I don't really believe in disney style everlasting romantic "soul mate" type love. As in you're trying to apply a loosely defined social construct to your emotions, feelings, thoughts, and hormones... it's just not going to make sense.
I think a better question is whether you're misleading your partner for personal gain. It sounds like the answer to that is no.
However, you do need to consider whether there's a power imbalance, and what the implications of that might be in the future. Most bad relationship situations tend to happen where one or other person doesn't have the same agency as the other. When a partner is wealthier or older or even just better employed, you can find yourself having to be submissive at every moment.
I'll begrudgingly concede that this is a good point.
Part of me wants to say "just force these assholes to build renewables without the datacentres" but I know that's nonsensical.
I guess this is how carbon credit schemes are intended to work, but I'm aware that aside from a few specific cases carbon trading has just been a way to obfuscate carbon emissions.