Use an alternate front-end. There's a couple of them out there but usually the less popular domains are less laggy. I'm currently using https://teddit.hostux.net/r/popular
What's different about Lemmy compared to other sites? The Palestine/Israel conflict is the main topic point today. Everyone is talking about it everywhere, whether it be Reddit or Twitter. Are you up to date on the news?
I'm pretty sure the ToS only exists for legal reasons, don't make a big deal out of this. It doesn't mean the admins won't ban people for discrimination. Nothing suggests their stance has changed.
A good chair. I know it's not technically a gadget but if you're spending half of your day on the computer you should spend on a good chair with proper lumbar support. Your back will thank you.
I do sometimes use it to choose what to play/watch, although I use a random number generator. It's more random than a coin toss and cuts to the chase when there's more than 2 options.
Still interesting to know just how expensive that thing is and what it takes to run it