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  • What's one giant LIE that's frequently taught in schools as a lesson?

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  • I was also taught these things in the south, living in North Florida. As part of a 1 semester Florida history class in middle school, we also went into each of the spanish conquistadors and how they murdered their way across the continent.

  • What is your preference for TV sizes (bed side, living room, kitchen, etc.)?

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  • Bedroom: 0. Watching tv before bed throws off circadian rhythm.

    Kitchen: 0. Kitchen is for cooking, not tv.

    Living room: 0. Why would you want a distraction when you have guests over?

  • For those who has learnt English as second language (or native speakers, what are some interesting phrases that stuck with you?

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  • If you didn't know, biting the bullet doesnt mean killing yourself. It comes from back in the day when soldiers would be given a bullet to bite down on while they got their leg amputated. Which is kind of even more gruesome

  • What's one IP (Show, Movie, Game .etc) that has both a extremely toxic fandom and an extremely toxic hatedom?

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  • It was a pretty good children's tv show aimed at young girls.

    Some terminally online dudes, probably due to the over-the-top girlie nature of the show, start to watch it so they can make fun of it. Then some of the terminally online dudes realize that it is halfway decent - but more importantly, realize they can get a funnier reaction by trolling the haters with the show's strong points. This attracts more dudes who arent necessarily trolls, so much as they have a deeply seated need to be contrarian - the fact that this show was very clearly not made for them drives them to want to watch it, and they find community with the other pathologically contrarian online dudes who also watch it for the same reason.

    Hence, there are two parallel fandom/hatedoms. The primary - little girls and terminally online dudes hating on a tv show made for little girls. And then the bronies and brony-haters. The existance of brony-haters being completely unsurprising because that was the point of watching the show in the first place - after all, there are other tv shows. There are better tv shows. And there is always the option to simply watch a tv show you like and then not make fanfic art about it and not bring it up in conversation in your college dorm room. The underlying motivation of the brony was never to simply enjoy watching a tv show, but to watch a tv show that other people didn't want them to enjoy, and therefore to piss people off by enjoying it. And so the existance of the brony haters isnt so much a bug of the brony community, nor a feature, but the whole point.

  • Have you ever felt social cringe so bad that you kind of want to die? Why is that?

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  • I played Jurassic Park Danger! and it was so bad that now I want to kill myself

    ^ review you should leave on their website.

    Anyway.... suicide is almost always comorbid with feelings of social ostracism (or simply outright insanity). People don't typically kill themselves because they are miserable - a person with two broken legs will spend days crawling across a barren landscape to find food, water, and medical attention with the hope of continuing to live. But have that person lose their 10 million dollar company after an accusation of child molestation that causes all their friends and family to shun them, and you have a different story.

    I have two theories.

    First, humans naturally want to help other humans in need. If you were walking through the forest looking for harvestable tubers, and you came upon a healthy adult, you might be wary and suspicious. But if they are clearly limping along on a broken foot and falling over from hunger, your fight or flight response reduces and you feel pangs of sympathy and a desire to help. Hence, when someone is socially ostricized, the thing that will gain them sympathy is acting hurt. And what better way to act hurt than to actually be hurt?

    Second, humans are social animals and feel an intrinsic sense of fairness and justice in our social groups. So if a group ostricizes a memeber, self harm may be a natural way to show penance for their transgressions. A way of admitting "I know I did the wrong thing, I am so sorry that I am willing to harm myself."

    In either case, the brain develops patterns of thought leading to self harm and suicide attempts. Importantly, suicide attempts should be dramatic and obvious, but should fail. A successful suicide would be biologically disadvantageous.

  • Phone saleman

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  • Why not find a hobby that keeps you intellectually and socially active? And physically, for that matter.

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  • Wtf are you talking about?

    Looking at the thread you linked, it seems like this is some pretty in the weeds drama. And it is driven by a single dev. So I'm confused by how you think this is some society-wide trend.

    Isn’t that the same as saying that one values a pen more than the author who uses it to write something down?

    I feel like your analogy is flawed. As a consumer, I don't care about the pen or the author, really. I care about the book.

  • Phone saleman

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  • Growing old alone must suck.

    My goal: don't do that

  • Oh I like this

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  • "Did you just like your own comment?"

    It was a good comment

  • When someone close to you likes a deceased celebrity who you know has some controversy/allegations, do you tell them about it or let sleeping dogs lie?

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  • Sure, why not?

  • When someone close to you likes a deceased celebrity who you know has some controversy/allegations, do you tell them about it or let sleeping dogs lie?

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  • Do you like Mozart? He was probably racist.

