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  • May I suggest simple crafting, like whittling, ancient/native pottery, wood carving, paper basket weaving, origami, crochet (or the slightly more addictive and expensive knitting), braiding, weaving, macrame, yarn spinning, decorative knotworking, flower pressing, dyemaking, hand dying, flower arrangement, make walking canes, etc?

    Or maybe an instrument? Someone mentioned guitar, but why not harmonica, ukulele, bongos, simple percussives, or why not take up singing, there's typically a choir almost everywhere, or you could try solo, or whistling, or yodeling.

    Or maybe take up gardening/growing? In pots, hydroponically, maybe on a growing lot, or someone's yard?

    Or take up community projects, like either sanctioned or guerilla gardening, greening, forestry, litter picking, maintaining communal spaces, volunteer, start a community project (pollination diversity, bee keeping, growing lots, food drive, food forestry)

    Or take up a cause? Build community, take affirmative action, demonstrate, protest, coordinate, communicate, with an established org, or on your own?

    Maybe the outdoors could entice? Take up walking, ornithology, watch bats, discover new insects, take up chabana/ikebana, learn to forage, learn survival skills, go hiking, stack rocks, track animals, learn trapping, get into scouting, make bark boats, learn to skip rocks, climb trees, jump in puddles, pretend (or practice) animistic rituals, feel rain on naked skin, sleep under a bare sky, pick skulls, horns and bones to craft with.

    Perhaps create stories, tell stories, write poetry, learn magic, juggle, poi, take up clowning, go swing/country/folk/traditional/ballroom/social dancing, try Butoh, write sketches, join a theatre, start a business, take up decorating, or just embrace whimsy?

    I can also warmly recommend trying a new thing every week/month/period and see what sticks and not.

  • You mean the buttplug village?

  • This is regularly answered by statisticians

  • No-one said the revolution would be easy, immediate, nor convenient.

    You get the treatment you tolerate.

    Prepare accordingly.

  • The point is to show up in large enough numbers that it doesn't matter.

    Revolts aren't without risk, and typically bloody.

  • Seems a pattern tbh, expensive toys lead to expensive mistakes?

  • The concept of Nothingness?

    Or closer to Hegel: Nothing is the lack of all differentiation and content, and thus absolutely undifferentiated.

    Pure Being is without further differentiation, it has no diversity within itself, and is thus also absolutely undifferentiated.

    Nothing is pure Being (and with some other arguments the reverse is also true), they are inseparable and unseparated, yet distinct. And Hegel argues that the Becoming is the movement of one into the other, distinguishing them for a moment only to be resolved again.

    You can read it yourself in Hegel's Science of Logic

  • Exciting stuff! Hope you share some of your insights as you go, philosophy is much underrated!

  • Don't short change yourself, with enough time, effort and application you could still get a degree in the humanities, that's basically what they do :p

    For real, philosophy was mostly around before we figured out empiricism and scientific methods. People had to think quite a lot to come up with models that made internal and validated sense even without evidence. And we still have a lot of stuff we can't test, but that we wonder about (theology, paranormal stuff, hard solipsism, "before" Big Bang, etc), we just have stricter requirements and more developed methods that we call differently.

  • This is could both be an excellent question or a less interesting one :p

    The less interesting one is answered that by Being you are, and thus cannot become. (Just as u/toofpic describes)

    The excellent question is why we can't Become when already Being, or why we can't unBecome from Nothing. For that we'd have to read more Hegel to understand the context.

    Why is it that when you take away from Nothing, nothing happens? It makes intuitive sense, but why must it be so? What would happen if it weren't so?

    Hegel suggests that the qualities of purest Being and purest Nothing are the same, and that's why the Becoming takes them into eachother.

    I don't know that that's useful though, someone else care to explain?

  • Being is a state, Nothing is a state.

    Being (something) and (being) Nothing are opposites.

    Yet Becoming requires you to go from Nothing to something, or stop Being something to introduce enough Nothing to become something new.

    Long time since I read Hegel though, might be hogwash.

  • Most men look at other males to assess threat level, and females to assess breeding potential, it is an unconcious drive (we also unconsciously assess if things are edible, but less so for humans :p). I use the pronouns of men, male and female carefully in that sentence, other interactions are less studied.

    For socialised men, the urge stops there, and with a healthy body and relation to it you also don't spend more attention on it. Sometimes, like when affected by hormones, loneliness, psychosexual/physical/mental imbalance, etc. the responses are more intense, and could be viewed as a signal of unmet needs (analogous to hunger, sleepiness, pain, etc) that you can react to in an appropriate manner.

