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captainlezbian

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  • HISSSSSS

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  • That roller coaster is great though

    Those of us who've been up for a few hours at 6 are a mix of both

  • Do you ask polyamorous people they're polyamorous?

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  • I mostly just say that I'm poly when hitting on them. I'm married now so I mention that as well. They can respond as they wish

  • Do you ask polyamorous people they're polyamorous?

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  • I've watched some people fall out of it over the years, but plenty of others fall in. And some who fall out really just needed a break and get back into it

  • TIL Botox is considered the deadliest known natural substance ever recorded in chemical literature

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  • The deadliest non natural substance of course is one of those fluorine chemicals that rapidly oxidizes with even sand and glass

  • Postmaster General Confirms Plan to Hold Back Mail Ballots in States that won’t Share Voter Data

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  • We need to maintain the stance that the rules still exist and matter. They aren't being enforced, but if we hold on to them we can demand they get enforced in the future

  • Top Democrat seems sour after Mamdani-backed candidates oust House incumbents

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  • Compromise on everything. Go in stating a desire to compromise so republicans know they mean it. Hell, compromising before they even start talking to really show how serious they are.

  • 75% More Pedestrians Have Been Killed Since 2009. Giant Trucks and SUVs Are Why

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  • Epa didn't write that law, congress did. The Energy Tax Act was also congress.

    Epa also did a lot of good, destroying them was throwing the baby out with the bathwater.

    I want smaller vehicles too. But I'd prefer the air be clean and the environment not be poisoned with industrial waste in the process.

  • 75% More Pedestrians Have Been Killed Since 2009. Giant Trucks and SUVs Are Why

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  • It's largely the being glad the epa is gone and using ai as a source

    Cafe standards created a perverse incentive, that's not disputable by reasonable people. What is disputable is the EPA's involvement in this specific act of congress that was administered by the NHTSA.

  • 75% More Pedestrians Have Been Killed Since 2009. Giant Trucks and SUVs Are Why

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  • Wtf, why‽

  • Polymarket paid influencers to fake winning bets, built dummy websites to pull it off

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  • Except it's not, it's intentionally maintained around a set of rules. Those rules resulted in it growing into this shape

  • Is it okay to express your feelings for someone even if you don't think they reciprocate

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  • People do not appreciate having the love of people they don't feel the same towards. It's awkward and it feels like an obligation or expectation. It makes you overanalyze every interaction and want to pull back.

    "Hey, I've been developing some feelings for you and was wondering if you felt the same way?" - normal, low expectation, allows rejection or acceptance without pressure

    "I love you (and want a romantic relationship)" - intense and uncomfortable, high expectation, high pressure, may leave them wondering if you'll take no for an answer

  • Is it okay to express your feelings for someone even if you don't think they reciprocate

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  • Yeah, love is only for people you're in a relationship with and those you aren't seeking a relationship with. You can say you love your best friend, but if you start dating them, while the intensity of your feelings for each other may increase, the relationship is back to an early stage, just in a new track. You haven't built that track up enough for that word to feel safe and comfortable.

    When you're pining over a friend you're partly thinking of them in the romantic relationship track. This means professing love doesn't just come off as "I care deeply for you" or "I'm interested in romance", it comes off as "we're getting pretty serious in my head, you should get in on it."

    In general mismatched feelings are deeply uncomfortable and the more mismatched they are the less comfortable.

  • Is it okay to express your feelings for someone even if you don't think they reciprocate

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  • Good point, but it's also important to learn to flirt with it. I have good friends that I do all those things (except flirt) with, and it's entirely platonic (some I find attractive, but have no romantic intentions towards, others aren't my type).

  • Is it okay to express your feelings for someone even if you don't think they reciprocate

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  • It depends. I've been on the other side and I'm glad they told me, but we were good friends. But it is awkward and uncomfortable, it just in that case made it so it was mutually understood what was happening as we drifted apart, rather than leaving me wondering why and them wondering what if.

    Ultimately that's the thing, if it's probably a no, then you're more likely balancing a question of how much it needs to be said with how awkward you expect it to be, though likelihood of reciprocation is still a factor here, it's just that even at a definite no it may be worth it.

    Most importantly though is about making it clear you'll respect however they feel. I wish I didn't have to say that, but unfortunately some people need it said.

  • Residents who live near data centers say a constant low-frequency vibration is ruining their health and homes

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  • We need an anarchist Mr. Rogers. Just someone pure of heart to talk to kids about taking care of their neighbors no matter what the government says. Little everyday lessons in consensus and how to deal with the conflicts that arise when different people have different big feelings. How everyone is special just for being themselves and we should encourage our neighbors to be their unique selves.

  • ‘You are all that matters to me’: White House aide left adoring notes for Trump in ‘private spaces’, new book reveals

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  • I don't know how anyone could not consider it a mistake (which doesn't imply it wasn't consensual, just that it wasn't a good idea). She was lambasted on national television for years. It hindered her ability to find work. It had a massive negative impact on her life.

  • A Microsoft researcher built a goat-powered LLM in Age of Empires II to prove it's not sentient

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  • No instances are liked in general, but the Canadian and Australian ones aren't disliked by anyone in particular

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  • Lesbian here, meh I'll accept the antibiotics if need be.

    Like, they're a good idea, but imo sex is for passion, not wisdom

  • Cops Keep Getting Arrested for Using Flock to Stalk People

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  • Nemo