  • Visiting my midwestern home state reminded me

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  • I know several nurses. They are all quite clear that you simply get used to the ick after a few times, and you mostly don't socialize with patients. Its like working a customer service job (because it is!) - you will have so many patients cycling in and out that they just become faceless stats on the chart. You don't remember someone unless they are particularly memorable in some way. Which, 99% of the time, means they are particularly fucked up, or unpleasant to be around. You tend to try your best to show up for the former, because thats where you work on the really interesting stuff and the patient is usually sedated. And you tend to try to get the latter out of the way as quickly as possible, since most people don't tend to like hearing the rants of a senile nazi or being masturbated on by a homeless schizophrenic. As they tell it, that is one of the two main drawbacks - dealing with the people that no one wants to deal with. Polite, normal people don't need your people skills - they tell you information and fill out a form and play on their phone, because they are polite and normal.

    The other drawback is the schedule. A lot of my nursing friends got into the job expressly because the schedule lets them do things like have an 8 day weekend regularly. But the problem is that: (1) A large portion of nurses work the night shift, or worse, an inconsistent night-and-day schedule - especially early in their career. This destroys your circadian rhythm, and most people need to plan a day or two just to flip back from night to day. (2) Your schedule doesn't line up with your friends'. Their weekends are not your weekends. Their nights out are your workdays. So your social life tends to shift towards people who also work a non-standard schedule - but that's still hard because your schedule is unpredictable. Everyone's schedule constantly shifts to cover everyone elses sick days, since there is essentially no slack in department scheduling - the hospital doesnt want to pay someone to sit on their hands just in case someone is out sick, so everyone has to work erratic schedules. (3) Because your schedule is always changing and your shifts are 12 hours long, it is quite difficult to really stay consistent with anything else in your life. Want to make a habit of running or lifting every morning? Want to make a home-cooked meal for dinner every night (night? What's night?)? Well, it is going to cut into your sleep schedule.

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    What do you think, if our civilization is destroyed globally, what will the people of the future blame us for?

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  • Probably the destruction of civilization.

    Then nothing, as the generations pass and the wreckage of our civilization becomes a simple fact of life rather than a great tragedy.

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    "Happens in life, happens in movies, happens in TNT"

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  • Yeah, I also dont get it. TNT?

  • Tried 5 Skills, Quit All 5 — What Am I Missing?

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  • Source: I read it once on the internet.

  • Tried 5 Skills, Quit All 5 — What Am I Missing?

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  • 1% reply rate on cold outreach is totally normal. You are basically spamming people. Do you reply to spam?

    3 problems:

    1. I dont see you say anywhere that you have a portfolio. You need a portfolio to show off to potential employers what you can actually do in these fields.
    2. You say you quit in the boring middle part. Well... don't. People who go to school for graphic design go to school for years - even if the schooling isnt perfect, it is better than kind of aimlessly tooling around for a few weeks.
    3. You don't have any connections. Like you noticed, your cold outreach response rate is abysmal. Of course it is. If a random stranger walked up to you on the street and asked if you want to be friends, you would probably be quite hesitant. But if you meet through a mutual friend, at a party, or in a hobby club, you will be much more interested in meeting them. 80% of jobs are never posted on online job boards, because they are filled via informal social connections.

  • Women, how do you feel when men or women glance at your boobs?

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  • In left-leaning spaces with strong feminist influences like Lemmy, it is 100% a legitimate question. For the past several decades in these online spaces (and longer in certain real-life spaces), the constant refrain has been that heterosexual male sexuality is bad.

    It is very reasonable for a chronically online heterosexual male lemming with little real world experience of sex and the culture of sex to feel like their sexuality is bad, and completely normal feelings and impulses they have are bad.

    For example, imagine the community reaction if this post were hetero.

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    need ur opinion

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  • I mean like getting into higher paid and more respected positions in my industry. And then the things I wanted were more flexibility, more time off, working with people I liked, and seeing my work make the world a better place.

    The model I had in my head was that more pay or prestige would either require or result in less of the other things I wanted. You had to trade flexibility or good coworkers and bosses in order to make more money.

    Now, I think you can make that tradeoff if you want to. But I also think that, in general, the best way to get the higher paycheck is by assuming it also comes with making the world a better place and working with good people.

  • Men Hit The Wall Twice As Often As Women, 873,000-Runner Berlin Study Finds

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  • men more often [...] tolerate higher risk in competitive contexts.

    This was de-emphasized in the study, as the study didn't look into psychological factors at all - but it squares with my understanding.

    A typical woman, eg, may have her splits and race to her splits, resulting in a predictable result.

    A typical man, otoh, may have his splits but then -consciously or subconsciously - he will gamble that the excitement of race day will give him the boost he needs to achieve an excellent result. So he's more likely to blow up in the second half. It would be interesting to know how often the gamble pays off, too