I recently became aware of the "performative male" stereotype. Basically, if you're a guy who doesn't dress the way most men dress and you like to read books in public, you're just "performing" in order to attract women.
I think it's the whole anti-intellectualism aspect of the stereotype that irks me the most (it being shameful somehow for a guy to read).
In some cases Tik-Tokers are filming guys just sitting alone at like a Starbucks reading a book, bothering nobody, and acting like they caught a predator.
It reminds me of that old Bill Hicks anecdote where he's at a diner in the deep south reading a book, and some dude exclaims "looks we got a reader!" as if it were something peculiar.
Here's a good critique of it if you're OOTL https://youtube.com/watch?v=b3jIgdbVjr4
I can sort of relate. I'm fat as fuck, but I really like salads and veggies. When I go out to eat, my (much smaller) partner will order like a steak and potatoes, and I might order like a chicken cobb salad, not because I'm dieting, but I because I really wanted a dinner salad. And like half the time they give the salad to my partner and give me the steak.