jaycifer

I’m the exact opposite. I’m okay with knife wounds, they get my adrenaline pumping but it’s a problem to be solved, so whatever stress it brings can only be focused into taking the steps to solve it. But needles are way more subtle, the concept of this thin little thing slipping between skin to sneak stuff into the body or pull blood out, leaving barely a trace that anything changed. Logically I know they’re great, and I’m very pro-vaccination (ironically part of my job is importing vaccination records for a school district for nurses to track) but the subconscious part of my brain cannot handle it. Needles just give me the heebie jeebies. I’ve been squirming nonstop the entire time writing this.

In college my job was making pizzas. Late one Saturday night I got a call for a carryout order. As I handed the guy his food later he told me I have a voice for radio, which is a lot nicer to say than having a face for radio.

What’s green, fuzzy, and can kill you if it falls out of a tree?

A pool table.

I feel enlightened having learned a new word, koan, today!

If someone is a narcissist that believes themself better than others, why would they give a shit about hostility and finger wagging from others? If anything, it would prove that the other person is losing their cool and is therefore inferior to the narcissist.

I’m 6’3” and short among the cousins in my family. I don’t mind being a couple inches shorter in conversation. I get a little self conscious when I’m a head or more above everyone else in the room, which is a semi regular thing. I want to be shorter when I bonk my head on things that are low hanging for me. If I was any taller it would be even more difficult to find clothing.

I wouldn’t mind being a couple inches shorter, around 6 feet even.

Did you bake the bread itself? Do you have a recipe you could share?

I joined Lemmy.world a couple years ago after kbin.social closed down, and made a Piefed account a few months ago when people said it was pretty good. I use both daily for different things.

For Lemmy I have found there is a big block button on each community page, so I use it a lot more than on Piefed. I also have my default sort set to top of the last 12 hours and to hide a post after I have viewed it. Sometimes if a post is only an hour or two long and doesn't have a ton of comments I'll wait a few hours to open it to have more comments to read. If it's immediately interesting/relevant I'll open it in a new tab, read it, then leave the tab to refresh later for further discussion since it won't show up on my home page again. I also make heavy use of the Active sort after looking at the first page of 25 (I think) top results, which often leads to finding posts that I maybe wasn't super interested in a day or two ago that now enough comments to make me interested in what the discussion is going on. There's also a bug in the Active sort where the second page doesn't load which is great to me because it encourages me to get off of Lemmy at that point.

All this has led my Lemmy usage to be very focused on what I am interested in, and there is a much higher ratio of posts that I am interested in. When I am bored and want to look at my phone, Lemmy is what I open. It's where I tend to discuss things most frequently because I tend to find posts here first and they are more frequently things I want to speak on.

Piefed is where I go after Lemmy (You'll never guess my username there). It looks like you can block communities, but you have to dig into your account settings and search for the community, which takes more work than I care to give. Unlike Lemmy, you can block keywords in your settings, so I blocked "Trump" and "Musk" when I made the account which has cut out the vast majority of the exhausting posts I would see otherwise (I do leave Politics and World News unblocked on Lemmy to see the biggest politics posts that float to the top). I have my default sort set to top posts of the last 24 hours and since I have no communities blocked I get a lot of comics and memes that I have blocked on Lemmy. The first page loads what feels like 100 posts instead of the 25 on Lemmy. I don't know what the Active sort on Piefed is doing, but I do not care for it. I really like that I can set the default comment sort on Piefed, as it saves me the click and loading time of selecting Top comments every time I load a post.

All this leads my use of Piefed to feel like a funny junk drawer of mostly memes and comics that make me go "heh" every so often and occasionally share a meme to my friend group chat. The top 100 posts of the last day don't change quickly so it usually only feels worthwhile to scroll once, maybe twice a day. I also don't (can't?) hide posts on Piefed which leads to a greater sense of redundancy, which by the time I've reached the bottom of the front page means I probably shouldn't be scrolling more anyway.

If you can, you should make an account with both and see what feels best to you. Maybe you were looking for a more technical answer, but I can only speak to how it feels as an end user. A year ago I did start to throw a couple dollars to Lemmy each month for the server usage.

I haven’t met my aunt’s cousin many times, but I did hear about her wedding. For his vows, Mike 3 (the third Mike she dated and I think second she had married) crushed an entire Mike’s Hard Lemonade then declared “I love you so much, Babe!” After the ceremony they took the rifles that had been leaning a few feet away and shot some targets nearby. I think that was a few weeks after she had been excited that 7 years had passed since her last bankruptcy, which meant she could start racking up debt again and go on a cruise.

I guess kudos to them for living their best lives, but if all that’s not a little trashy, I don’t know what is.

Hey, modern internal combustion engines are the worst they’ll ever be too! What a coincidence!

Additionally, Donald Trump does not appear on the chart of before and after wealth, presumbaly because the "according to Bloomberg" numbers are 20 time higher than the highest number that is on the chart.

Man, what a frustrating comment to read. I was so on board until the snootiness of the last two sentences. You don't make that kind of money? You obviously do if you're dropping 30k+ on a vehicle.

