Example: I used to get really angry at people online when they were being stupid. My expectation of people was that they weren't stupid, or would at least listen and learn. That expectation needed to change if I wanted to enjoy being online. So I changed my mind. I no longer expect people to not be stubborn idiots. Some are, and that's ok.
Is it giving up? Giving up an expectation, yes. Did I give up trying to converse with the not stupid ones? Nope! And now I'm in a much better mood to do it.
That's exactly the point. I'm not upset because I don't expect people online to have any sort of sense. I adjusted that expectation long ago and I'm much happier for it.
But you seem to be assuming that I'm saying everyone should just drop their expectations and be happy. That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that suffering is caused by desire. So if you can reduce your desire, you can reduce your suffering.
But many times you can't, or shouldn't, reduce your desire. I won't ever desire to be okay with what's happening in my country, for example. I choose to be unhappy with it.
So choose to be fucking unhappy. It's okay to be unhappy. I'm not going to judge you for it.
I switched my family from Spotify to Tidal. There was a migration script that made it nearly seamless.
No podcasts though.