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oddlyqueer

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  • Do gender roles have a stranglehold on heterosexual relationships, or does social media just make it feel that way?

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  • A practical addendum to that last point: I am eternally grateful that I am too old to have had to deal with the current landscape of app-based dating, so I am definitely commenting on something out of my experience, but I would advise trying to meet people in real life and make non-romantic friends, rather than "trying to date". Book clubs, Ultimate frisbee leagues, activism groups, etc. I met my partner doing community theater. I think if you want to find someone you can be friends with as well as partners, you have to try being just friends first. And it doesn't always progress beyond that, and sometimes that sucks like a bastard. But I still think it's better than the alternative methods I've seen.

  • Do gender roles have a stranglehold on heterosexual relationships, or does social media just make it feel that way?

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  • Who's going to be doing this railroading? It's going to be up to you and whoever you decide to have a relationship with to decide what your roles in the relationship will be. When I started getting serious with my partner (now cohabitating over a decade and going strong), we both thought we were cishet little ex-christians. But we were buddies from the start, and that hasn't changed even when we started to question our gender identities. For all I know, it may have been the fact that we were in a stable, loving relationship for the first time in both our lives that made it safe enough to start exploring that aspect of ourselves. I know for us it took (is taking...) a while. I loved them when they thought they were a woman, I love them now as their NB self, and if they discover more about their gender identity I'll love them then. We're still, and will hopefully always be, partners and best buds.

    So if you want to try being in a relationship with a girl, find a girl you like, and love her.

  • What was your number one favorite website 'back in the day', that is now defunct?

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  • ‘I do not work for you’: MTG speaks out on growing rift with Trump’s White House over Epstein files

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  • I wonder if MTG is the Republican Party experiencing the 4chan effect: if you build your community around pretending to be batshit insane, you'll eventually attract genuinely batshit insane people who aren't in on the joke. It could be that she doesn't realize most of the elected GOP is just pretending to go along with the right-wing outrage du jour to support their cult, and she's genuinely confused about why they're no longer interested in the epstein affair.

    That, or she just sees the writing on the wall and is trying to distance herself from it. Either way, fuck her and the shitbags she made a bed with.

  • Seriously, how would a global democracy work?

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  • I agree. I think with a robust enough proposal, there are a lot of people with power who would be willing to get on board. Some people though... they've shown that they're willing to kill huge numbers of people to maintain and expand their power, and I don't know that that kind of powermonger can be dealt with gracefully. And I think an internet-native global democratic movement would have to be started by people with internet access, and one of its goals would have to be providing, to the best of its ability, internet access to everyone.

  • Seriously, how would a global democracy work?

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  • Genuinely, I think the "other" in this case is the extinction of the human species. It's very scary to me that there are people like Vladimir Putin and Donald Trump are in charge of nuclear arsenals. Do I think they are going to start a nuclear war? At this point the best I can do is "hopefully not 🤞". But the longer we roll the nuclear armageddon dice, the better our chances that we'll eventually wipe ourselves out. And the predicament that Ukraine finds itself in currently is proof that no nation with nukes should ever give them up as long as there's a real threat of invasion by another nation. And as technology advances and we find more efficient ways of harnessing huge amounts of energy, that arms race will only escalate. I think the only long-term solution is to find a way for all of us to disarm and find a stable way to prevent rearming, or in other words, world peace.

  • Seriously, how would a global democracy work?

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  • I think there would have to be a constitution with an enumeration of basic rights, and unfettered access to the global internet would have to be one of them. I'm leery of biometrics, for one, not everyone has eyes or fingers, and two, biometric signatures can be spoofed and if someone can spoof your biometric signatures, it's hard to prove your identity. I think there would have to be some kind of managed citizen ID, something that can be replaced by your local government if it gets compromised.

    I think direct funding would probably have to be a big component at the start, especially before the government is able to levy taxes. But capital power tends to favor itself and lead to increased inequality. The fundamental assumption of one person = one vote would have to be able to ultimately overrule the wealthy for it to be a real democracy.

  • Seriously, how would a global democracy work?

