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  • What shitty stuff did you discovered when you became adult?

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  • I don’t mean you should tell me your criteria.

    Gotcha, I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. My apologies for misunderstanding your question.

    if your idea of success is chess world champion - many have worked 12 hour days for years at it and failed - thus much luck is needed. likewise you may be great at business without ever making CEO. However more modest goals are reached by many - chess national master is in reach of many more. Engineers don’t make near what the CEO does but many more get there.

    All of those examples assume you're starting from a reasonably high baseline of stability, mental & physical health, resources, and likely education. My point is that you can't assume those things. Lots and lots of people aren't even lucky enough to have that starting baseline to even start working toward any of those achievements in your examples.

    That's why I said that my particular personal goals are irrelevant, but where I've gotten most would look at and define it as successful, and that I recognize that so many points on that path I was lucky to have the "upside" outcome rather than the "downside" outcome which would have left me far less successful, or at worst, dead. It really doesn't take many of the inflection points in our lives to not go our way for us to be knocked way down or knocked out entirely. I am very lucky that hasn't been my fate.

  • 'Baby shark, doo, doo.' Popular kids' song used to deter the homeless

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  • Resistance bands would probably get confiscated at the shelter.

    Understood.

    First to Serve is what I’m under.

    Thank you for sharing that. I clicked through to the website but the "Donate" page/link appears to be broken. I called and talked to Maria who will put me in contact with someone else who can take the donation. They were also very interested to hear their donate page is broken.

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  • i guess I didn’t explain well. If your success means a private jet with pilots on call 24x7 that you can afford to fly where and where you want: you need a lot more money than I can help you with.

    your success says something vague about resources to explore your interests. How much resources?

    I'm sorry, I'm not going to divulge my personal financial details on the open internet. Why does this number matter to our discussion? I appreciate if you're trying to offer financial or life planning advice. I don't think I'm in need, but I appreciate your concern.

    I'll say this. On this chart, I believe I am past the fourth level (Esteem) and working on number 5 (self actualization).

    there is much you can do to earn money - keeping a great job is partially luck.

    Getting the job initially is a whole series of lucky events sometimes decades in the making.

    There is a lot you can do to keep a relationship but there is some luck on if the other person doesn’t leave you.

    Not only do you have do work hard on keeping relationships (this is part of the 25% I was talking about) you have to live to enjoy it. Further, your mate has to live and there's all kinds of things that can happen to them through no fault of their own (this is part of the 75% luck I was talking about earlier).

    i agree that health is partially luck and so there is always a luck element. There is a lot you can do for health but some luck as well.

    There is a tiny tiny fraction you can do to keep/improve your health vs the vast majority of the things in this world trying to kill you or make you sick/injured. I'd change the percentages on this even further: 10% in your control to 90% luck.

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  • and you’re taught the illegitimacy of Malcolm X’ ideology and the Nation of Islam on purpose.

    I'll say mostly yes, but there was one thing in my school textbooks that contradicted that narrative. It was this picture of Malcolm X and Dr. King:

    I felt I got a semi-decent education in public schools about the Civil Rights era hitting the highlights of:

    • Rosa Parks/Bus boycott
    • Lunch counter sit ins
    • Dr King's speeches and approaches of non-violent protest
    • March on Selma + Edmund Pettus Bridge
    • Brown V Board of Education
    • Little Rock Nine

    With all of that picture of Malcolm X and Dr. King said something to me that words in the textbook never did. Dr. King, the man who preached non-violence and moved the USA forward to a better future chose to meet with Malcolm X. Malcolm X could not have been "all bad" or illegitimate if Dr. King wanted to interact with him. Further, after seeing pictures and film from Bloody Sunday (Edmund Pettus Bridge crossing), Malcolm X's actions made much more sense.

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  • You need to define succes first. Depending on your definition I will either agree or disagree.

    I using the conventional western definition here for this conversation. All of my basic needs are met, I have no worry for my future needs for probably the rest of my life if I need it to be. I am in good health. I have loving relationship. In addition to this I have extra resources that allow me to explore my interests.

    definitions are personal. If you are looking for advice find a definition that is less about luck.

    No amount of redefinition will help you if you have a genetic condition like Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy which can cause you to keel over dead at 27 years old. No amount of redefinition will help if you're 8 years old in and are living in an active war zone. In those two examples, they didn't choose their circumstances. Nothing in their power caused them to be in their situations. Nothing in their power could change their situations. I would be equally powerless in their place. There is nothing intrinsic about them that makes them responsible for their situations. Why is it that those two people have those life threatening issues and I don't? Luck. Thats life.

    Now, I get where you're going about taking what circumstances you have, and making the best of it. Or possibly exploring the philosophical nature of existence and coming to a different conclusion on what our few decades on Earth are for and how we can all ourselves successful. I don't think that's a bad thing to do personally, but understand that's a luxury that someone starving or dying from exposure likely can't seriously entertain. Entirely ignoring the base reality, even if we don't like it, is dangerous, and potentially callous and can lead us to indifference of the suffering of others and how they arrived there through no fault of their own.

