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pleasestopasking

@ pleasestopasking @reddthat.com

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    How many of you use Lemmy and ONLY use Lemmy vs Reddit?

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  • Yeah honestly, when you have a question like that, if there's an appropriate Lemmy community for it share what you learned from your research on Reddit and ask is anyone else has input. Reddit may own the content but they certainly didn't make it, or provide compensation to the person/people who did.

  • Am I the only one who thinks social media has destroyed the spirit of the internet?

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  • Which of your favorite sci-fi tech seems achievable in a reasonable timeframe, say 100 years?

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  • This is so terrifying to me. I feel like it'll end up like the Black Mirror episode with the subscription model, getting more and more expensive with fewer features.

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  • Great list, exactly what came to mind for me. I loved My Friend Flicka so much. Also Misty of Chincoteague had a whole series.

  • Would you rather go though zombie-like apocalypses or sever economic downturn with political instability?

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  • We're already on our way to number 2 so I guess it's time to prepare for that.

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    What are some slow paced and minimal plot movies?

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  • The Zone of Interest. Slice of life about a Nazi commandant. No real plot, not much really "happens" but I was absolutely riveted. Beautiful sound design too.

  • It's sound logic

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  • Adorable

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  • Blep

  • My cats right now

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  • My cat is a very bad eater (doesn't hate his food, just doesn't eat enough). The other day he was s c r e a m i n g at me while I ate a piece of cheddar cheese*. I bit off the tiniest corner (like 2-3 mm wide, seriously tiny) and gave it him. Never seen him go so wild at a piece of food. I fear I have created a cheese monster and will never know another moment of peace while eating cheese.

    *Low-lactose cheese is okay as an infrequent treat. It's the lactose in milk that's bad for cats.

  • My cats right now

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  • I have the only cat in the world who could take or leave Churu.

  • The mark of the beast

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  • I just know there are people who would "five seconds rule" this and still use it but omg the scat paddlers I just can't

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    what would it take for you to take back a partner who cheated on you ?

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  • Calling a partner who cheats an abuser is quite the leap.

    There are remorseless serial cheaters for sure, and that is abusive and cruel behavior. There are also people who cheat because they feel like their needs aren't being meet and haven't figured out how to communicate that. And when that happens, there's three options: figure your shit out, learn how to communicate, and rebuild trust; figure your shit out, learn to communicate, and accept if your partner isn't interested in staying with you; or don't take accountability. I don't think any of those make them "abusers," even the last one which is quite shitty. It makes them a flawed human and someone who shouldn't try to be with someone until they figure out how to be better.

    Edit to add, I was pondering more and there is a 4th option. I was thinking "don't take accountability and get dumped." But there is also "don't take accountability and your partner stays with you," and I would agree that that is abusive.

  • What's lemmy's governance system?

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  • Which I would argue matters less when it's so easy to move to a different "country" and still participate in everything with little meaningful difference.

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  • You're lookin at it

  • Sake fell asleep on my lap, now I can't move.

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  • I know you're a real one because of the chomchom in the background.

  • New Bag!

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  • If the container is big enough, consider putting the whole bag in there. It keeps it protected from light (if it's a translucent container) and keeps it even more compact so there's less airspace around it.

  • I cheated. Wife forgave me. How to reearn trust?

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  • There's a lot of merit in the phrase "the truth will set you free." You can tear down the dam and drain the sea of lies. But when I say the truth, I mean all of it. Your wife has a right to know the whole truth, down to the last detail. To her, your life has to be an open book. She needs to be able to ask you anything and know that you will be honest with her, even if it's something she'll be hurt by. In fact, it's ok to preface answers with something like, "I'm afraid my answer is going to be hurtful but if you really want to know I will tell you.

    I'm not disagreeing with you, but this should start with asking your wife if she wants to know all the details, if there's any hard lines, if she wants specificities or an outline, or if she'd rather not know it reassess later.

  • I cheated. Wife forgave me. How to reearn trust?

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  • Why did you cheat Because you were angry with your wife? Because you like the other woman?

    These are far from the only two reasons. Some people cheat because they are unhappy with their lives generally, outside of a partner, and don't know why. Some people have impulse control issues. Substance abuse. These are not excuses, but explanations.

    Couple's therapy is often recommended after infidelity. I think it's far more important for the person who cheated to start with individual therapy. If you don't change your behavior you can't rebuild trust.

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  • I gave up on screen protectors because they kept cracking when I'd drop the phone. Without the protector, the screen itself doesn't crack. Adding a screen protector just gives me an extra cracked layer on top of what would otherwise be fine anyway.