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  • I have a similar thought about 100-1000 person groups at the base level. I think the basic unit of organization would need to be geographical, for a couple of reasons: one, I think it's important for us as humans to be able to meet and talk to your fellows (and your elected officials) in person, and two, I think a purely online bloc would be vulnerable to technological capture. Like, an attacker could MITM an entire bloc and manipulate how they vote. I think interest groups / parties / factions etc. will still happen but I wouldn't want to organize voting around them.

  • What makes a behavior "childish"?

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  • They both refer to behaviors or attributes associated with children, but "childish" has a generally negative connotation and "childlike" has a generally positive connotation. e.g. "childish behavior" is usually something the author judges inappropriate, where "childlike wonder" is usually rendered as a positive (if often infantilizing) attribute. Similar definitions, but quite different in implication.

  • [White House] Designating Antifa as a Domestic Terrorist Organization

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  • That's the neat part, it is the default. the only way to opt out is to praise the leader loudly and often, and never in any way be critical of or inconvenient to the regime.

  • Selfhosting Sunday! What's up?

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  • Nice, I appreciate the analysis. I'm still early enough on with Jellyfin that I'm still willing to ascribe every issue to user error but I think I see what you mean. But I keep telling myself that I will contribute to a large multi-dev OSS project at some point and still never have; contributing code in public is still kinda nerve-wracking. maybe if I have a selfish enough reason to fix something I'll finally push through that 😆

  • Selfhosting Sunday! What's up?

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  • Good question; I did not know what Emby is until just now. I will explore it some more, I'm having issues getting the jellyfin ios/android clients to connect consistently to my server so I might ultimately do that instead / in parallel but I'm leery of freemium solutions.

  • Selfhosting Sunday! What's up?

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  • I finally set up Jellyfin and Sonarr! I've been using Plex and manually managing torrents for a while now, recently found the *arr services and they are very impressive. Got the Jackett - Sonarr - Jellyfin - Nginx stack set up, now working on getting SSL + DynDNS so I can make it available remotely. Also accidentally blasted my ratio downloading a bunch of TV shows all at once so gotta seed up for a bit before i fill it out more. But so far the setup has been pleasantly breezy for how complex a setup it is ❤️

  • 'I've Never Seen Anything Like It': Trump Policies Leave US Farmers in Dire Straits

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  • I don't know what the odds are on the US or a part of the US reaching the technical definition of famine, I'm just saying I wouldn't put it in the "definitely not happening" category. And it wouldn't be because there's not enough food available, more like the government is actively aggravating domestic food production and international trade and they're bumbling morons, which is a combination that could easily get us into shortages where a large chunk of the population is starving. And depending on which Americans it affects (or affects the most), the government may not care. Not saying it's definitely going to happen, but I think it's naive to say it definitely won't just based on America's buying power.

    FWIW I agree that the current situation, whatever it's impact on America's food security, will impact other parts of the world more severely. I'm sure America's shit will still roll downhill.

  • 'I've Never Seen Anything Like It': Trump Policies Leave US Farmers in Dire Straits

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  • Started happening. There's still plenty of consolidation left to go. Hence the current pressure.

  • 'I've Never Seen Anything Like It': Trump Policies Leave US Farmers in Dire Straits

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  • It's been happening steadily for a while, Trump just opened up a lot of avenues to accelerate it. There are still a lot of small and medium family farms that own their land and equipment.

  • 'I've Never Seen Anything Like It': Trump Policies Leave US Farmers in Dire Straits

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  • IDK, there are already a lot of people hanging on by a thread in the US. A collapse in domestic production that leads to higher prices will push more people under the "secure" line. I think it'll also cause food shortages worldwide but I think you're overestimating how many Americans will be insulated.

  • 'I've Never Seen Anything Like It': Trump Policies Leave US Farmers in Dire Straits

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  • Happens here too. And who scoops up the land when it gets liquidated? JD goddamn Vance and his vultures.

    All part of the plan :(

  • ‘If you still support Trump, look in the mirror’: The 13-year-old Texas boy who has gone viral for criticizing the president on social media

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  • I don't think being cossetted in a media bubble is the same as having no ability to self-reflect. It's just that so many people have so little occasion IRL to challenge the beliefs they've been fed from birth. Some people can be deprogrammed.

    I hope :(