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@ dandelion @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Message me and let me know what you were wanting to learn about me here and I'll consider putting it in my bio.

  • no, I'm not named after the character in The Witcher, I've never played
  • pronouns: she/her

I definitely feel like I'm more of like a dumpling than a woman at this point in my life.

Hannah Horvath

  • What are some hidden gems of the fediverse?

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  • What are some hidden gems of the fediverse?

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  • oh, you mean what are some good federated apps? like peertube instead of youtube, etc.?

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  • Grilled artichoke heart

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  • this makes my heart feel warm and fuzzy 🥰

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  • this is making me so hungry 🤤

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  • yes, this is historically always how I've heard FAFO used - basically like a threat before someone does something stupid

    but recently it seems like the meaning has significantly shifted, particularly in liberal communities and political contexts, to imply that people we don't like politically will get what they deserve (a bit like /r/LeopardsAteMyFace)

    an example was a posts in /r/MarchAgainstNazis titled "The arc of 'F**king Around' is long, but it bends toward 'Finding Out'" (this is a remix of the Martin Luther King Jr quote)

    So in a sense it's still taking on some of the threatening tones originally used, but I feel like with a lot of liberals it turns into constant cope, waiting for the criminal political actors they obsess about get the justice that is owed

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  • Your claim is that when people believe in karma it becomes real (through guilt). Karma is justice, it's a claim that justice is natural and will occur without human intervention - and also as an explanatory tool for why some people suffer and others are lucky. Without karma, you have to use human systems of justice because you can't rely on justice happening naturally. When I say justice, I'm talking about the process by which fairness is maintained through punishment or other resolution of harms done.

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  • That's an interesting way to look at it, basically asserting that guilt is a real form of karma. I do think for people who feel guilt, that it can function as a way to "punish" someone for doing something wrong, but I disagree with you that people feel that guilt because they believe in karma.

    Nor do I think guilt is the same thing as justice - even in cases where wrong-doing results in guilt. That is, guilt is not always the appropriate or just response to wrong-doing. If a murderer says they feel guilty, we do not think that is sufficient punishment to make up for their crime.

    Karma also tends to create complacency and is used to justify the status-quo, it is used to justify why lucky and rich people are lucky and rich, and why unlucky and poor people are unlucky and poor, and why we shouldn't interfere in those matters. Karma is in a real sense a fairy tale of natural justice that undermines the will to create real justice or fairness through law or society. In that way, I think it actually works against your idea that karma creates guilt which leads to justice. Instead I think karma absolves people of guilt and attempts to make justice the matter of the gods or nature rather than a human project.

    Finally, I don't think guilt is always rational or proportionate - many of us feel very guilty for minor wrongs (like failing to recycle a plastic container) while others feel very little guilt for severe wrongs (like raping an unconscious woman at a party). My point is that guilt is a poor substitute for justice, and it's not clear that guilt that is felt is always deserved or appropriate. For example, many abuse victims blame themselves or feel guilt for things they never did wrong. The psychology of guilt is not consistent with a natural account of justice like karma tries to provide.

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  • I don't think karma in Eastern traditions is any less victim-blaming, particularly in contexts like Hinduism and Buddhism where it's used to explain away why poor people are poor, why people who suffer deserve to suffer, etc.

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  • FAFO is just "karma" re-articulated, it implies those who do wrong will receive consequences for their wrongness - it implies the universe is just and that innocent people don't get punished.

    Usually rather than admit that nature is not just, that innocent people get punished and hurt for no reason, people instead try to rationalize ways that victims "deserved" it.

    For example, the Buddha taught that with enough loving-kindness in your heart, you can become invulnerable to harm from animals, so when one of his monks died from a snake bite, he claimed the monk must have not had enough love and kindness in his heart for the snake to deserve being bitten.

    In reality, sometimes snakes act irrationally and bite people who aren't messing with them. This can happen because the snake was stressed by an unrelated event, or because of disease or illness (much like a dog can attack because of rabies).

    Ultimately karma is not just a lie, it's a system of gaslighting victims into believing they deserved the bad things that happened to them.

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  • hm, weird - I think it's just clogged, not broken - I'm able to suck hard enough to get it to eventually clear and heat up, and then it works fine

    I wouldn't call that broken as much as clogged - so I'm wondering how to clear the clog in more efficient / better ways, but it sounds like you're out of ideas?

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  • it's not about timing, when I try to suck it's clogged and it can't initiate heating at all - it's not like it's slow to heat, it just doesn't know to heat. So I have to suck really, really hard (to the point that it hurts), and suck for minutes before it finally clears enough that it can initiate heating (and then it works fine).

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  • there is no button :-(

    any tips on how to get it started?

    maybe there is some kind of device that can suck for me, or would be able provide more pressure?

    or maybe ways to heat the oil?

    Maybe I could like microwave dry rice or something and then stick the pen in the rice to pre-heat the pen?

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  • any idea on how to get it to heat up when it only starts to heat based on suction? I can't suck hard enough to get it going, it seems.

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  • who can say, really?

  • Optical illusion

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  • Particularly when a family member already owns a gun, or you personally already own a gun.

    I had guns for personal safety reasons, so suicide was always a single step away for me. (Which was quite dangerous because I incidentally owned guns when I was very suicidal, lol.)

    Also, for whatever reason, men have a much higher suicide rate and are much more likely to use a gun - they care a lot less about the mess they leave behind. Women on the other hand are much more likely to not end up killing themselves, and much more likely to use a method with less trauma and cleanup, like poisoning themselves.

    These might also be contributing factors for why the stats show far more people kill themselves with guns than by poisoning.

    Also, poisoning is a very risky form of suicide, high chance it will fail - you either don't take enough and then survive the poisoning (maybe you vomit up the drugs while you're unconscious, maybe a family member finds you and rushes you to the ER where they pump your stomach, etc.) - and often surviving a poisoning can leave you disabled, etc. You can survive a suicide attempt with a gun, I just think it's less common if executed correctly.

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  • My brain seems to wander when high - I find it hard to concentrate, and every single thought is so expansive - it can make it both enjoyable and also very difficult to read a book, for example. Everything is so suggestive, and makes a deeper impression.

    I can also get easily paranoid and anxious on cannabis - like I can get really scared that I won't know how to breathe right or that my tongue could suddenly choke me, etc. but also just like ... paranoid about other people and their intentions - I'll read a book and little ambiguities in the interpretation of the author's words can get me paranoid about whether the author is being ironic, or lying to me, or if they're being sincere or not, etc.

    Weird thoughts.

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  • I dunno, I've felt like full body geometric recursively folding-into-itself-and-expanding floral heart waves that felt like the immense happiness and love that I have for everyone in the world - but that was more like a feeling than a thought ...