off-duty for the night. They might be able to cite them for it later, but no one's gonna be going out to shut them up right now while you're trying to sleep.

    No one likes the state police coverage, but they also don't want to pay the taxes it would take to have an actual full-time police department. A couple years ago there was talk of joining up with a couple neighboring towns that are currently covered full-time by state police, to form a full-time regional department that would cover all 3 towns, but those other towns also didn't want to increase taxes to pay for it.

  • The Age-Checked Internet Has Arrived

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  • We're at or reaching a tipping point where I'm not sure that's true anymore.

    Most people with kids now are (roughly) in their 20s-40s. At the older end of that range, you have some gen-xers who might have missed the boat on computer literacy, but by and large we're talking about millennials and older gen-z at this point. Kids who grew up with the internet, probably very clearly remember their family getting their first computer if they didn't already have one when they were born, had computer classes in school, etc.

    And we're running into an issue where younger Gen z and alpha in many cases are less computer literate in many ways. A lot of them aren't really learning to use a computer so much as they are smartphones and tablets, and I'm not knocking how useful those devices can be, I do damn-near everything I need to do on my phone, but they are limited compared to a PC and don't really offer as much of an opportunity to learn how computers work.

    There's a ton of exceptions to that of course, some of my millennial friends are still clueless about how to do basic things on a computer, and some children today are of course learning how to do anything and everything on a computer or even on a phone.

    But overall, I don't think there's as much disparity in technological literacy between the children and parents of today as there was in previous generations, and in some ways that trend may have even reversed.

  • If you know you know.

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  • I think this is something that's going to vary a lot depending on where in the world you are

    I'm not a beach fan for a large number of reasons, including the fact that, in the immortal words of Anakin Skywalker, "I don't like sand. It's coarse and rough and irritating and it gets everywhere"

    But just as bad is that all of the beaches that are a reasonable drive from my house for a day or weekend trip are always packed, and I don't like crowds much either.

  • How do I patch up the ugly bar on the top and bottom when I mod a aclyics side panel?

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  • I figure you have 2 main options

    1 is to either cut out the sides of the old panel and reuse them there or to fabricate a new part (3d printing, like someone else mentioned, might be a good choice, or maybe something you could hack together with some sheet metal or plastic and make a new piece)

    1. Fill it with bondo, sand it down, paint it black.

  • Is the expectation of an apology ultimately narcissistic?

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  • I never expect an apology when I've been wronged

    However, an apology is a necessary step towards rebuilding whatever trust/respect/relationship we had prior to that wrongdoing.

    And it is just a step, on its own an apology is just meaningless words unless it is backed up by concrete actions to show that you do intend to do better and try to set things right.

    The point of an apology, as far as I'm concerned, isn't just what it says on the surface, a statement that you're "sorry" or that you "feel bad," or however you choose to phrase it.

    It's not about you and how you feel, you're not the one who's been wronged.

    But the deeper meaning, in a sincere apology, is that you're acknowledging that you fucked up, and that it was wrong, and that you will try to do better going forward.

    We can continue without an apology, but things will not be as they were. I will not be able to trust you as I have before. Even if you seem to have improved, I may still find myself suspicious of your motives.

    The form that the apology takes can vary, it doesn't need necessary to be an explicit written or verbal apology in all cases, actions, as they say, speak louder than words, but in some way it needs to be made clear that you have acknowledged what you have done, understand that it was wrong and why, and intend to do improve.

  • ‘If I switch it off, my girlfriend might think I’m cheating’: inside the rise of couples location sharing

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  • My wife and I work different schedules. on the rare day off that were both home, she's often out of the house when I wake up. She's not great at replying to texts. I never know when she's going to be home, and usually have no clue what she's out doing or where.

    But I know who she's doing while she's gone- no one. Because I trust my wife. I know who she is as a person, I know what our relationship is like.

    I have no particular desire to know her location at all times. I'm sure if I asked, she'd share it with me, and I'd do the same for her. I might occasionally do that when I'm off hiking or something in case there's an emergency, but half the time I wouldn't have a signal anyway.

    We are two humans with our own lives. Those lives are very intertwined, but we're both allowed to go off and have our own adventures, occasionally some secrets, and we don't need to know where each other is 24/7

  • First responders of lemmy, do you ever find yourself hating the people you're saving when you're constantly dealing with easily-avoidable catastrophes?

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  • I work in 911 dispatch

    Back when I was still in training I delivered my first baby, was damn glad to still have my trainer hanging out over my shoulder for that.

    It was almost a perfectly by the book, no complications delivery

    Except that they had their doula on another line giving competing instructions to me.

    In general unless there are complications, our instructions are pretty much the classic birth position, woman on her back, knees bent, legs spread

    And the doula had her on all fours, which is something we instruct for certain complications

    But again, everything they were telling me was that there were no complications.

    So eventually I basically had to say something like "our instructions are to have her on her back, I can't make you listen to me, but I have to give these instructions, so I'm going to proceed as if she's on her back"

    Phrased maybe a bit more diplomatically

    I have no idea what position she was actually in when the baby finally popped out, but he was healthy, so that's all that matters I suppose.

    And they made me do a photo op with the parents and baby. I don't like babies. Not much of a fan of having my picture taken either. Not my favorite day at work. I'd rather take a call for a shooting. No one makes you take a picture with a shooting victim.

  • First responders of lemmy, do you ever find yourself hating the people you're saving when you're constantly dealing with easily-avoidable catastrophes?

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  • 911 dispatch if we want to count it

    Look, stress and adrenaline and all of that are a hell of a drug

    Not to mention actual drugs

    And people have all manner of mental health issues

    And I get that

    And obviously since I work the job I do, I can handle stress and crazy bullshit better than most, so my own standards are all kinds of skewed

    And I really try not to hold that against my callers

    But holy crap am I glad that there are usually miles between me and them because if they were right in front of me I might strangle some of them.

    It's usually not even the real frequent flyer problem callers that get me. Don't get me wrong, they're obnoxious, but at least I know that 99 out of 100 times, there's no real emergency, and they are clearly not in their right minds so they really can't help it. They're almost an enjoyable distraction from all of the people who should know better and just won't not be an uncooperative belligerent asshole who refuses to listen to anything we say.