    When the thoughts, impulses or actions become hard to control or risk creating negative consequences, that's where intervention helps, like therapy, medication, lifestyle adjustment, etc.

    So basically, it happens, it will vary by season, age, diet, health, etc. Please consider if you might be horny, lonely, or have other unhealth to take care of. If you find it takes up too much of your attention (to function normally) and/or threatens your impulse control, seek help.

    A decent bar for normal functioning is that it shouldn't interfere with social relationships: don't make people uncomfortable, don't hurt anyone (including yourself), as well as day-to-day life: don't ruminate/obsess, don't spiral.

    It is less often spoken about but fairly common to fantasise about encounters and even masturbate to them. Just be mindful that it's your fantasy you're entertaining, it has nothing to do with the actual person which you will need to respect and treat as they wish to be treated.

    As this is a point of common misunderstanding, let me repeat: You seeing something that sparks attraction or even excitement might lead to fantasies of it in a sexual setting, maybe even gestalted with their body. All of this is your imagination, none of it is real.

    The actual person is not your object of infatuation, has not shared your fantasy or even desires, and they will rightfully react negatively if you project your fantasy on to them.

    So I repeat: it's normal to notice, it's impolite to make a thing of it or make people uncomfortable, it's expected that you can regulate your impulses and make sure you have the strategies and resources to do it, and seek help if you cannot.

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  • First world lifestyles are indeed unsustainable, but not due to food scarcity. We have a global overproduction of food, due in part to logistical inefficiencies but in a larger part due to free market economics with artificial scarcity to drive up prices.

    Organic farm practices currently yield about 20-30% less than less sustainable ones. Current US food wastage is 40 % of produced goods. So at least the US could switch over it's food supply to organic farming and still feed everyone on the same acreage.

    There's plenty other resource usage that first-worlders need to cut back on, mostly petrochemicals and plastics in everything from travel (make walkable cities) to novelty consumption (buy it for life).

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  • The thing that shook me out of the existential crisis of understanding nihilism is that life had as much meaning before I was born as it will after my death.

    Or in other words: we are the universe exploring itself - in playful exploration and/or aesthetic creation.

    To me that gives license to do something interesting with the short time, resources and attention that I have available. I find experiencing new things or in new combinations fulfilling, as do I to help others make a positive contribution to the human experience (be it through positive societal change or practicing kindness).

  • Sexuality and sensuality can become complicated; the body plays a small part, but most of it is typically in the mind and mind-body interplay. There's a reason the elbow-lickers can get off on it, and it's not typically because their elbows are wired more sensitive.

    Having sensation is proof that your physical parts work, but I hear you say that the connection to pleasure and your lust/sensuality is gone.

    Luckily, that connection can be trained and/or rehabilitated (depending on cause of disconnect).

    A major part of it is feeling safe, safe in your body, safe to feel pleasure, safe to play/explore, safe to find and act on what you enjoy. Anything from trauma, stress, depression/illness, self image, cultural pressures can make someone enter survival mode and block off enjoyment. Some are best treated by a professional, others might be addressed by simpler inner work, like setting intentional time for recreation, or making space/time/rituals for enjoyment, etc.

    Part of feeling safe is also to not have undue pressures to perform or feel a certain way. Especially while rediscovering how you sense and process pleasure, you should give yourself the grace to enjoy yourself as you want. Maybe elbow stimuli is the only way available to you currently? Maybe the only way to silence the self judgment is with kink? Respect your journey, and that we all take different paths, as well as need different things along it. The goal is both to find yourself, but also to learn how to search.

    Oh, and as to not misrepresent anything: Most of sexuality happens in the mind, and finding what turns you on and how is typically a life long pursuit as tastes and wonts will change and evolve with you. What happens and yearns in the body is typically in direct response to both fantasy, self image, intent, and your daily form. You will need to explore, discover and play what is sexy to you, as well as when and how.

    Besides that, it's also about training yourself to explore pleasure both physical and mental, how to dance with it, follow it, challenge it and to recover from either intensity or getting lost. Most of it is just finding how it works and feels, but you can definitely get better at both control and constitution with practice.

    You have many years left to enjoy the pleasures of your own body, and I would argue pleasure is necessary for a well lived life. Perhaps looking up a sexologist or similar resource could be a worthwhile investment for a life with pleasure?

    I'd like to recommend the book The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin, it's a very good book on the topic of how lust and pleasure happens in our minds and an interesting read. It's not a substitute for therapy though, neither psychological or sexological.

  • memes @lemmy.world

    Don't worry, is gonna be espresso

  • memes @lemmy.world

    No stresso, is gonna be espresso