For comparison's sake, the 2014 Altima I got 9 years ago gets 30 mpg. At the rate of $4.10/gallon I paid last week that's $0.14 a mile, which is a hefty 3x your number. But then consider that I rent a couple rooms in a house, so I'm not installing a fast charging station at home to fully take advantage of the cheap $0.17kw/hr you are, and at the apartment I lived in previously level 1 charging wouldn't be available at all. That leaves commercial charging stations which around me are closer to $0.30kw/hr. That would still make your EV (whatever model it is) about half the cost per mile, which is great, although not as great as my first impression felt when I saw your $0.04 number.

But why would you assume that everyone can drop tens of thousands of dollars upfront to switch to an EV? I want to think you're just joking, but that didn't come through from text alone, and your other comment that it is a choice to use an ICE vehicle tells me you're probably not. That level of smarminess is just obnoxious.

I could go for some mint chocolate syrup poured over vanilla ice cream. That would slap. Please make me lose.

Alright, here are the official stats: getting perfectly clean gives you the buff Cleanliness IV for 1 hour, which then degrades to Cleanliness III for 3 hours, to Cleanliness II for 8 hours, followed by Cleanliness I for 12 hours.

The time runs at a base rate of 1 hour per hour, but your environment may lead to the rate accelerating or decreasing. For instance, being out in the hot sun may lead to sweating which increases the rate to 1.25-4 hours per hour depending on how hot it is and your passive constitution score and buffs. Being in a perfectly air conditioned, filtered environment could reduce the rate as low as .5 hours per hour.

There can also be instant hits to the timer. For instance, being hit by a thimble of mud may take off 10 minutes at once, slathering it to to cover more skin will take off a larger chunk from the timer.

I’ll admit, I’ve not listened to much of Fountains of Wayne’s first album, more the others. They’ve been one of my favorites about as long as I can remember though. I tend to resonate with a new song of theirs every year or two. Do you have any favorites off their first album?

When I think of my favorite albums, they tend to have come to me at a time to hit me emotionally. There may be one or two songs that aren’t my favorite, but don’t detract from the whole. Oddly enough if I listen to an entire album I prefer it be a concept album, but my favorites tend to not have one cohesive theme. My favorites ordered by time include:

The Red Album by Weezer- My dad gave me the CD when I was in middle school, we’d jam to it in the car on the way to school, and when I got an mp3 player I’d listen to just about every song often.

Dark Side of the Moon by Pink Floyd- Yes, this is a cliche. The one time I experienced ego death was on a heroic dose of LSD in college while laying in bed with an eye mask on listening to this album for the first time. I felt that I was in on a joke, that life was so vast and yet so short. I laughed, I cried, it moved me. I gave serious consideration to what I wanted out of life for the first time instead of only wanting some direction given to me. I listened to the album many more times after that when I needed a reminder of that experience.

The New Abnormal by The Strokes- This album came out at the start of the pandemic when I was stressing out of my mind at the state of the world. I loved the album name, I love every song off the album, they all felt relatable in some way, Spotify said I was in the top .5% of Strokes listeners that year. When one song comes on from my library I’m always tempted to play the whole thing. It’s great.

The Sonic Age by The Symposium- I think this is one of my favorites. I couldn’t name half the songs, but I found the artist and the album came out shortly after my dad passed away. I really like how rushed yet smooth and relaxed the album feels, it mirrored how I felt processing his death and I could just put it on and feel fine with not being fine for a bit.

In 10th grade, my best friend moved away and I realized I had very few friends left. I had spent middle school considering myself part of the “social outcast” group that didn’t really fit into any of the cliques. What I did was find the lunch table that other students I shared classes with and sat there listening to them talk. Sometimes all the seats were full and I sat at a different table, but eventually as I got to understand the people and dynamics at play I started chiming in a little more until eventually I was part of the friend group.

From there I felt more comfortable talking to more people, so I did until eventually in senior year there were folks saying hi to me while walking down the hall pretty frequently, I knew most people in my graduating class of 350 to some degree, and for some reason I was voted prom king.

I had the benefit of being in the same school district from grades 1-12 so I had had most of my life to that point to learn names, but my core advice remains the same. I became less awkward (or at least good enough at owning being awkward to not matter) by befriending new people, and I befriended new people by inserting myself into a friend group over time, and I did that by just being present and quiet until I felt comfortable enough to speak up more.

It’s a nice touch that the bottleship’s sail is sagging due to not getting any wind.

jaycifer

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jaycifer

What do you do simply for the love of it and not for validation?

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What dumb line/joke may live in your head forever?

What dumb line/joke may live in your head forever?

Should I warn people that I am a narcissist and have antisocial behavior

Any Other Guys wish they were short/shorter

What piece of media thoroughly disappointed you?

Sage Brown Butter sauce Fettuccine & goose egg yolk with fresh baked bread

What is the difference between piefed and lemmy and what are the advantages of this platform?

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Is my supervisor an AI bot?

Obama says president ‘shouldn’t have a bunch of side hustles’

RFK Jr. clears path for minors' use of tanning beds, much to the dismay of dermatologists

Trump blamed for gas prices as Democrats gain midterm edge

You have to invent a new type of candy or dessert, but if it's physically impossible or another commenter can prove it already exists, you lose. What are you making?

What misconception are you tired of being spread?

I'm curious: Are all the songs in your favorite music album masterpieces? or how do you determine an album is one of your favorites?

I'm curious: Are all the songs in your favorite music album masterpieces? or how do you determine an album is one of your favorites?

Previously awkward teens, how did you eventually figure it out?

xkcd #3240: Bottle