I agree, they're small groups of asshats but they're loud and effective groups of asshats. Take kiwifarms for example; despite being a pretty small community, they can inflict a lot of damage to a lot of people in short periods of time.
Not sure if this will help, but find my device on F-Droid is awesome. You can use generic SMS and send "fmd locate" or you can use third party apps such as signal. This makes it so it'll only trigger whenever you receive that text message rather it running 24/7
It allows you to setup a trusted set of contacts who can then send you a text message "fmd locate", and it'll reply with an openstreetmaps link showing where you are. It's not real time tho
And you can disable it simply by turning off your location
the only time I get annoyed or frustrated is when they don't read whatever pop up they get and immediately press "ok" or "continue" and it borks everything
sadly for me money is that tight right now, so if I can donate via ad revenue I definitely would (or better yet donating my time instead)