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grasshopper_mouse

@ grasshopper_mouse @lemmy.world

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  • When were you wrong about something?

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  • I've been a short-tempered bitch with people when I really shouldn't have been. Haven't been that way in years, but in my youth it happened several times. There's also been moments I've looked back on in my youth and realized I had some views that were the result of institutionalized racism that I didn't even realize were racist until I'd educated myself years later and realized my poor judgement.

  • Do you ever use words from different countries?

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  • "Chingadera" and a smattering of other Spanish words/slang; "świnia", which means pig in Polish, because my Grandma says it, and "haiyaaaaaa", said with a long sigh, thanks Uncle Roger.

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  • I mean, whether or not adults have the time is highly dependent on their daily life schedule. Some adults have more time than others. In my adult life, I've had periods where I had no time to play, or could only play casually on the weekends, as well as periods where most of my free time was spent gaming.

    Also, if by "luxury" you mean it costs too much, if you have access to the internet, you have access to free video games. Even Steam has free videogames, and you don't have to have some fancy gaming PC to play some of them.

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  • 45yr old woman here, I have never wanted kids. When I was a kid myself and all the other little girls were playing with Barbies and baby dolls, I was playing with Transformers and building forts with the boys outside. When the little girls wanted to play "house", I was always the pet. Babies and little kids have always had this weird, foreign feeling to me and were something I never wanted to be a part of.

    My dad left my mom when I was 8 and my brother was 3. Guess who raised her brother from there on out because mom was working? Add to this that we were poor, it was the 80's so we were latchkey kids and alone a LOT, and now look at how shitty the world has steadily become since then, and there is no fucking way I was gonna bring a child into it and do that crap all over again, but this time from the very beginning of their lives. Now my aging mother bemoans the fact that she's the only one left in our extended family that isn't a grandma (because SURPRISE! My brother is childfree too! Can't imagine why!), and I have to threaten to stop speaking to her for the hundredth time because I've told her I will NEVER have children, do not ask me again.

    As I've grown into adulthood, there have been so so so many instances where life has gone bad for me, and the FIRST thing I always say to myself is "Thank GOD I don't have kids!" Every one of those moments would have been exponentially harder if I'd had kids during that time.

    Then I look at people I know/have known growing up who have kids, and the ones who have kids with Autism, behavioral issues, major learning disabilities, the parents who know they're stuck for life with some of these kids, and I thank God again that that is not me, because I dunno how they do it.

    Call me selfish, tell me I don't know what "real love" is, tell me I'm not a "real" woman because I don't have kids, I don't give a shit. This is my life, not yours, and I chose not to have kids. "But what if you meet someone you like who has kids!?" I very deliberately only date childfree people, it said as much on all my dating profiles, kids are a deal-breaker. Lo and behold, I've been with a childfree partner I found for 5 years. They do exist!

  • People of Lemmy, what does your egg carton look like? No fair changing the setup for the picture.

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  • I have 4 eggs left and they're all right in the middle, 2 in the top row, 2 in the bottom row, to create balance in the flimsy container they came in.

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    What's up with media mentions of Period Trackers so much, do women need a special calendar or something to actually know when thats going to happen and plan around it?

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  • This was me when I was on the pill. I knew exactly what day and what hour it would start.

  • For those who play games on a PC with 2 monitors, are you a game on the left screen or game on the right screen person?

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  • Game on the left, everything else on the right

  • Any foods you prefer or can't stand depending on whether they are raw, fresh, pickled, cooked etc?

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  • Raw tomatoes are a disgusting, slimy, mealy abomination. Tomato sauce, tomato soup, and ketchup are all excellent.

  • US man stages $1 bank robbery to get state healthcare (2011)

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  • Jail is basically my retirement plan if all else fails (and it probably will)

  • What communities or instances do you have blocked to make your Lemmy experience more enjoyable?

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  • What communities or instances do you have blocked to make your Lemmy experience more enjoyable?

