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Like if your vegan anarchist grandma and vegan anarchist dad were the same person.

I am an engineer (closer to toot toot then clicky clacky) cosplaying as a farmer in unceded aninstanabe territory in eastern ontario.

Pronouns: she/they

Maybe the real vegan theory club were the friends we made along the way ✨

  • TIL these are called container ships because they... ship.. containers

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  • And the containers themselves are called shipping containers.

    So container ships ship shipping containers.

  • Americans who live near state borders,how do you notice you've crossed the border?

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  • I pray for my suspension every time I go from Ontario to Quebec.

  • Expectations vs reality for those who moved from a city to a small town?

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  • Good luck!

  • Expectations vs reality for those who moved from a city to a small town?

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  • Do you have any stories to tell about that?

    No specific stories come to mind, but my neighbor who is a very chill live-and-let live dude knows everything about all the other neighbors. He's probably in his late 30s so he's not a retiree sitting around watching people come and go.

    I think it might be more that people get to know each other more and make more observations about people because there are less data points, if that makes sense? Whereas in the bigger city people are aggressive about not remembering you/not paying attention outside of certain situations (like getting to know people at the dog park).

    Maybe the thing that sticks out are people in shops striking up convos and remembering you. One woman at the hardware store remarked that it was weird to see us because it wasn't Sunday.

    I'm also curious about what this is like. I'm probably a bit more "alternative" in appearance than the average person up there, but I think I could also blend in if not for the fact that they won't recognize me as being from there. Are you talking about things like tattoos and piercings?

    Tattoos are very common here but there is also a lot of military so it might corelate. I have tattoos and piercings but for the first time in my professional life my boss had tattoos as well lol. I'm an engineer who works mostly with the trades but maybe 10% of the time I'm dealing with "fancy" office engineers so maybe they do have more of a problem with my tattoos, piercings, and field gear wardrobe than I initially thought.

    In my specific situation I think the fact that I'm not as formal or deferential as they were expecting. I am very straightforward and I expect people to be straightforward with me too. The field staff really appreciated it because they thought the big city girl would be pretentious and stuffy, but for others I didn't follow the niceties they were expecting and I'm way too outspoken for a woman lol. In the bigger city there was less of a divide between the blue collar and white collar workers. I'm not used to that and the expectation to be "professional" meaning anything other than treating people with respect.

    On the flip side of that people at all levels are way too comfortable pushing back on diversity, equity and inclusion initiatives very publicly. I haven't gotten involved in that kind of stuff here because I'm still trying to get used to the job, settle in, etc. In the bigger city they might grumble a bit but would know better than to keep up the behaviors they were told wouldn't fly. I gave positive space training to a group of millwrights back home, but I'm not sure I'd put myself in that situation here. It just feels 10 years behind. That's not to say everyone is out there being problematic, but people are a lot more comfortable being a passive bystander and that's allowing bullshit to continue.

  • How did you choose your occpuation for people who didn"t just follow thier passion

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  • Try a bunch of stuff, find something you don't hate and that pays enough to survive on. Try something new if you get bored. I've had quite a few different jobs, or the same job in vastly different places. Sometimes I like them and sometimes I don't.

    I remember taking a career quiz in high school (on scantron, lol) and being told I should be a librarian. I was so confused? It's been more than 25 years and I'm now thinking yeah, maybe that was the job for me lol.

  • Expectations vs reality for those who moved from a city to a small town?

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  • Also Ontario, not quite as small as you are mentioning but I also came from a much bigger city:

    • services you are used to and good you could find easily just... don't exist? My dryer broke and I wanted to find a laundry mat that had hours that worked for me and my work schedule, but nope.
    • people are all up in each other's business and it's normal. Gone are the days where I could have a quiet cry on public transit (lol what public transit) - people pay so much attention to your comings and going
    • because there is so much less anonymity you kind of have to make the effort to get along with people you might not otherwise like. Tangential: the number of people I see in unhealthy, unhappy relationships because they honestly "didn't have any other options" is wild.
    • people are way more xenophobic than I expected. Casually racist too, not really understanding that it's racism. I know it's not everyone and I think it's because they don't know anyone belong to demographics that are different than them.
    • I'm like a 6/10 on the scale of weirdo (not conforming to social norms) and no one even blinked back home. Here it's a problem for some people.
    • if you need a recommendation for a service, honestly ask your neighbor or someone you generally trust. They will know someone and that person is usually pretty good. We asked our home inspector if they knew any well people and he gave us a first name. After some googling we found him and he was excellent lol.

