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@ ada @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Admin of lemmy.blahaj.zone

I can also be found on the microblog fediverse at @ada@blahaj.zone or on matrix at @ada:chat.blahaj.zone

  • Improving the Fediverse to allow it to actually take over the social media space.

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  • Peertube and pixelfed have that built in to the individual instances. It is something I'd like to see more widespread

  • Improving the Fediverse to allow it to actually take over the social media space.

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  • Most platforms have their "join lemmy" or "join Mastodon" equivalents already

  • Improving the Fediverse to allow it to actually take over the social media space.

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  • Gateways that ease the pain of entrance to the fediverse are a good thing. A single, centralised gateway that defacto controls all access to the fediverse is exactly what I'm trying to get away from

  • Improving the Fediverse to allow it to actually take over the social media space.

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  • From my perspective, that's not something I'd use, or at least, it wouldn't have been much use to me when I was a young closeted queer person in small town Australia. It wouln't have been much help finding my peers

  • That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing

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  • All I read in these threads is effectively "WAAAH I don't WANNA pay!"... Without realizing that the payment gave them something significantly more secure.

    I've never used Plex, but the thing that stopped me from looking at it isn't that it's a paid service. It's that it's partially centralised, and starting to become hostile to its user base. This current change, locking down a previously free feature being an iconic example of that.

    My partner and I fund two decently sized fediverse instances and a matrix instance mostly out of our own pockets. We do that precisely because we have both actively chosen to move away from centralised, user hostile social media platforms. And whilst Plex isn't a social media platform, it is centralised and becoming more user hostile, and I won't pay for that.

    (And to be clear, I'm front of house, I'm not responsible for setting up our instances security :P)

  • That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing

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  • Put it behind a reverse proxy!

  • That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing

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  • I guess I haven't noticed that. The non technically literate folk I know use smart TVs, or can download Jellyfin from an app store. Then they just use the URL when the app asks for it.

    There's no other configuring to do on their end.

  • That's all folks, Plex is starting to charge for sharing

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  • As long as the technical person does all of the setup on their end, the non technical person only has to enter a domain and port in their jellyfin client.

  • A load of mastodon users think groups are just autoboost accounts.

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  • That's because from a mastodon perspective, that's what they are!

    They're basically the same thing as gup.pe groups to them

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  • Hey, I'm not a grandma yet!

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  • The opposite happened to me when I transitioned. When I was perceived as a guy, if I was in a meeting, people didn't instantly fall silent if I spoke, but if they tried to overtalk me and I just kept speaking, they would eventually give way. I transitioned 8 years ago, and from the earliest days of my transition until now, if someone starts overtalking me, they will just keep doing it even if I don't stop talking. The only way to stop them is to vocally call them out and ask them to be quiet until I'm finished.

    Similarly, I used to be seen as one of the two "tech guys". The person that people would come up to and ask for tech advice to avoid calling the internal helpdesk. After I transitioned, they started coming up to me and asking me where the other tech guy is.

    My career has stalled since I came out. I'm in a trans inclusive country, in a trans inclusive workplace, and I transitioned so long ago, that most people don't know that I'm trans or simply forget. But since coming out, the various shoulder taps in to project opportunities and the like just don't happen anymore.

    Maybe people went silent because they were fascinated by or fixated on the unusual timbre of the OP’s transitioned vocal cords.

    It's a nice theory, but it's somewhat strange how my own experience as a trans person transitioning from male to female had the opposite impact. Did people start overtalking me because they were fascinated by my timbre?

    Additionally, OP was in the same department for years and then transitioned. So, naturally people would approach a more experienced person for help or advice regardless of perceived sex if they knew that person was there longer than them.

    Again, it's a nice theory, but in my case, they stopped approaching me. And even the ones who don't know that I'm trans don't approach me that way, because I'm not seen as one of the "tech folk" anymore, despite not losing my experience when I transitioned.

    but OP seems to be using the worst possible anecdotes

    Similarly, you are using the least likely possibilities that contradict the first hand experience of folk directly in these scenarios to fit your pre-conceived notion of what is happening.

    Yeah, the OPs post and mine are anecdotal, so you shouldn't take either of our experiences as universal truths. But your takes aren't even anecdotal. They're suppositions.

