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But still the sunken stars appear In dark and windless Mirrormere; There lies his crown in water deep, Till Durin wakes again from sleep.

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  • I was 21. As an exchange student in Japan. Everything was perfect. I developed, as you said it yourself, home management skills and I realized how good I am at life. This was 16 years ago.

  • At work. After a six year "dry spell" filled with depression and self-hatred, one day, I realized that a colleague was actually talking to me, on her own volition, on a regular basis. Un-f*cking-believable (in a positive way). We have been hanging out regularly for a year now. I'm so grateful for her.

  • I've only had amicable breakups (37, male, single), except for this one: when I was still figuring things out in eighth grade, a girl that I had broken up with threatened to pour coke on me - which she was holding in her hand - which made me miss a final exam and the teacher wouldn't have it so I failed the class. Dafuq.

    Just realized your question was about exes trying to come back to our lives. Never mind.

  • Setup: Tidal through USB Audio Player on my Samsung Galaxy S23 with an Audioquest DragonFly Cobalt DAC and Sennheiser IE 900 headphones.

    Why: because I can taste the sound in my mouth

    Some favorites: Erutan, Diana Panton, The Ink Spots, The 8-Bit Big Band, Dir en grey, Eluveitie, Aimer, Paramore, Shiina Ringo, Tokyo Jihen, Yorushika

  • Wait until you write code that is self-hosting!

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  • I went to university in my home country in Europe. At first, I just wanted to pursue my passion, which was the Japanese language. I had no future plans whatsoever. While writing the thesis for my bachelor's degree, I was asked to help out the university staff with teaching some seminars. That in turn made me realize that I love working with people, that I love teaching and that becoming a Japanese teacher would simply give me the best of both worlds. That realization led me to applying for a university in Japan, where I did my master's degree in education. Also because the prefect at the university in my country told me that a degree in education from Japan would make me eligible for a full time contract as a Japanese teacher. After returning to my country, I learned that my government had implemented a policy that made it impossible for me to get hired as an adjunct (a teacher that only teaches and whose contract doesn't require them to produce a certain amount of papers per year). I had no intentions of becoming a researcher, even part time, so I gave up on becoming a Japanese teacher.

    Looking back at my choices, even though I do something completely unrelated today (probation officer and case worker), I regret nothing. Going to college connected me with the world. It made me academically smarter, emotionally more intelligent and it opened up my eyes to my ignorance and made me humble.

  • In my country, you are only allowed to own firearms if you are 1) a hunter or 2) an active member of a shooting club. I just registered and now I am on the wait list. 2026 will be the year I buy my first firearm ever. Some kind of pistol. Eager to learn! :)

  • The poor fucking people around you. You seem to know it all. 🤮

  • Wait... WHAT? Here I thought Pokémon are real too D: wtf...

  • I agree. In this particular instance, I was just unlucky that the girl didn't take it too well. Others girl have simply told me no and that was that. In fact, I kind of appreciate that she felt that she is able to talk to our boss about it. I think it shows what an open workplace culture we have.

  • Yup, I learned my lesson. Ugh...

  • Yeah, I felt that atmosphere the other day...

  • Thanks for all the various perspectives!

    Yep, I almost shat my pants when she told me off, so, no more office flirting...

  • Fortunately, at my workplace, at this level of inconveniencing a fellow female coworker, won't get me terminated. I followed up with both the girl that got bothered by me and with my boss later on, and it really didn't seem like a big thing. I think they just wanted to halt my behavior before it "escalated" or whatever.

    Anyway, after reading your comment, I will never look at how office romances are portrayed in TV the same again. 🤣 It's nothing to joke about.

    PS: another coworker who heard about my situation said, "we don't shit where we eat, okay?" I laughed my ass off at first, but I guess I'll just treat the workplace as off limits.

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    how did you choose your career?

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  • I never ever thought of the future until I at the age of 21 suddenly, out of the blue, realized that I wanted to become a Japanese teacher at a university. The notion may have sprung from a fierce passion toward the language and culture, which I came in contact with during my first year in senior highschool.

    One thing led to another, and I found myself taking a Master's degree in education in Japan at the age of 28. Having met my wife there, we decided that if we want to start a family, we should move back to my country in Europe for social and financial security reasons. We got divorced even before she got her residence permit. At that time, I was 31. And even though my alma mater university in my hometown had told me to get that Master's in education to be eligible for a full time contract as a Japanese teacher, my government had implemented new politics that drastically slashed the budget for universities to hire teachers. The new policy says that universities should focus on research, rather than education. What a load of crap... Anyway, I had gotten a job as a prison guard because I needed a job FAST to apply for my wife's residence permit. Even after we got divorced, I continued working at several prisons and later as a probationary officer. Today, I do pre-trial reports, which simply gives the judge at the sentencing hearing a nudge in one direction or another. I appreciate this job since I have the power to change the lives of people - especially children - that are otherwise at risk. I also have use for my pedagogic skills. It's not my dream job, but here I am.

    I guess the takeaway is that you can only do so much planning. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't.

    BUT! I cannot stress enough the importance of putting yourself out there. Especially into the worlds and societies that you don't know. Or that you might be prejudicial about. And if you ever fear trying or doing something, do it just for the sake of it. Experience is everything.

  • Personally, I don't hate this book:

    https://tldp.org/LDP/intro-linux/intro-linux.pdf

    It's somewhat outdated, for instance, it still assumes that your first process is init while most of us have transitioned to systemd, but I still find to book very educational in terms of... "Linux mentality"? Give it a try! :)

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3MwJbRq3-rM

    Also, there is nothing noobie about Linux Mint. Everything that you can do on, say, Arch Linux, you can do on Linux Mint, with some minor adjustments. That's what's Linux is all about. :D

  • Thanks! I'm doing this on Linux, which I failed to mention in the post. I terminated the program with ctrl + c, but it was still interesting to me how such a short, seemingly uncomplicated snippet could tax my Ryzen 7 5800 X3D so much that the fans needed to increase their speed. Couldn't a malicious actor theoretically disrupt a target machine by having an unnoticeably insignificant program loop in the background, taxing the CPU to it's usable limits? This is off topic of course, but still interesting.

  • https://uwuntuos.site/ obvi?

    But seriously though, Arch all the way, because it teaches me about Linux and computers, because I can customize all the packages at OS install (without the need for lengthy compiling like Gentoo) and because my Steam games work flawlessly on it.

  • Thank you so much! :D Yeah, I noticed there were no remainders. I'll try with float and see what I can come up with.