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  • Anything with anime "Mo", porn, or "furry" in it. I'm not hating on them, it's just not for me.

  • Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end?

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  • He (now she) came out as trans. I am bi myself, but I had been attracted to him for his male qualities, and I did not find her attractive as a woman. That, and she deserved to have the life experiences of dating/living as a woman that our marriage could not provide. There were signs well before the divorce, and we did try marriage counseling before we called it quits. We were married 7 years and thankfully had no kids. The divorce was amicable and we are still friends, still hang out and text regularly.

    I already had trust issues, but I definitely trust people even less now. I had many people say things like "Oh, but isn't it nice that she trusted you enough to come out to you?" like that's some sort of consolation prize for my marriage ending. There is not much support outside of immediate family for the ex-spouses of trans people because so many assume we are all anti-trans because of the divorce, when that's so far from the truth. If you love someone, you set them free, and that's what we did for each other by divorcing.

    There's a very fucked up community that call themselves "trans widows", which is full of angry ex-spouses hating on all things trans. I get their anger, but at the end of the day, it's the individual person and their particular actions and not the trans community that they should be angry at. The situation is difficult, and I know my ex carries guilt about it, and I could not relate to the "trans widow" community at all.

    What can my experience teach you about your own relationships? I dunno, man, probably nothing good. That my paranoia and assumptions were ultimately justified leading up to her coming out? That you can't trust anyone? That everyone has something to hide? That giving yourself to someone fully isn't worth the risk? I dunno.

  • What are the modern design trends you hate most?

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  • When someone puts a house up for sale and all the photos of the house are photoshopped in some way, with fake added furnishings in every room. I'd so much rather see an empty room than that fake shit. Or hell, even if it's not empty, show me the current owner's shit, I don't care.

  • Trump Appoints 22-Year-Old Ex-Gardener and Grocery Store Assistant to Lead U.S. Terror Prevention

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  • LOL lookit this fucking guy

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  • My first computer that I bought myself was a Dell Inspiron laptop that I bought in 2000. It was about $1,500 if I remember correctly, and had 256 MB of RAM. Sounded like a plane about to take off every time you turned it on, the fans were stupid loud.

    The first computer my parents bought was in the late '80s/early 90s that ran MS-DOS. I don't remember the brand name, but my brother and I used to play "Castle Adventure" on it. We drew maps of the screens on paper notepads to make our own cheat sheets.

  • Have your parents ever said something so unhinged that you’re just left standing there like🧍‍♂️?

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  • Aw, thanks, guy.

  • New federal employees must now write essays praising Trump's policies

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  • I've applied for several jobs with the federal government on USAJobs over the years. Several have required an essay, but it's always been dippy work-related questions like "What do you consider essential in an employee or colleague?" and stuff like that. I have NEVER seen an essay question that was related to the current administration at the time, or anything political at all. This is very fucked up, and not surprising coming from TACO Don at all.

  • Have your parents ever said something so unhinged that you’re just left standing there like🧍‍♂️?

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  • When I was little, I did something bad (I don't even remember what it was), and my mom got angry with me about it, and I was already crying, and I asked her "Do you still love me?" and she said "I don't know", and that shit has stuck with me forever and I'm sure contributes to the fact that I don't truly trust anyone. If I brought it up to her now, she'd 100% deny it.

  • What's the dumbest weed related thing that's happened to you or someone you know did?

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  • I've had some pretty dumb thoughts while high. I've always been a lightweight with weed - The "Happy, Hungry, Sleepy" cycle of being high happened for me in the span of about 90 minutes, so while all my friends were having a hysterical time or went out after we smoked, I would already be passed out. Needless to say, dumb "things" never happened for me, because I literally couldn't stay awake long enough for them to happen.

    The dumbest thought I ever had while high was that I convinced myself I had two brains, and that one brain could predict the thoughts of the other brain before it thought them. Yes, really. And that's why I haven't smoked in like 25 years.