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    TIL Heroes tend to just be well-adjusted people who learned to feel empathy as children, often from caring and patient parents

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  • Empathy being a sign of privilege isn't the truth I needed to read today :/

  • Endurain is a self-hosted fitness tracking service designed to give users full control over their data and hosting environment

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  • Is it federated/does it have social elements?

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    No background, AMA

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  • Did you deliberatelyskip the background section when you were doing character creation or was it accidental? Do you regret this character configuration? Would you create the same character if you were starting again?

  • A 'US-Made iPhone' Is Pure Fantasy

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  • Yes, I can hear you Clem Fandango

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  • Hey. I'm learning Spanish, I'm a volunteer, and I run and cycle on the regular!

    Somehow, that doesn't stop you sounding like a bigot though...

  • FediForum Has Been Canceled

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  • btw I am not downvoting you

    My instance doesn't have downvotes, so it makes no difference to me. They're disabled precisely because they get

    My argument is that the discussion around the nature of sex is irrelevant to promoting transphobia. The far right (English-language or otherwise) will find something else to latch on to.

    Yes and no. I transitioned 8 years ago. Before the current wave of transphobia had settled on us for politcal gain. And transphobes were around then. The same arguments were around then. However, the only people who used those arguments and the only time those discussions came up, was when transphobes were talking about trans folk. What wasn't happening then, was regular folk, unconnected to the trans and gender diverse community, weighing on on what their opinions on sex and gender were. Mostly, folk didn't even distinguish between sex and gender.

    What has changed since then, is the politics. And yeah, the politicians didn't come up with these arguments out of thing air. They didn't create the transphobia. But what they did was popularise and normalise it, and that is the reason that a Ukranian is arguing with an Australian, about the actions of a transphobic American.

    The fact that you (and I) are having this conversation, or that you're even aware of the topic enough to have strong opinions on it, is absolutely shaped by the transphobic political environment around the world.

    Forget Ukraine, what about say Pakistan or India or Uzbekistan?

    That's the point I was making! You're talking about sex using absolutes. I'm saying there are no absolutes. Sex has multiple definitions, some are cultural, some are physical, some are genetic, some are medical, some are legal. And they all overlap, and they often contradict each other. There is no clear cut definition of sex that can apply a consistent standard. The cultural contexts you highlight are actively a part of the reason that is so!

    You are welcome to disagree with me and say I am wrong in my understanding of the binary nature of sex. It is what is. I am just trying to show you that my worldview has a level of nuance and it's not a mere matter of wanting "neat solutions" while ignoring the weaponization of this discussion by the English-speaking far right.

    To be honest, your reasons don't matter. What matters is that you are parroting the arguments actively used by the transphobic folk, in a time when trans folk are facing ever growing abuse. The fact that you think you have good reasons for holding those opinions doesn't change the fact that in this environment, choosing to share those opinions, especially in the context of arguing with folk actively pushing back against transphobia, isn't harmless.

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  • We are not discussing the strategies used by the far right to demonize trans folk (or anyone else). We are discussing something completely different that has no bearing on the strategies used by the far right.

    Yes we are. The only reason these discussions come up in the first place is because of that.

    You thinking that this has nothing to do with the far right doesn't make it so. Normalising the idea that sex is black and white, and conversations about that only occur in a wide spread way because there is political reward in presenting things that way. 10 years ago you weren't having these discussions. Today, you are, because the politics of transphobia has made it happen.

    You are the one who claimed that I was diverting in to irrelevancy. I bring up the political context, because it's not irrelevant.

    This whole conversation, the thread you are talking in, exists, because a transphobe was using the same talking points you are arguing for, to normalise transphobia. You doing it, also normalises transphobia, whether that is your intent or not.

    You want a sex binary to exist. It doesn't, unless you smooth away the edges and ignore some of the data and the lived realities of people. Evolutionary biologists don't share your perspective. Geneticists don't share your perspective. This whole conversation exists for political reasons, designed to push exclusion. In a topic about a person using these exact talking points to push for exclusion, you have arrived, repeated the talking points, and then tried to argue that actually, it's ok, because your perspective is correct, so long as we ignore some of the details.

    Which is exactly what the next transphobe will do too.

    Even if you don't agree with me, and to you, this is all about the purity of ideas, your choice of getting involved in this discussion, in this context, isn't removed from reality. It's not detached. It's actively empowering the exclusionary voices by talking over and fighting with the people pushing back against that exclusion. That's a choice you made that has nothing to do with the truth of your idea