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  • While that can certainly be true, I would say I've gained more empathy as I got older. I was never hateful, but I probably was more dismissive entering adulthood. I didn't understand what I had when I was younger and thought everyone should be able to do what I did and just didn't for some reason I didn't understand. Over time I realized how wrong I was. I saw what advantages I had that led me to where I was, and how many MANY people didn't have those same things, and that expecting them to have equal success was unrealistic and shameful on my part.

    It is so easy for life to knock a human off course or keep them off course. An injury, addiction, an abusive family member, poverty, chronic illness, genetic disorder, political instability, bigotry, victim of crime, economic recession, or a natural disaster. Any one of these things and more can do it. I had little to no concept of these when I was younger. Growing up, meeting people, learning about the world, learning history made me much more open to others suffering and the desire to use what I have been lucky enough to have to help others, and recognize we, as a society, must help others. Its the only way we'll all survive. Divided we fall.

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  • Success in life is 75% luck. Everything you control (dedication, tenacity, ambition, follow through, dependability) is in the first 25%. The remaining 75% is just luck that you have no control over. That doesn't mean you can slack on that first 25%, but even if you absolutely kill it on the first 25% you can still fail in life. I say this as someone that most would consider successful. Yes I worked hard to get where I am, but lots of people work far harder and have far less. I was born in the right place, with the right talents, in the right period in time/history, and with enough of the preferred genetics. Even had everything else been equal and I was born 20 years earlier or 20 years later, I wouldn't be nearly as successful.

    It shouldn't be like this. Its not fair its like this, but this is reality.

  • Trump Plans to Offload National Park Sites, But States Don’t Want Them | States say their resources are already tight.

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  • Coming soon:

    Brawny Paper Towels made from Great Smoky Mountains National Park trees

  • Texas may soon require schools to post the Ten Commandments. Meet the Jewish lawmaker fighting back.

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  • Ramen.

  • 'Baby shark, doo, doo.' Popular kids' song used to deter the homeless

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  • Thank you for your detailed response. Its very informative to get this level of information from someone who lives it. You're right that I can't fix any of that big stuff by myself.

    There are no nearby gyms for things like cardio and resistant training,

    Would a set of resistance bands help? Or is that more of a bother because its more items you have to manage?

    Wages have stagnated across the country. My last job was my best ever paying job at $22/hr

    Is there a tool or certification in needed in your field that would let you get a higher paying job?

    At a minimum, are you comfortable saying what network of shelter you're in? My googling shows a couple in the LA area such as the LA Mission or Shelter partnership. If nothing else it sounds like they're providing some things helping you which I support.

  • 'Baby shark, doo, doo.' Popular kids' song used to deter the homeless

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  • Can I ask what you need today to make your situation better? I know there's obviously big stuff like a home, but on your path to get yourself in a better position what is it you need today that you don't have?

  • Elon Musk ‘took so much ketamine campaigning it damaged his bladder’

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  • My theory is that his PR people are “leaking” these stories that he can rebuild his image as a recovering addict.

    If he wants to use this angle in my mind he's going to have to do way more than a weekend at Betty Ford. If he retracts his antagonism for unions at his plants and rehires those he fired would be a start. He'd also have to do a full 180 and admit how hard the work of government is and his actions with DOGE were more destructive than constructive. He'd had to publicly apologize for his behavior and provide restitution to all those his actions negatively impacted. A big part of that would be fighting against the trump administration and its attacks on racial and gender minorities.

  • What TV show has had the most positive impact on you?

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  • Star Trek. It taught me to dream big, recognize bigotry, embrace diversity, and show what a post scarcity future can actually look like and what we could accomplish if we try to.

  • Canada Ditches U.S. Defense for $1.25 Trillion EU Pact

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  • Their goal is to widen the wealth gap as much as possible.

    How would the rich in the USA losing billions of dollars of defense spending widen the gap? The story works against what you're saying because the USA rich are less rich with Canada's actions here. Thats what doesn't make sense.

  • The Carpenter 🙃🙃

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  • So the comic started running in newspapers in 1930 but ran until 1973. In my head canon this woman carpenter is in her early 70s in the comic. The 19th Amendment granting women the right to vote was passed in 1920. So I'm guessing she was one of these badass suffragettes when she was younger:

  • Canada Ditches U.S. Defense for $1.25 Trillion EU Pact

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  • but he, the billionaire, wins

    Thats the thing on this one. No billionaires are even winning with this. Many multi-millionaries or close to billionaires are losing on this too. I could understand (but be angry) if this was more billionaire grift, but no one wins from this except possibly the EU defense industry.

  • Canada Ditches U.S. Defense for $1.25 Trillion EU Pact

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  • So not only did trumps stupid fantasy rants piss off our one of our two closest neighbors and centuries old friend, its now cost the USA multiple billions of dollars in business. For what? We gained nothing and lost so much.

  • Trump now claims 60 Minutes interview caused him ‘mental anguish’

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  • If a TV show can cause you mental anguish enough to claim damages, I think that disqualifies you to be the President of the United States.

  • If there was any TV show that was cancelled or cut short that you could see the planned continuation/ending of, which would you choose?

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  • Best show in the 'verse, 我的朋友!