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blarghly

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  • Why are we OK with doctors and nurses working double or triple shifts?

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  • I think basically everyone, if you ask them directly, would agree with you. The issue is cost disease. In order to continue attracting workers to the medical profession, institutions must raise wages. Raised wages means more cost for the institution. But no medical institution gets a blank check to run its operations. So institutions are constantly looking for ways to save money, which often means hiring fewer people and making their existing workers work longer hours.

  • Am I broken, or am I saying the quiet part out loud?

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  • I will also chime in and say - this is totally fucking normal.

    The modern media and social environment are very sex negative. Of course, it pays lip service to sex positivity - but go find a piece of popular media where the protagonist has lots of sex and enjoys it and doesn't go through a character arc of "getting over 'meaningless' sex" and realizing it is all about wholesome, feel-good, family friendly looooove.

    And then, here you are on lemmy, a left leaning online space, where male sexual desire especially tends to be demonized. You may have noticed that women tend to have "kinks", like D/s, praise, or impact play, which are fun and sexy, while men tend to have fetishes, like feet, or asians, or certain ages, which are weird and gross and "problematic".

    And if you go searching for some positive interpretation of your sexuality, or help in working through your issues, you will most likely end up in the manosphere, which.... uhhhh.... yeah, don't even look.

    So let me be someone who will tell you - you're fucking fine. This is normal. You're a guy. You wanna fuck hot girls. This is the most normal thing in the world. If you see a hot girl, look at her, appreciate her hotness, be grateful you got to enjoy it, and move on with your day. The fact is, women go to great lengths to stay in shape, take care of their skin, and wear sexy clothes because they want men to look at them. Of course, this being Lemmy, there is a high probability that someone will come in with the nonsense about "it's about self expression"/"X isn't inherently sexual"/"it's the pATriARcHy!!!!". BULLSHIT! Women dress up hot so that people will look at them and see how hot they are. You know how I know? Because dozens of women I know in real life have told me literally exactly this. They tell me they're going to the gym to get a huge ass. They tell me they wore this form fitting crop top to show off their boobs. They tell me they noticed me looking at their cleavage and liked it. I even had one female friend complain about "what is wrong with men these days?" because she went for a jog in the park in a sports bra and yoga pants and didn't get a single wolf whistle (note: I do not recommend wolf whistleing, and this friend is kinda weird - I just bring it up to illustrate my larger point). Women like it when attractive guys notice and appreciate their own attractiveness! Even if they are in a relationship or not looking for anything now or don't feel like talking to anyone in that moment, most people still like it when they feel like other people think they are hot.

    All the complaints you see online are about unattractive and unfiltered guys staring at women. The obese, unshaved, bald guy in his mid 50s with ketchup stains down his shirt who stares at a girl's tits for 15 minutes? Yeah, not many women like that. Why? Because

    1. Staring at her tits implies sex, and she has a visceral reaction of disgust when she imagines having sex with this man, and
    2. Because he is staring at her tits without regard for who might notice, he is demonstrating a lack of social acuity that might imply other social deviance - like an openness to raping her. So she feels scared.

    But if you, at the very least, dress and groom yourself like you give a shit, and then only give big ol' titties a passing glance, then the vast majority of women will either not care (it's normal) or take it as a small compliment.

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  • "Oops, we reinvented downs syndrome"

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  • Who wants their kid to be the one that gets the random mutation injection?

  • Has there ever been an industry that's been "enshittified" and then un-"enshittified"?

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  • Beer, too

  • What are some stereotypes you know of for weird groups you're a part of?

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  • I'm a climber who has been skydiving once. I understand the appeal of an adrenaline sport, but I also understand that you get used to any adrenaline rush quick enough.

    In climbing, I like the aspect of staying composed under pressure. You quest into the unknown, and must solve whatever problem is presented to you, whether it is techy footwork or tricky gear or puzzling ropework or committing to a pumpy runout.

    When I went skydiving, I felt the rush of adrenaline. But I didn't really see anywhere to go from there. You jump, fall, deploy the chute, land. I felt like if I picked it up as a hobby, I would get bored pretty quickly. Unless I got into something like paragliding or wingsuiting, where you are actually able to explore and interact with the landscape.

    So what keeps you interested after the adrenaline is gone? What's the progression?

  • How do you do, fellow kids?

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  • yeah, I have no proof and have done no research, but my guess is that in the earlier photos he is a chef, and in the latter photos he is a celebrity chef.

    Chefs work long hours and late nights in an extremely stressful job. They are renouned for their habits of heavy drinking and chain smoking. Stress, poor sleep, drinking, and smoking, all contribute to premature aging.

    But celebrity chefs must look good. This isn't to say their job isnt stressful - but there is an additional pressure put on them to look good for the camera, because while your mom might love you no matter what, people watching tv mostly wanna look at pretty people. Enter: professional skin care routines, botox, personal chefs, personal lifestyle coaches, professional hair stylists, personal assistants, style consultants, and hair and makeup anytime you go out in public. Any celebrity who still gives a shit about their career and public image has a small army of people dedicated to keeping them looking as young and hot as possible for as long as possible.

    Hence the apparent reverse aging effect. A combination of having a low starting point, and then making significant improvements in both health and aesthetics.

  • Is India, Asia and the third world facing a mass die off event?

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  • I feel like I don't understand what you are saying. Could you rephrase?

  • Is India, Asia and the third world facing a mass die off event?

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  • I mean, probably not. Humans tend to not want to die. So they will stick with these problems for a while, but if people keep dying, the rest will not just sit there and wait to die. They will move somewhere else and figure it out.

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  • Carpool

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  • I mean, that's the thing - complaining doesn't get you anywhere. Sure, you can identify problems, but for anything to get better you have to get off your ass and actually fix them.

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  • Capitalism.

  • TIL that reading scores have plummeted in school districts around the U.S.

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  • No offense to society

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  • What should I use to replace my phone in my car?

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  • That would be nice, but not practical for me.

  • What should I use to replace my phone in my car?

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  • Yeah, that was essentially what I was looking at. But I've never really used one, and don't know how much access it would give me to the rest of my phone. Like, will it relay text messages and phone calls? Because I don't want that.

    And then I would wonder which make/model to buy. I'm a cheap bastard - but I still am willing to pay a bit more for something that is useable and durable, rather than something that will constantly piss me off. And we all know online reviews are full of lies.

    Finally, is paying for spotify just the way to go these days? I've been avoiding it by using newpipe for years, but newpipe doesn't have radio-like functionality to just pick a station and listen.

  • What do you think about gambling?

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  • My friends and I occasionally have poker nights, and its a lot of fun. Its funny how stakes of $5 or $20 - just a few dollars or cents at most for most hands - make a game much more exciting.

    The problem is the casinos and sports betting apps...

  • How do people pull off being chill and alert at the same time?

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  • I don't think anyone is really chill and alert at the same time. We have two entirely different nervous systems dedicated to these tasks.

    What is actually happening is that people are feeling their fear or nerves or whatever, and acting anyway. And while it isn't an especially pleasant thing to get better at, it isn't very complicated - just keep putting yourself in scary situations. The more you experience fear and nervousness, the less control it has over your actions. You just get used to it.

  • No offense to society

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  • My point being - the fact that you are posting on here, a social media site, filled with people, is proof positive that you do not actually want to live a completely isolated life.

    If you actually wanted a life without people, you would also be giving up pretty much everything on the internet, as well as all books, movies, tv, and music, as these are also forms of interacting with people.