    Eta, thought of a few more:

    • you said small town but didn't specify rural or not so this might not apply to you but the switch from municipal water to well and septic took a little adjustment. I went from surface water to ground water and the taste was very different but I got used to it quickly.
    • also a rural thing: We ended up with a lot less land than we originally wanted because we didn't realize the lower land/house costs were in places with absolute shit satellite or cellular internet.
    • way more drunk driving
    • people here smoke a lot more weed than I would have expected, which is nice for me lol
    • people have been really nice in general which is the flip side of the lack of anonymity.
    • rural grocery stores are expensive. I'm looking at you, foodland. There aren't as many low cost grocery stores. I really, really miss the little green grocers I used to frequent.
    • people take hockey very seriously. I guess that also explains the golf.

  • Texas Rep. Nicole Collier alleges "illegal confinement" by GOP after refusing police escort to leave Capitol

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  • They acknowledged that Texas law allows lawmakers who are absent from the Capitol to face civil arrest, but they say state officials have no legal right to detain legislators who are already present at the Capitol to ensure they don't leave.

    Very normal country ya got there.

  • What is your personal threshold for being grossed out by owning an object that was once part of a living being, and why?

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  • I'm vegan btw

  • What is your personal threshold for being grossed out by owning an object that was once part of a living being, and why?

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  • I have no issues with drinking recycled water. I've even had beer made from treated wastewater. Never again! (Because I'm gluten intolerant.)

  • What is your personal threshold for being grossed out by owning an object that was once part of a living being, and why?

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  • Hello comrade 😊

    Of the examples I gave pearl and coral are a hard no, but I was kind of surprised by how horrified I was at the idea of owning something with human hair in it. It made me wonder how other people draw that line.

    I would also like to avoid bones, plz.

  • What is your personal threshold for being grossed out by owning an object that was once part of a living being, and why?

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  • I think that's my question, but I am realizing it could be two or more questions.

    Does owning/using something that was part of a living being gross you out?

    Either way, what do you consider to have been part of a living being? I think this is an especially interesting question if you do say it does gross you out.

    If some things gross you out but others don't, why?

  • What makes good memes? What are facts about meme history you want to share ?

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  • How to do memes?

    Step 1: cut a hole in the box...

    Seriously, memes are just a shared reference. It can even be a shared reference to itself, like most copy pasta. It's a way to feel included and share an experience, opinion, and memory.

    If an individual doesn't find a meme funny, they probably just aren't part of that in-group and that's okay. Not everything is for everyone.

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  • Unsolicited advice disguised as a question.incoming: is your relationship with these young people such that you have to listen?

    I do mentorship (which is actually very perplexing that they want me to do this lol) and it takes so much energy that I have to really space it out but other than that I mostly kinda just let them do their own thing and don't pay much mind unless asked to 🤷🏻‍♀️

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  • I have observed that sometimes old people don't understand their opinion is unwanted.

    I'm approaching old. I need to remind myself that I don't understand the struggles the youth have these days. I had it hard, sure, but their struggles and worries are not the same as mine. It's a different world.

    So unsolicited advice + thinking the kids are doing it wrong is an easy path to mean/angry.

  • LA protests live updates: Marines will be deployed in response to immigration protests

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  • You're right, the STCA does not apply to US citizens. But as long as the US is considered "safe", refugee claims are going to be impossible to argue.

  • LA protests live updates: Marines will be deployed in response to immigration protests

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  • From a non- paywall article about Hannah Kreager:

    Her pending claim for protection in the Great White North could be a landmark case, the American believes.

    'I'm here in Canada with a terrific lawyer taking up my unprecedented case: seeking asylum from the United States of America on the grounds of violation of human rights,' she posted online.

    'My case is a precedent-setting one, and if successful, could make asylum for trans people in the U.S. possible.'

    I hope she's successful. The Safe Third Country agreement needs to be ended. Until that time, the path to claiming refuge status from the US will be extremely expensive and onerous and not likely to be successful. The canadian government needs to be called out on their hypocrisy and refusal to 'rock the boat' by ending it.

  • LA protests live updates: Marines will be deployed in response to immigration protests

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  • No one has been granted refugee status on the grounds yet, so it's not possible to say. People are immigrating by other means.

    The Safe Third Country agreement is a major barrier and must be dropped, but that's not going to happen: despite all the warm and fuzzy talk the give has had during the previous trump admin and the current, the gov continues to fight challenges to the agreement in court: https://ccrweb.ca/en/safe-third-country

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  • I think there is a gross overestimation of the support that is available. I've seen a lot of bad articles copying and pasting different parts of immigration policy and programs but without understanding how it works as a whole.

    Like, Canada has a website about helping LGBTQI+ refugees ( https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/refugees/about-refugee-system/2slgbtqi-plus.html ) and it includes partnerships with groups like Rainbow Railroad who can refer people in need of resettlement to the refugee process.

    But if you only look at that and fail to consider the safe third country agreement, you're giving false hope.

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    lemm.ee is shutting down at the end of this month

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  • I think people really underestimate how much work it is to maintain a community online. It's something that is so outside of my skillset and capabilities that I feel awe when I see it done successfully.